Beach Bumps - July Rainbows

[A1983]

Ahhh Dolly I can completely sympathise-my mw before my move to Bath sounds just like yours-dismissive and makes your questions seem silly and brushes them off leaving you feeling completely different to the positive person you were when you first walked in the room. However-I did question my fundal measurement about 4 week ago as he was measuring small with no growth for 2weeks acaccording to fundal measurement-she documented it as him being transverse but that didn't settle my concerns, so I asked to be seen a week later which she agreed to, although I could tell reluctantly. He suddenly measured fine then. Anyway ive been seeing a mw every 2 weeks as is documented in my maternity records book-does yours show this page? If I wanted a growth scan I would not give up until I got one-I full understand how hard it is when you're made to feel like you're making a fuss but as you say-professionals make mistakes and stuff them! Explain your reasons and say it's not as if you're 20 weeks or will be requesting more scans-its just one and it's important for peace of mind at least as the funda mmeasurements are known to be so changeable and subjective. If that fails go privately-will cost about £60. But you shouldn't have to go privately. I'm seeing my mw at 36 weeks with an appointment around then with a consultant for a potential growth scan (which ill push for-why not!) just because I was on metformin for the first half of my pregnancy-bubs is measuring the same-about 1-2weeks behind so no worries-im very long so that's prob why. Then I see mw at 38, 39, 40...and 41 if needed. Go with your mummy instincts Dolly, im sure everything is absolutely fine though

 

[LVnMommy]

I am here at the NICU I signed myself out of hospital 14 hours after my c section to be with him! They told me told to expect another 4-5 weeks he lost 6 ounces so ee are trying to get him to gain something :/ he is just so precious and tiny. .. I seem to cry uncontrollably every single time I leave him. He is off oxygen but they are giving him caffine cause he had some desats the other night. I am pumping like a mad woman for his feedings I tried breast feeding yesterday and he is just too tiny. He does not understand the suck swallow thing yet so half his feedings are gavaged. Other than that he is doing well

 

[girlinyork]

So glad you're with your little man at last. Sounds like he is doing well and will be out and cuddled up with you at home safe and sound eventually

 

[merristems]

Dolly my midwife friend got back to me. She said firstly to reassure you that although baby is breech now this is very common at this point in pregnancy there is sill time for him to turn, your midwife should have explained this to you. She said that fundal measurements are not very accurate at all because the babies position can really affect the sizes recorded. Also babys grow in stops and starts so to measure ahead happens because sometimes youve just had a growth spurt maybe you grew 2.5cm in one week then 1.5 the following weeks. She said these days they are not so concerned if baby measures ahead but more concerned if baby measure behind or appears not to have grown, movements are the most important thing now so if those change then get seen asap. Lastly re appointments she said first time mums should all be seen at 28wks then either 31wks or 32wks then every 2wks up until 41wks she said to call and get yourself added to the next set of mw appointments that you should have been on.
I hope this helps and is not too muddled but she basically said dont panic about the measurements and get seen fortnightly from now on!

 

[BeautifulD]

Ahhh merri, thats really sweet of you finding that out for Dolly!

Aww lvn, im so pleased you amd lo are together and he's doing well. Look after yourself sweetie

Afm.... mw tomorrow so will have an idea if little dude has turned or not... I'm going with not! Then scan and consultant Wednesday.... then we should have a date for delivery

 

[Dollybird]

Aw thank you ladies. I really appreciate the advice. And merri thank you so much for asking you mw friend that was really kind of you
Lvn glad your little one is doing well, keep us updated on his progress when u can.
Beautiful hope bubs has turned for you!!
Hope everyone else is doing well! I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself today, very weepy and insecure... Hormones eh! Xxx

 

[mackjess]

dolly I hope if you can't change midwives you can at least get in for more appointments! waiting almost a month seems like top long at this stage for your next appt.

tonight felt like little man was doing somersaults while riding a roller coaster. my whole body was tilting from one side to the other while I was laying back in my recliner. can't tell if he was just rolling from side to side or if he turned. I guess I'll know tomorrow if I get pelvic kicks or not. I did lots of walking and standing today, so I'm hoping the gravity encouraged him. fx these breech bumps start behaving!

 

[BeautifulD]

Oooooo Jess, it certainly sounds like he was trying to turn!

I have mw this morning so lets see what little dude is doing... I would be very surprised if he's turned, everything is just the same as it has been...

 

[flapjack10]

Kelly - the breathing gets easier, my bump has dropped a bit this week. Although it means waddling and more frequent trips to the loo!

Sometimes I feel down/anxious about the birth/looking after newborn/health of baby and me.

On the whole though I feel proud and excited about baby. Being PARL isn't easy, but if I could, I wouldn't change anything that happened last year. I feel more appreciative of everything and I'm not naïve. It's really taught me not to make lazy assumptions and that I really have no/little control over nature. What will be, will be. A lot of the cliches are true...

We should all be so proud we've got this far and still have our sanity (mostly)! I can't wait for Cheekyface to be here, but I'm scared too!

GIY - 1 week until induction eeeeep!

JFG - that is a nice weight!

Dolly - I'm sorry you don't feel confident in your MW. Here's my appointments:
28 weeks 3 days
30 weeks 3 days (home)
34 weeks 3 days
37 weeks 3 days (on Friday)

Hope that helps! I agree with all the advice so far. Hope you feel better.

LK - happy 37 weeks!

Lvn - glad everything seems ok with LO.

MJ - sorry you probs won't have a vajayjay birth, but c-sections have their positives too.

Merri - breech bumps!

BD- GL with MW! I suspect sunroof option for you! At least you'll have a birthday for your LO! EEP!

AFM - I'm now officially on maternity leave! I have been getting really fatigued so it's excellent timing!

xxx

 

[Dollybird]

Flapjack it's funny you say that cause I feel the same.. I mean although the ectopic was awful I feel it changed me for the better, and I can't help but feel if happened for a reason. It made me and hubby closer and stronger.
And.. Although I feel like I've come so far.. And I'm so mega excited for this pregnancy.. A wee bit of me is scared too.. I mean its gonna be my first so I don't really know what it's gonna be like to have a newborn, or if I'm gonna be any good at being a mummy even! I can only hope that I am and tht it all comes naturally after he arrives. Think it's normal to have a few wee "wobbles" at this point. We're so close to the finish line! Can't wait to meet my little man, and I feel like I love him so much alreaDy!
Jess, beautifuld, let us know how you both get on today! Hope those little ones have turned!

Xxx

 

[flapjack10]

I know what you mean, I love Cheekyface so much. I feel like it already has such a personality. I think it's best to be prepared that we won't feel 100% over-joyed 100% of the time when bubs gets here. I hear day 5 is particularly bad for baby blues.

I have also become convinced that my bump is a boy! I'll be really if it's a girl, but equally elated!

Xxx

 

[BeautifulD]

Dolly can I just say that anxiety stays with you no matter the amount of babies you have.... I'm feeling the same

 

[BeautifulD]

Fj I think baby blues kicked in around day 4for me... it wwasn't too bad. I also think you're team blue

 

[girlinyork]

I think FJ and A1983 are pinks

 

[A1983]

I think FJ and A1983 are pinks

He he Not long til we find out if you're right giy!! My bubs has been so active the last couple of days- 'he's' discovered right round the sides where my hip bones are and I get lots of feet/elbows/knees/hand sort of sizes continuously rolling around-so funny! Stops me in my tracks sometimes as I think that area seems a little more delicate! Going to get some almond or olive oil today and start the perineum massage-will get oh to help out too! I thought it was a little less invasive (wrong word?) than it actually is..thought it was just the external skin that needed the massage! Will start the rlt and epo sometime this week once ive spoken with mw...still not sure of doses.

 

[BeautifulD]

Mr breechy bum is still breech so unless he turns between now and weds I'll be booked in for c section. I mentioned to the mw that I didn't think he had any intentions of turning and she agreed. I also asked her when the tend to schedule a section for breechies and she said it depends on the consultant. Some book for 37 weeks which is next week others book for 39/39 weeks.... so will find out weds

 

[flapjack10]

BD - Next week! Ahhhhh! Exciting, but scary, but amazing!

I tried the massage, but it was a bit tricky for me! Got to give it another go.

xxx

 

[merristems]

Bd still breechy oh bugger! But next week for induction is very exciting you and giy could get the same bdays!
Dolly no worries about the info my friend wanted to help it annoys her when mw a slack with there clients!
Fj woop for being o mat leave just in the nick of time by the sounds of the fatigue. I agree with you on the parl making us stronger and less nieve. At my antinatal class there was one woman who openly admitted she knew nothing about pregnancy and birth she hadnt read a thing! I was like ive been mentally preparing myself for 17months! Im quietly confident but painfully aware that my choices for birth could go out the window for a number of reasons safe baby is my biggest priority.

Lvn glad your with you little boy now sending you both love xxx
Eek hi everyone else i hope you are all feeling good xx

My little skippy has been so busy the last week or so! Always o. The move in the early evening before and after dinner and just befor bedtime. I love it so much ikwym about them havi g characters already, mi e is pretty chilled out to be honest we will soon see though! I was looking at my dates and if i go over due to 42 wks my baby will be born the day after my birthday!
Good luck turning the breech bumps xxx

 

[mackjess]

FJ it sounds like your babe is engaging, or close to it! How exciting. I'm just at 34 weeks tomorrow, and the way dude was moving yesterday gives me hope that he has plenty of room to turn still. Hoping he will be by 36 weeks. And it's not that I'd mind a c-section as much as I don't do well with surgery in general. It's a good thing they use epidurals and don't put you under usually unless it's an emergency. Last time I had a minor surgery recovery was really hard, I healed slow, and all of the pain meds either made me sick or made me sleep for 12 hours at even half the dose! I'm just a wuss with drugs, so that part has me worrying. It would be a tough 6 weeks after the surgery at home with a newborn!

Please fx that my man turns! praying all of our breeches do!

And I agree with you ladies about being PAL. It is actually making me more secure about facing a possible csection delivery. I'm sure the baby will be just fine during it and even if it is tough for me I don't really care. I'm getting used to the idea in case that's what happens. I'm more focused on what really matters I think instead of freaking out about it.

 

[girlinyork]

My girly is definitely head down and engaged. I feel so sexy with my waddle