Being a single parent is hard

[jaytee146]

Just wanted to say that somewhere it'll be understood. . and not judged. i'm not seeking pity but i just wanted to say how incredibly difficult this is. today i met my married friend and her husband at the zoo and i witnessed what help was. . . i saw what it was like not to carry a fussy baby while pushing a Stroller. . . i was offered help but i didn't know how to take it. today i saw a real parenting team. and it made me overwhelmed with emotions. i realized after i laid lo down for a nap and my back hurt so bad that i laid there and thought. . wow this is tough. wished i had some help how awesome would it be to catch a movie, or nap til eight, i try not to be envious but some day's i see families together and it tears me part. . just wanted to share that.

 

[Mummy1995]

Hugs hun xx

 

[ravenmel]

I know what you mean, today I saw my neighbors driving off in their car with their lo. They always look happy. They seem to have got it right,their own house, nice jobs, new baby and have just brought their car so no carting baby around on the bus. I've been saving forever for a car before this lo comes and although I'm getting there today I saw them and just for a minute I thought that was suppose to be me. I'm a strong individual and very much a go getter but it would have been nice if it all worked out but I won't get up hope on love.

 

[Laura2919]

I know what you mean, I've got friends who's partners/husbands are hands on, FOB never was so tbh what I am doing is no change.

You'll meet someone one day who will do the things your looking for. Keep your chin up babe xxx

 

[Nic1107]

 

[rockabillymom]

Im right there with you. Soon ill be a single mom to a newborn and 17 month old toddler but in the end we will find someone someday thatll be there to help. Hopefully you have a good family to help when you need it. I know it hurts and is hard but itll all workout in the end!

 

[jaytee146]

I guess I was slightly annoyed that I offered for fob to come, so we could do his visitation and I could teach him little things he didn't know about lo... but apparently he got a better offer...

never heard from him until night fall that evening.. to tell me he over sletp and couldn't bring the diapers I'd been asking for

 

[Dezireey]

I think its mind over matter in our situations and trying the best you can to make the best of a difficult situation.

To be honest, for every wonderful couple you do see out and about with their offspring having happy family time, there are just as much miserable people together and miserable women who might as well be single mums. Statistics prove that divorce rates are extremely high and relationships, married or otherwise are not easy picnics for most people, they are hard work. Also, in quite a lot of relationships, the father is only around in the evenings after work (so mum is usually home alone all day and pushes that buggy and struggles alone whilst dad is in work) then he gets home and most men are so knackered they dont really want to help out and then there is just free time on the weekend etc. what about all those women married to soldiers who are away for like 8 months at a time aswell?

Babies, wonderful and gorgeous though they are do put strain on relationships and especially on relationships that are weak already. I have a close group of about 8 friends and to be honest, 3 of them are loved up and happy, 2 are just staying with their partners for the kids and the relationships are strained, 2 are divorced and one is a single mum. Don't always judge a book by its cover. I have moments where I think 'bloody hell this would be so much easier if I had a man to help out with this stroller!' but you know what, I don't have a man here and I'll be damned if spend one breath getting upset about it because life really is too short and this is what my life is like right now and I'm a strong woman and I don't need a man. Just try not to let it get to you or you will miss all the fun and important and nice things that there are about being a single mum and there are good things, if you sit back and think about it.

Hugs and chin up xxx

 

[Lemonflower]

I get jealous when I see "happy" families!!

I know it'll be me one day!!

Hugs babe

xxxxx

 

[teal]

definitely can relate to feeling like that xx