chocaccino
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Hi ladies
I haven't posted a thread on here on a very long time; I used to frequent this site when I was pregnant with my first as a teen 6 years ago now. Anyhow, my partner and I are expecting, bit of shock as although I had my implant taken out we were using other methods. My partner was very shocked and although he didn't react as badly as I thought (he said he didn't want children until I am totally financially stable and by that he means having a job/owning property and although we've been in a relationship for over 3 years we don't live together). He's a self made man with two property's and a good job on good money and I have just completed a degree and have got myself a decent part time job (his idea to work around my son and childcare etc) however the whole idea of me buying a house has not worked out due to many different obstacles. With that in mind we're now trying to plan to move in (me and my son into his house) however he won't let me move in with him until I have signed a sort of disclosure which will give him a little more security if we were to split up (in terms of me "taking" his house) which I totally understand, but he seems less than happy that once he gets the contract drawn up I will be taking it to a solicitor to make sure it's kosher and I'm not getting completely mugged off. Now, in my mind, considering he's well off and that I will be having his child, I'd like to think he would be pretty fair to me in the event of the worst but judging by his response, Im not sure that's going to be the case and what's more, he's now suggesting that he rent out both his properties and we all live together in my rented accommodation. It might me because Im pregnant and emotional that Im finding it so hard to accept that he feels he would have to take things that far in order to protect himself and his money against me in the event we break up and that he seems to be so untrust worthy of me to take it that far.
Any way, sorry for the essay ladies, just feeling a bit teary and hormonal particularly as when we were just having this (heated) discussion he shouts at me that I messed everything up by getting my implant out and he also told me earlier today hes unable to attend our first midwife appointment. ☹
I haven't posted a thread on here on a very long time; I used to frequent this site when I was pregnant with my first as a teen 6 years ago now. Anyhow, my partner and I are expecting, bit of shock as although I had my implant taken out we were using other methods. My partner was very shocked and although he didn't react as badly as I thought (he said he didn't want children until I am totally financially stable and by that he means having a job/owning property and although we've been in a relationship for over 3 years we don't live together). He's a self made man with two property's and a good job on good money and I have just completed a degree and have got myself a decent part time job (his idea to work around my son and childcare etc) however the whole idea of me buying a house has not worked out due to many different obstacles. With that in mind we're now trying to plan to move in (me and my son into his house) however he won't let me move in with him until I have signed a sort of disclosure which will give him a little more security if we were to split up (in terms of me "taking" his house) which I totally understand, but he seems less than happy that once he gets the contract drawn up I will be taking it to a solicitor to make sure it's kosher and I'm not getting completely mugged off. Now, in my mind, considering he's well off and that I will be having his child, I'd like to think he would be pretty fair to me in the event of the worst but judging by his response, Im not sure that's going to be the case and what's more, he's now suggesting that he rent out both his properties and we all live together in my rented accommodation. It might me because Im pregnant and emotional that Im finding it so hard to accept that he feels he would have to take things that far in order to protect himself and his money against me in the event we break up and that he seems to be so untrust worthy of me to take it that far.
Any way, sorry for the essay ladies, just feeling a bit teary and hormonal particularly as when we were just having this (heated) discussion he shouts at me that I messed everything up by getting my implant out and he also told me earlier today hes unable to attend our first midwife appointment. ☹