BD'ing my butt off--whose in it for November??

[bazzb]

Awww nik I am so sorry!! Match.com wtf????
I don't blame you honey I would have kicked him out as well
If he decides to get help than maybe you can consider trying again

Always here for you xoxo

 

[gnomette]

Aww nikki I am sorry match.com is a really shitty thing to do xx hugs always xx

 

[mtln777]

Nikki~I completetly understand as I said I would!!!!!! Match.com????? WTF is right.......Exactly who does he think he is??? My heart goes out to u and ur kiddo's..... I know this is not an easy decision for you but ssometimes you do have to let go when it interfere's with your everyday living as I see Mike has.....I have been through all of this and understand what U are going thru..As before I didn't realize the extent of it and was just offering what was best for your family...The puzzles pieces have seemed to fall aprt and Mike has no one to blame but himself!!!!! Maybe he will miss your "life" and everything ur sweet little ass has to offer. Remeber you are a GREAT person and have a lot to give....We sure love u lots and we don't really know u lots of love and hugs we'll be here to pick u up when ur feeling down!!!! That I can promise Tara

 

[mtln777]

Naomi~would this be the start of the TWW????? I think I did evrything I could but I REFUSE to get my hopes up...... How do u feel about it?? xoxoxo

Heather oh heather oh where r u??????

 

[Dollybird]

Happy v day to me and jess!!!! Woohoo!! Xxx

Hope you ladies are all well, and hope you're bearing up ok nikki. Had a friend who caught her hubby on match.com.. He said it was just a laugh and wouldn't it do it again but the git got caught using it a couple of times. Lets hope for mike it was just a moment of madness- which perhaps it was.. Gotta have some faith in that cause although it was wrong he maybe just made a stupid mistake that he won't make again, but I agree he needs to get his act together. Really wish we could all be there to give u a hug xxx

 

[gnomette]

Yeh 2ww now hun I never feel confident when I am in the 2ww lol just gotta keep that little bit of hope lol I
nikki hunny I hope your ok as you can be xx

 

[bazzb]

Naoimi yay for tww!

I got my first high on my cbfm today!

 

[bazzb]

Happy v day ladies!!!

 

[mackjess]

We made it Dolly!!

FX for your 2WW! Hope it flies by to a BFP.

 

[Womble12]

Aw nikki, big hugs. Match.com, wtf indeed. This may sound harsh but even if it was a one off mistake, after the drinking thing, I wouldn't put up with it for sake of you and kids. Maybe I'm not as forgiving as others. I'm sorry hun xxx hope you are ok xx

Yaaaaay for v day, amazing ))))))

And now for tww and highs on cbfm, today is a good day for you 3!!!!

Heather, are you ok?

And..... Ive felt flutters since Friday, and hubby felt a kick yesterday, happy happy day!!

 

[Dollybird]

Thanks ladies! Oh Sophie that's lovely news about your wriggly bubba! My hubby still not felt this wee man move yet- he always seems to
Miss it I'm sure once bubs gets bigger though he'll get the chance.
Bailey woooowooo for the high on your monitor!! An I right that the high comes jut before the peak?? Seems like you are right on track for a nice normal cycle though!
Naomi lots of for your tww!! Hoping its a fruitful one.
Afm well I was feeling better this morning but made the huge mistake of going to the shops- felt like I was gonna pass out. So back home and jammas it is. Always worried hubby gonna get fed up with me though- I was always quite nicely dressed and made up before and now I'm constantly in jammas and slobbing about looking a mess... But I just have no energy! He never seems bothered though.. And actually I think he likes my prgnancy "curves"... Or at least his little wandering hands appear to! Hahaha xxx

 

[MommyNikki]

I just want to thank everyone for the support. It helps having people to keep you grounded somewhat because I tend to be my own worst enemy, ESP when I have any free time on my hands. A lot of things have been running through my mind and I often question my decision but its not just a question if I want to be with him..it's more does he want to be with me, and so far he has not shown that and the whole match.com thing just made it worse.

For all the ladies reaching v-day congrats!! Our journey is more than half way done! The ladies in tww and ntnp, I'm hoping your enjoying all the extra bd'ing and pray you get your stickies

 

[gnomette]

Happy v day jess an Jenna x
Nikki has he said anything about the whole match.com thing? Thing is if it was me it would be enough that I didn't feel wanted/loved that I would not want to stay anyway an would probably have ended it an the thing with the alcohol is just making it worse x
my theory is always happy mummy = kiddies an it may take a wile but at the end of the day that's what matters

 

[mackjess]

Nikki - You always have support here. Part of the issue may be you think he has a drinking problem and want him to quit, but because he is dependent he wants/needs alcohol, and the alcohol is telling him that you are in the way of him and drinking. If he cleans up his act or wants help, in a non-manipulative way, I would still be there, but he has to realize the booze is controlling his life. If he can get back into control of things who knows what it could mean for the both of you. Until then, you are right to think about your babies and yourself first. Hang in there.

So for the rest of ya'll, I'm only day 1/2 into your 2WWs and a few days into the new cycles, and I can barely stand the anticipation!!

 

[MommyNikki]

I talked to him a little bit today...about the match.com thing, he just said again that he had trust issues and that he was trying to catch me on there...I know thats bs but whatever, I guess I will never know the real reason. He didnt have any emails on there and nothing really set up with the profile so who knows. I just wanna explain to everyone that his problem with drinking isnt that he drinks everyday...he doesnt do that, but when he does drink, he doesnt stop and then he starts lying about when hes coming home or ends out all night. I dont think hes a cheater at all but it all becomes a problem to me because we have little kids and a family and he should be home at night time. It would be different if he specifically had something planned...like "im going out with the guys friday" or something like that...but it ends up being like Easter where hes only supposed to be going over to his sisters for a couple hours and then im calling at 11 trying to find out why my son isnt home in bed, and hes drunk. Im very protective of my kids and in addition to that, my name is on that truck that we still owe 10k on...so its very stressful thinking that something could happen to my baby or my only means of transportation, not to mention something happen to Mike. I am feeling very conflicted tho since all of this...Tara, part of me feels like your right that I should have stood by my man, esp if he has a problem because I understand now that if I thought he was going to help himself or change while having him kicked out of the house...that was probably foolish thinking. We, if anything, were the only things keeping him grounded, and I kinda left him down and out right now. I know how it feels to be down and out and Im sure it would only want to make someone drink more. I was wrong for doing that. On the other hand of things, Its hard to be neglected emotionally and its hard when he sees that something bothers me so much and then keeps doing the same things.

I guess I just need more time to think on it I guess. I need to consider im not just making this decision for me, but for 3 other ppl as well...

 

[Womble12]

Nikki, just cause he's gone now, doesn't mean it can't be repaired. But as the others have said, he needs to want to do it, you can't make him. And this may be the reality check he needed to realise if he wants you and the kids, he can't carry on. Agree it may make him think screw it, I'll just drink more, but if that's the case he doesn't want to stop. He may need some time to come to the realisation of what he'll be missing out on. But if he does turn more to drink, its not your fault. He needs professional help and you can't risk the welfare of you and your kids & you're pregnant too, you have got to be selfish at this very moment. Its so so hard and you are being very brave, but in a way he should know that now is not the time to be drinking and carrying on as he is whilst your pregnant. Man I probably sound like a right bitch, sorry if I do. But its not like you haven't given him a chance, & from what you've said, it doesn't found like he's made much effort to change, but sorry if I've misinterpreted that. He can still come back and be husband and dad but hes gotta want it. Either way, look after yourself and try not to stress as your babies need you xxxx

 

[Womble12]

Jenna, how you feeling today? When you next working?

I also can't stand your 2ww! I'm excited for you all!!!!! I make myself laugh, I'm like come on bfp!!!!! Bailey, can't wait to see your high either if it happens this month!! Woohoo!!!

Can I ask a question, after a flurry of flutters over the weekend, I've had nothing since yesterday morning, is that normal, to not feel anything for a day or so? I also kinda feel like my period is due, but I think that is normal about now, I think?

 

[Dollybird]

Hey Sophie! In still bunged up but much better than I was. Gonna have another quiet day in the house today (feel like I'm becoming a hermit!) but I think it's necessary! Yeh it normal to have quiet days. My wee one is sometimes kicking pretty much non stop for a couple of days, then I have a day where I barely feel him. Apparently it's normal for them to rest of they are having a growth spurt or it could be that they've turned around to face the back. I don't think it's a worry at this stage although I've seen others say otherwise. For me though I think ill only worry if I feel no movement at all or very little for more than a day. Xxx

 

[Pray2bBlessed]

Sophie, I think movement is hit or miss right now. Once you get farther along, like 28 weeks or so the kicking is more constant because the baby is getting so big it has less room. And for feeling like your period is due, I'm assuming you mean cramping, I am having some too, and I think it's just the uterus stretching.

Jenna, I hope you get better soon!

AFM - I have my sono tomorrow afternoon! I am so excited to see our baby! We are taking Mikey so he can see his little sis or bro. But we still won't know the gender till our reveal party on the 13th, it's going to be so hard waiting!

 

[mtln777]

Hello girlies, hope everyone is well today!!!!

Amanda~I can't believe you are going to make US wait til the 13th...lol How has the heart beat been sounding??? Washing machine or galloping?? The theory has proved right so far......

Nikki~Hope you are holding up ok and just wanted you to know I was thinking of ya and sending extra hugs lots of love xoxoxo

Jenna~I'm ready for a bump pix If your being a hermit then may as well show us the bump lol Hope you are getting to feel better xoxoxo

Does anyone know what happened to Heather?????????????

Naomi~ I guess the TWW begins, now I O'd later then usual by my own signs cuz, I haven't OPK'd in a bit.......Now I got AF on 3/7 so we will see what this month brings.....

Soph and Jess u both can join Jenna and bring on a bump pix Puuuuuuuulllllllllleeeeeeezzzzz lol those babes are growing like weeds I cannot believe how far along you all are seems like yesterday I joined the board and met my BESTEST internet stranger friends...

Bailey~Hope all is well and ur getting ur nding in not sure where u are in ur cycle I forgot

AFM~ I am not getting my hopes up to high and WILL NOT BE TESTING ANYTIME SOON so all of u POAS addicts be prepared I won't cave Rather a proper BFP then a BFP followed by AF, that is just to much for me to handle....Chemical's are the WORST and was quite a bad pettern for me.. I did have some weird feelings the last couple days???? kinda cramp herre and there and also my 7yr old woke up monday am and said mommy I had a dream you had a baby???? weird cuz when I got pregnant in AUgust she said the same thing and that's what prompted me to test....So maybe she is my little psychic lol

I hope the rest of this week flies by cuz kiddo's are out of school and the cold weather has returned and I'm soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo done with it..Please bring on the warm weather... Cabin fever in this house which makes for the girls to be OIL and WATER.....

Lots of love and hugs and if I left anyone out I'm sorry nothing but love for ALLLLLLLLLL of u....xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo Tara