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I am currently expecting my third child due in January but coming around Christmas time. My first pregnancy was without any complications and I delivered a healthy baby boy on my due date of September 25th 2002 at the age of 18. He weighed 6lbs 3oz and was 19.5 inches long. I did it without any pain relief and delivered him vaginally. I was in labor with him for 12 hours total, from mild cramping to delivery... and only pushed for 20 minutes! He is now 7 and growing like a bad weed! Since then I have met the love of my life Mark and he has taken Jacob in as his own 
My last pregnancy ended at 37 weeks due to a complete placental abruption in which resulted in the death of our son Kaleb. It happened on February 7th 2008 in Moncton, NB Canada at 3:11 pm. I was in the car with my loving fiance on our way to my doctors office to check my blood pressure and growth of my son, yet again... I was sure I was going into labor as I had been having lots of cramping all morning and didn't feel well, so we packed our hospital bags and knew we were either being induced due to high blood pressure problems, or natural labor! In our car I felt a big gush of warm fluids and thought my waters had broke... then another and I was sure my waters broke. My fiance, Mark, looked down and told me it was blood... I was then rushed by ambulance to the Moncton City Hospital and prepped for an emergency c-section. I was hemorrhaging badly and loosing consciousness before even getting to the hospital. Once we got there I was being poked and stuck constantly. They inserted a catheter and wheeled me into the OR. I was then put under anesthesia and the surgery began. When I woke up a few hours later, I was alone with a nurse in recovery and hadn't a clue what was going on... I asked how my baby was and only could get one answer from all of them! " He is in critical condition, they are still working on him" I got that answer for hours before we were let in to see Kaleb. When I was wheeled into the NICU all I seen was my son, so tiny with so many machines, wires and tubes everywhere. He was having seizures and not moving, crying, nothing. We were then brought into a small room and told that our son had no brain function whatsoever and even kept on life support probably wouldn't make it more than 12-24 hours. We then had to decide if we wanted to keep him on the life support and remove everything and let him go peacefully. After nearly an hour of crying with Mark and close family we decided to remove him from the life support. We held him and kissed him and this was around 11pm... Kaleb passed away at 12:20am February 8th 2008 in the arms of his Nanny (my mother)... We had his memorial service on his due date of February 29th 08 and it was beautiful, yet so hard to deal with. Our beautiful boy was born at 4:23 pm weighing 5lbs9oz and was 19.5 inches long... he was beautiful! His full name was Kaleb William Edward, after many family members, and daddy He looked just like his daddy and was perfect!
It took months of testing with no end result as to why this happened, other than blood pressure. I had to go through many tests to find out if I was able to try again for another child. Once we got the okay, we were advised to wait at least 9 months after the c-section to try again as they recommend 18 months from c-section to c-section. I didn't want to try that soon anyways and we started tracking my ovulation and any hanky panky was not to happen during that time! We bought a house in March of this year and decided we should wait to try for a little while longer... it was heartbreaking but we didn't want to rush into anything and emotionally I wasn't really sure I was ready to be pregnant again anyways...
The day before Mother's Day a friend of mine and I were in our local dollar store looking for wall signs ( the lettering things there are so cute!) and we passed through an isle with pregnancy tests... We were laughing and stuff over the fact that they actually had cheap tests like that in there when she said I should buy some and see if I am pregnant! I said I sure didn't feel pregnant and my AF was due the following day so why bother taking one! She talked me into it and I ended up buying two of them. On our way home I told her that this month would be the last month I would even want to get pregnant as I really didn't want to have to go through another pregnancy in February at all! When we got back to my place I took one of the tests and it was a BFN for sure! The next morning on Mother's Day I woke up and my friend had already left to return back home... I remembered I still had one more test and decided to take it, I admit, I do love peeing on those things! I really wasn't expecting to be pregnant as my two previous pregnancies I had symptoms even before AF would have been due. Sure enough... there was a faint line, but strong enough to show up on a camera! I was pregnant! What a day to find out... Mother's Day! I woke Mark up to tell him and he sure looked shocked! lol poor guy, waking up to a pregnancy test in his face at 7am!
I am now high risk due to what happened last time and have already had a few complications. I had a bleed behind the placenta at 9 weeks, restricted blood flow in the cord which can possibly mean a bad placenta, and now we are waiting to see if Kayleigh's growth is going to be restricted from this. I go in every week for scans and testing to the perinatologist and every two weeks to my obstetrician as well. I am being very closely monitored this time around which is reassuring but scary at the same time. I just want my daughter to get here happy and healthy! I am going to have to deliver her by c-section between 3-4 weeks early to try and prevent another abruption but have been told if it is going to happen, it will either way! I am scared, nervous and excited all at the same time.
I didn't realize how long this was getting so I am going to end it here for now. I just figured I would share my story here and maybe find some support from others who might be going through something similar.
The first pic is Jacob with his brother Kaleb a few weeks before he was born
The second pic is Jacob ready for his first day of grade 1!
The third pic is of Kaleb... my precious angel.
The fourth pic is our ultrasound picture of Kayleigh at 18 weeks! We found out it was a pink bump that day
My last pregnancy ended at 37 weeks due to a complete placental abruption in which resulted in the death of our son Kaleb. It happened on February 7th 2008 in Moncton, NB Canada at 3:11 pm. I was in the car with my loving fiance on our way to my doctors office to check my blood pressure and growth of my son, yet again... I was sure I was going into labor as I had been having lots of cramping all morning and didn't feel well, so we packed our hospital bags and knew we were either being induced due to high blood pressure problems, or natural labor! In our car I felt a big gush of warm fluids and thought my waters had broke... then another and I was sure my waters broke. My fiance, Mark, looked down and told me it was blood... I was then rushed by ambulance to the Moncton City Hospital and prepped for an emergency c-section. I was hemorrhaging badly and loosing consciousness before even getting to the hospital. Once we got there I was being poked and stuck constantly. They inserted a catheter and wheeled me into the OR. I was then put under anesthesia and the surgery began. When I woke up a few hours later, I was alone with a nurse in recovery and hadn't a clue what was going on... I asked how my baby was and only could get one answer from all of them! " He is in critical condition, they are still working on him" I got that answer for hours before we were let in to see Kaleb. When I was wheeled into the NICU all I seen was my son, so tiny with so many machines, wires and tubes everywhere. He was having seizures and not moving, crying, nothing. We were then brought into a small room and told that our son had no brain function whatsoever and even kept on life support probably wouldn't make it more than 12-24 hours. We then had to decide if we wanted to keep him on the life support and remove everything and let him go peacefully. After nearly an hour of crying with Mark and close family we decided to remove him from the life support. We held him and kissed him and this was around 11pm... Kaleb passed away at 12:20am February 8th 2008 in the arms of his Nanny (my mother)... We had his memorial service on his due date of February 29th 08 and it was beautiful, yet so hard to deal with. Our beautiful boy was born at 4:23 pm weighing 5lbs9oz and was 19.5 inches long... he was beautiful! His full name was Kaleb William Edward, after many family members, and daddy
He looked just like his daddy and was perfect! It took months of testing with no end result as to why this happened, other than blood pressure. I had to go through many tests to find out if I was able to try again for another child. Once we got the okay, we were advised to wait at least 9 months after the c-section to try again as they recommend 18 months from c-section to c-section. I didn't want to try that soon anyways and we started tracking my ovulation and any hanky panky was not to happen during that time! We bought a house in March of this year and decided we should wait to try for a little while longer... it was heartbreaking but we didn't want to rush into anything and emotionally I wasn't really sure I was ready to be pregnant again anyways...
The day before Mother's Day a friend of mine and I were in our local dollar store looking for wall signs ( the lettering things there are so cute!) and we passed through an isle with pregnancy tests... We were laughing and stuff over the fact that they actually had cheap tests like that in there when she said I should buy some and see if I am pregnant! I said I sure didn't feel pregnant and my AF was due the following day so why bother taking one! She talked me into it and I ended up buying two of them. On our way home I told her that this month would be the last month I would even want to get pregnant as I really didn't want to have to go through another pregnancy in February at all! When we got back to my place I took one of the tests and it was a BFN for sure! The next morning on Mother's Day I woke up and my friend had already left to return back home... I remembered I still had one more test and decided to take it, I admit, I do love peeing on those things! I really wasn't expecting to be pregnant as my two previous pregnancies I had symptoms even before AF would have been due. Sure enough... there was a faint line, but strong enough to show up on a camera! I was pregnant! What a day to find out... Mother's Day! I woke Mark up to tell him and he sure looked shocked! lol poor guy, waking up to a pregnancy test in his face at 7am!
I am now high risk due to what happened last time and have already had a few complications. I had a bleed behind the placenta at 9 weeks, restricted blood flow in the cord which can possibly mean a bad placenta, and now we are waiting to see if Kayleigh's growth is going to be restricted from this. I go in every week for scans and testing to the perinatologist and every two weeks to my obstetrician as well. I am being very closely monitored this time around which is reassuring but scary at the same time. I just want my daughter to get here happy and healthy! I am going to have to deliver her by c-section between 3-4 weeks early to try and prevent another abruption but have been told if it is going to happen, it will either way! I am scared, nervous and excited all at the same time.
I didn't realize how long this was getting so I am going to end it here for now. I just figured I would share my story here and maybe find some support from others who might be going through something similar.
The first pic is Jacob with his brother Kaleb a few weeks before he was born
The second pic is Jacob ready for his first day of grade 1!
The third pic is of Kaleb... my precious angel.
The fourth pic is our ultrasound picture of Kayleigh at 18 weeks! We found out it was a pink bump that day
