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Rain and Wicky-so sorry to hear about the losses in your family. It's so sad when we lose our loved ones; no matter how old or young. Hugs ladies.

Ask-that is really impressive that 22 were mature and all fertilized. Are you planning a fresh transfer or are you freezing then and getting them tested? Does your place have a particular method that they prefer? I hope you and your hubs are back to feeling good about things and each other. 🙂 Oh and happy birthday.

Wish-glad your scan was great and confirmation that both boys are doing well. Did you pick names? I can't remember.

Hi to everyone else!
 
Just miscarried and I'm doing this alone and feel like I'm running out of time and money. What protocol did they use to get 33 eggs? Looking for hope.
 
Hi Journey - I responded to your message on my journal. :)

Terri - 22 of the 24 mature eggs fertilized normally, but yes, that’s a great fertilization rate! We will freeze all (however many make it to day 5/6 blasts) and do PGS then hopefully a FET in December. FX!
 
Wish- Thanks, life is good except for the occasional mom-drama. I definitely need to try to keep our conversations separate. Your suggested reply is great, maybe I’ll try that. Knowing her control freakish nature, I think she’d be extremely offended. She’d be able to make me doubt myself and feel guilty about that in the past, but not anymore. I hope you get more comfortable, and are soon lounging around in a new comfy chair!

Wicky- Hehe, cute scan of your little embie! I hope you and DW can take a baby moon sometime, even if it’s just a little one. Wow, you have 3 moms! I hope for your sake (and growing little embie) that they don’t cause any unnecessary drama. Thanks, my sister and her family are coming, so I’m happy about that!

Ask- Congrats! That’s an amazing number of embryos. I hope that you get a lot of 5/6 day embryos to freeze.

Rain- That’s an interesting theory, and I think you’re right. She controls my conversations with my dad, making sure that I only Skype through her. When we’re having too good a time talking politics or other stuff we enjoy talking about, she’ll cut it short and say we’re being too negative. She’s always claimed that she and I are very similar, and kept claiming that we were close, but I really don’t feel similar or close to her at all. So sorry about the loss of your grandmother. And to add to that the falling out with the past Nanny who showed her ugly side. And your poor little sick kids… I hope they get well soon, and you all get some much needed rest.
 
ask - WOAH!!! That's AMAZING!! Congrats on the huge number!! I hope this is the only IVF you ever have to go through and your little one (or two, or three!!) are all in the bunch. Good luck on the testing! wahooooo for you! :wohoo:

rain - I'm so sorry for the loss of your grandmother but I agree with you - what a long, wonderful (hopefully!) life. And your nanny - that's baloney. I hate when you feel you get close to someone and then they pull something like that. Do you have a new nanny now?

wicky - love the pic!! man, I can hardly believe any of us were ever that small! I was saying the other day at my scan that it's funny ours don't fit into one pic anymore - we have to scan the whole belly to get the full picture. I can't wait to watch your little one grow!!

miki - very interesting about your mom's behavior with you and other members of your family! AND saying that you're close! Wow, she must really wish that you two were closer but just doesn't understand how to make that happen. And it must drive her right up a wall that you 'do you' and go your own way, rather than her way. How have you been feeling?

afm - V Day today! Glad to have this milestone under my belt, but babies - stay put at least another 10 weeks please!! We did go out last week and purchased a new recliner, that'll be delivered on Wed. Went to NYC this weekend with my friend and the train rides there and back were very uncomfortable. Not only my back now but right below my right rib KILLS, like a bad bruise or tear or something, but only in certain positions. I don't know what's going on and I'm assuming no one can look into it b/c I can't have x-rays or whatnot, so I'll just deal with it. If it gets worse, I may ask about it.
 
Thanks for the sympathies for my grandmother.

The littles slept all night the last two nights!!! And I got naps over the weekend so I feel much more like myself. It’s always the first night of a cold that they are like mommas, wtf is happening to me?? Then they remember how to sleep w a stufy nose and they are fine. Yes, we have a new nanny until daycare starts in November.

Miki- thanks. Wow your mom is a piece of work! Sounds like u r doing great compartmentalizing her nonsense. Is she sort of borderline do u think? It’s so hard when people are so ill that you can’t really communicate with them... just protect yourself as best you can :(

Wish- glad u had a good trip! I’m sorry it’s hard to travel. I couldn’t go far after 5 or 6 mo. Do u have an advice line? You (and all those who are preggers) have free reign to be high maintenance right now, and ask away. Any little thing.
You know, I used to lie quietly and try to ‘talk’ to my twins in utero. I would ask them if they were ok and cosy. They always said yes. That helped get me through. Happy V day and here’s to many more weeks cosy and comfy!

Welcome Journey, I hope u get your thb soon.

And Happy Birthday, 🎂 🎈Ask!!
 
oh yes, Happy Birthday, Ask!! :cake:

rainy - <3 I love how you talked to them! And congrats on the littles sleeping through the night! WAHOO! I've chatted with the boys a few times haha. Yes, I can call whenever. I actually did just call b/c googling 'right side rib pain' brought up some lovely things that it could be. However, looks like my OB office is closed today for the holiday! I don't really feel it if I sit straight up. I'm sure it's nothing but now I want to have it checked out, or at least talk about it. Could be gallstones, bruised liver from being squished by the uterus/diaphragm/baby's head or HELLP (I have yet to look up what this is...) or just general discomfort. Blah.
 
Helloooooo!
I can't believe this thread is still going over 2 years later!! &#129315;&#129315; I have been reading and reading... does anyone remember me? I see some familiar names... Terri, Vonn, TTC74....

I'm here again... in the "wonderful" world of TTC..... ready for baby #3... I think.. lol

I will update after I hear from everyone! Excited to be back &#128522;&#128522;
 
Carib! I was thinking about you through the storms! I'm glad you're ok! Where are you now? Welcome back!!
Baby #3?! CRAZY!! I love your bio hahaha :haha:
 
Hey Wish! &#128522;&#128522; you have twins on board???

Oh those hurricanes.. honestly... They just about totally destroyed the USVI. It's just terrible :( we are in Australia at the moment but my husband was there. Our apartment was damaged but he was okay. A bit of flooding throughout. So many friends lost their homes though. 80% of the island is destroyed.. its just an absolute mess and of course most media places were too busy worried about Florida to realise Americans are also in the "US" Virgin Islands.. so they feel very overlooked.

Yes baby #3! Crazy I know... But I would like a closer aged sibling for my toddler and a 17 yr old doesn't cut it. Especially one with a car and a job! She's never around! And hates babysitting... so... there goes that brilliant idea I had.

Once (If??) we have another baby I will be moving to Tampa, Florida! I went for my US visa interview 2 weeks ago in Sydney so that should come through in the next few weeks. Exciting stuff! Hubby got out of the VI via private plane to Puerto Rico before Hurricane Maria destroyed that island, and was able to get out and down to Australia to make the interview as well. It was a very stressful week! I didn't hear from him for almost 2 days.... I tell you..... not pleasant. He just left here to go back on Monday :(
Thank you for thinking of us xx
 
girl, it's TRUE! TWINS!!

Oh I'm SO glad you guys are ok and DH was able to make it out of both places in time. Tampa! I used to live there back in the day!! Just for a short while - turned out to be TOO much fun for a 21-yr old ;)
HAHA sounds like thwarted plans with the 17 yr old, so I'd probably try for a sibling for your toddler too. How fun! Good luck with it all! I hope it happens quickly for you!
 
Wish- Thanks for your thoughts. I notice her odd behavior much more than anyone else in the family because I look at people's actions and not their words. I think being in abusive relationships in the past has honed my skills in this respect. I used to think she wanted me to be close to her because she's my mother, but now I'm certain she has always thought of me as a "possession" or "trophy". I don't want to be that, I want to be my own person. And I want gummy to be brought up in a well-adjusted home, so I can't be too close to my mom. I'm feeling generally pretty great, thanks. How about you, I hope you're not worried about your rib anymore. I think it's probably a muscle pull or a baby's fault, and not anything to worry about. Try not to worry!

Rain- Hooray for more sleep! Hehe, your little ones sound so adorable, even with their poor little stuffy noses. Thanks for your validating words. I don't know why my mom is the way she is, but I definitely see narcissistic traits in her. I think it's sort of a mild form, so it's really hidden to the rest of the family. Once I realized that everything is about her, and I let go of having a close relationship with her, it's been pretty good. I worry more about my sister and her kids, since they live with her!

Hi Carribean, I joined after you were active, and it's nice that you are back and trying for baby #3! I'm sorry about the devastation to the island and the damage to your apartment. How scary about your DH, luckily he's ok.

AFM- I just got the shocking results from my 1 hour glucose test. 195! I passed easily when I took the test earlier in my pregnancy. This time, I was afraid that I'd fail, as I don't have much self control when it comes to my diet, but I didn't expect that high a number. I did have a sweet breakfast with cereal, but that was 3 hours before the test. I'm at work now, and I could barely keep it together when I found out about my results. I've been feeling positive and happy these days, and this is a severe blow. I think I'm going to be taking the 3 hour test, but I don't hold out much hope, given the high number I got for the 1 hour test :cry:
 
Miki - I&#8217;ve struggled with my relationship with my mother pretty much my whole life, so I can relate. She suffers from major depression with features of bipolar disorder. She tends to be very negative and it can be emotionally exhausting. She has good intentions and I know she loves me very much but I often end up feeling so yucky after we talk. I&#8217;ve distanced myself over the years as a result which only makes it worse at times. She told both my brother and I to &#8220;f*#% off&#8221; a few months ago when we didn&#8217;t respond to her text within 24 hours. It&#8217;s tough. On a positive note she has been very supportive as I am going through IVF though she always says things like, &#8220;it&#8217;s not God&#8217;s time yet&#8221; or &#8220;hopefully it&#8217;s God&#8217;s will&#8221;...ok, so if I don&#8217;t get pregnant God doesn&#8217;t want me to be a mother?

I&#8217;m sorry to hear about the glucose test...what does that mean going forward? Hoping you get better results next one.

Tomorrow I&#8217;ll find out how many embryos made it to biopsy and freeze...so nervous!
 
Hi everyone and happy hump day!

Welcome back, Caribbean! I joined after you were active, but read the thread all the way back, so I am excited to see you back. I was worried about you and the family with the hurricanes and am relieved everyone is safe. The devastation must be hard to witness and live through, though. :hugs:

Miki- I'm sorry about the glucose test results. I hope that the longer test isn't too bad and that you pass with flying colors. If not, though, I am sure your doctor will help you navigate this new situation. I'm here for support, having already gone off the charts with my blood sugar at 3w5d!!

Wish - I hope the rib pain is subsiding and turned out to be nothing. Pulled muscles can be really painful and in the rib area :nope:

Ask - FX for great results tomorrow. I hope tons of embies are nestled in the cooler for you!

Welcome, Journey. This is a great group. Very supportive and helpful. I hope you find what you need here.

AFM - I had my "8 week" scan today (I'm 7w4d) and everything looks good. Measuring 2 days behind but they kept the same due date and think everything is fine. The best part of the appointment was that the nurse took my blood sugar seriously, immediately took my log to an MD and got recommendations for me and a follow up just for the diabetes next week. So I have a plan to increase my insulin some, add BACK IN the carbs my PCP told me to eliminate (because in pregnancy, that's not healthy, apparently), and come back in a week to adjust the insulin again. They also clarified that I only need to call for urgent consult if I have several readings over 200 in a row, so I can relax a bit. I am just so relieved to have someone take this as seriously as I thought was needed! And they will actually do an extra scan at 22 weeks to look at the baby's heart (most likely congenital defect caused by high sugars), so we can address it if needed. I am over the moon about being able to eat some healthy carbs again, especially with morning sickness beginning to creep on... there is literally nothing carb-free that settles an upset stomach. :happydance:
 
Ask- I&#8217;m so sorry about your struggles with your mom. I&#8217;m almost grateful that mine is so careful to keep up appearances. This means that she does back off a bit when I set boundaries, even though she tries hard to step over them in a sneaky and manipulative way. And she will leave me alone for a bit if I don&#8217;t jump to answer her calls/text. Maybe it&#8217;s because I started distancing myself from her years ago, and she&#8217;s now used to it. Plus she has an extremely full social life. I hope that you find a way to have a less stressful relationship with your mom, I know how it is to feel yucky after talking to her, I do after talking to my mom too. Sorry about your mom's remarks about your IVF success, it is hurtful even if she doesn&#8217;t realize it. Good luck for tomorrow... I hope you get a great number of embryos!

Wicky- I&#8217;m so happy that your scan went great! That&#8217;s wonderful that they are taking your blood sugar seriously, and that they have a plan to monitor things. Thanks for your support, I hope I pass the next test too.

Even though I haven&#8217;t been the best at keeping carbs and sugar out of my diet, I have been trying hard to eat well. It was such a blow to see such bad results for the glucose test, I felt that I had let poor little gummy down. I dunno, maybe it&#8217;s my age. I just turned 46 and now I feel like I&#8217;m a million years old. I was so down at work, I constantly felt like breaking down in tears. Luckily DH was so understanding. He kept up a stream of texts with things that I needed to hear, like how I was a good mommy to gummy, and comforting things on gestational diabetes that he read about (i.e. it&#8217;s not so bad if I do end up having it). The OB&#8217;s reaction to my results was also comforting, she told me they were a little high and that she wanted to test further to see if I had GD. She also said that it was common in women over 40, and it was likely that I would pass the test this time. And if not, they had a lot of options to help me have a healthy pregnancy. I feel much better, but I still feel sad somehow. Anyway, DH bought a bunch of healthy foods today and we&#8217;re going to try to eat even healthier from now on. He cooked a tasty yet healthy meal for dinner tonight, so that was a nice start!
 
miki - first off, I'm loving that your baby is the size of Gizmo right now!! <3 secondly, I'm so sorry about the first GD test! I think it's kinda hard to pass the first one anyway and lots of women have to take the 3 hr one. But still a blow. I've asked numerous times if I needed to curb my diet and they've said no, so I have no idea what I'm in for. And you're 46?! man you are looking GOOD, lady!! :)
I believe that with the changes you're making now, you'll pass the 3 hr one no problem. And even if you don't, I've had a few friends that had GD (one with each of her 3 girls) and all of the babies turned out absolutely healthy and gorgeous!

I'm so sorry to read all about the Mom issues. :sad: I'll count my blessings and give my Mom an extra big hug next week when they come up. I truly feel that you all will be that much better of a mother because of the ways you've been treated. You know how much it hurts to be treated like that. Hugs to you both :hugs:

wicky - awesome scan results!!! And so glad to hear that they are taking your blood sugar seriously as well!! 'bout time! :)

ask - good luck today!! I hope you have a ton to freeze! Do you go right into a transfer cycle after this? Report back ASAP!!

carib - so where are you in your cycle/trying? are you tracking anything?

afm - thank you for the thoughts on my ribs - I did call and they said that it sounded musculoskeletal, so to take Tylenol and see if that helps. It's not really accompanied with swelling (though my feet HAVE been swollen this week but I think from walking so much in NYC, and they finally went down this morning) or headaches, so didn't seem like anything serious to worry about. I haven't yet taken Tylenol b/c it hurts at work and my Tylenol is at home, so I'm just trying to sit right. I think it's part baby B too - he must be leaning on that muscle or something.

miki - did you say if you guys have settled on a name yet? I think we MIGHT have agreed on one name. It's one that I love, but the biggest issue is that we have a friend named that. However, we only see this friend maybe 1-2x a year. So I think it's fine and I love the name, so I think I'll win this battle. :) No idea for the 2nd name though!
 
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