BFP today but OH not happy!

[tryin4baby]

Hi ladies, got my positive on a frer today at 9dpo! im over the moon and so exited...OH on the other hand isnt and everytime i mention it he tells me to not talk about it because hes not happy!! how would you all feel if your OH was like mine?

 

[Lucy529]

In all honesty I would be pissed and upset he helped make this baby.

Is there a reason why he's not happy about it? Hope he realizes what an ass he's being and comes around soon

 

[purplecupcake]

I take it this was an unplanned pregnancy? Were you doing anything to prevent it?

I would be terribly upset, but if it were an unplanned pregnancy, I would understand that he has a lot of thoughts and worries going through his head and that he might need some time to come around. Men can feel unprepared for pregnancies in many different ways, especially if they were not expecting it. He may not feel ready emotional, financially, or just not be in the place in his life where he wants children yet (or another child).

I would give him some time to think it over and let him know you're there if he wants to talk. If you are in a committed and loving relationship, he will work through it and eventually come around to the idea. Good luck!

 

[Lauralily]

Fuck him. Men for you isn't it -.-

 

[Radiance]

He'll get over it!! Congratulations!

 

[tryin4baby]

Thanks girls. Well i havent been on any contraceptive the whole time we have been together (4 & a half years) and he knows this because contraceptives dont agree with me! i just think if he didnt want another child (we have a nearly 2 year old daughter) then he should of put something on the end of it! he knows i want another child though, he has known that for months. Hopefully he comes round. Fingers crossed. brw our daughter was planned.

 

[MummyToAmberx]

Maybe just been a shock?
We went back to ntnp and it came as a surprize to him and first thoughts that came out his mouth were money.
Think all get dazed and dont see it same way as us women in the beginning x

 

[angiepie]

Mine was like this, still is a bit as we have lots of stressors in our lives atm and he feels like our baby (planned) will just make things worse.

It makes me sad but I know he'll come round, if not during pregnancy, then definitely when he meets the baby. Just a matter of waiting it out.

 

[Yo_Yo]

I would be very hurt! He was knowingly having unprotected sex-this does tend to result in a baby, so he shouldn't be too shocked!

Sure he will come around to it

Congratulations by the way!

 

[CastawayBride]

He didn't wrap it up so where does he get off bring upset? I would tell him to take a vacation on the front porch till he learned some manners!

 

[xSamantha]

It really annoys me when I hear this. They know what they are doing when they have unprotected sex. Then they act surprised when they make a child.

 

[Pixiedust22]

It always amazes me when people like your OH has unprotected sex and then get upset when it results in a baby. Wrap it up then!

 

[purplecupcake]

Well lets all remember that birth control is not only the man or woman's job, its both. If she wanted another baby, there should have been a very clear conversation about it instead of "well he knew I wanted another baby".

 

[CastawayBride]

Well lets all remember that birth control is not only the man or woman's job, its both. If she wanted another baby, there should have been a very clear conversation about it instead of "well he knew I wanted another baby".

He was having unprotected sex, clearly ramifications are there for his actions...he just has to pay the piper now.

Now IF she did not tell him she went off birth control, well thats a whole other discussion....

 

[tryin4baby]

hi all, just to let you know I think my OH is okay with it all now, just a bit of shock thanks ladies x