tag74
S, L, M & E's Mom
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A little off topic but related to the new baby. My best friend of 30 years is an alcoholic. She's beautiful and generous but when she she starts drinking, she becomes the devil. Everyone has given up on her, including her family...but me. But during this pregnancy, especially since I'm not drinking, her behavior is just overbearing and appears to be worse. I am so relieved she can't make my baby shower because of a business trip. I just never know which friend will show up.
On New Years eve during a low key family get together - she got so drunk and started hanging on my 12 year old, slurring her words and kissing her. I hated every second of it as I didn't want my daughter to see her auntie that way. I actually confronted her a few days later as her behavior went above and beyond that incident...to actually making a pass at my husband as well. She cried real tears and was mortified. She seemed to "take it easy" for the next couple of months.
This past weekend I went to her home for dinner as her mom was in town visiting. She proceeded to get drunk and absolutely verbally abuse her mom the whole evening. Her mom look disgusted and embarrassed. I left a couple hours later claiming to be tired.
Here's my REAL dilemma: She really wants to babysit my daughter now 13 when I go into labor and keeps repeating how she can't wait to babysit the new baby. It just isn't happening. We went on vacation in November and I didn't even ask her to watch our cats. I just didn't trust her. I know her well enough that she is going to keep insisting on babysitting both of my kids and I don't know how to handle without getting into an argument with her. Is it avoidable? I didn't know if any of you ladies had experience in this department. She's literally an extension to my family- but there is no way I'll leave my prized possessions including my husband alone with her.
On New Years eve during a low key family get together - she got so drunk and started hanging on my 12 year old, slurring her words and kissing her. I hated every second of it as I didn't want my daughter to see her auntie that way. I actually confronted her a few days later as her behavior went above and beyond that incident...to actually making a pass at my husband as well. She cried real tears and was mortified. She seemed to "take it easy" for the next couple of months.
This past weekend I went to her home for dinner as her mom was in town visiting. She proceeded to get drunk and absolutely verbally abuse her mom the whole evening. Her mom look disgusted and embarrassed. I left a couple hours later claiming to be tired.
Here's my REAL dilemma: She really wants to babysit my daughter now 13 when I go into labor and keeps repeating how she can't wait to babysit the new baby. It just isn't happening. We went on vacation in November and I didn't even ask her to watch our cats. I just didn't trust her. I know her well enough that she is going to keep insisting on babysitting both of my kids and I don't know how to handle without getting into an argument with her. Is it avoidable? I didn't know if any of you ladies had experience in this department. She's literally an extension to my family- but there is no way I'll leave my prized possessions including my husband alone with her.