Boxing Day - don't know what to do!

[helent1983]

My LO has been in a set routine since he was about 1 week old of 6pm - bath, boob and then in bed for 7pm (odd occasion when he doesn't go down at 7 but there or thereabouts).

Anyway we have been invited to OH brother's house on Boxing Day night and I don't know what to do. I would quite like to go but I feel bad for having to put Archie out of his routine - he is 6 months old now. I was planning on bathing and feeding him before we go and hoping he falls asleep in the car and then put him in his pram while we are there and then just bring him home the whole time him staying asleep?!? Do you think this is reasonable or do you think he will get completely confused. Do you think it would be best for us to stay at home?

Is anyone in the same boat? Got any advice? All would be appriciated!

Thank You you lovely ladies xxx

 

[mommyof3co]

I think one night would be fine, maybe you can bring a travel bed over and then put him in there to sleep? I think it's good to have a routine but also good that they don't HAVE to have it exactly the same in order to function you know? I think one time won't hurt

 

[helent1983]

I think one night would be fine, maybe you can bring a travel bed over and then put him in there to sleep? I think it's good to have a routine but also good that they don't HAVE to have it exactly the same in order to function you know? I think one time won't hurt

Thank you - you will be right I don't know why I get myself so worried about things like this. I always worry that my little man will get confused and it isn't like I can explain it to him.

xx

 

[Laura--x]

I'd go, its good to have them in a routine but its bad if theyre that stuck in that routine that you can never go out beyond 7pm because it'll disturb him..

I had that mistake with Maisie, and now i find it very hard to take her out after 7pm.. ive only done it 3 times and had to come home early each time because although she does fall asleep, she wakes up and by 9pm shes screaming because shes overtired.

 

[helent1983]

I'd go, its good to have them in a routine but its bad if theyre that stuck in that routine that you can never go out beyond 7pm because it'll disturb him..

I had that mistake with Maisie, and now i find it very hard to take her out after 7pm.. ive only done it 3 times and had to come home early each time because although she does fall asleep, she wakes up and by 9pm shes screaming because shes overtired.

This is what I am worried about! I hope with him still only being 6 months he won't be too stuck in a routine yet!

 

[Tegans Mama]

I don't think its wrong to take him out past 7 one time - I am always always home by 5pm because my LO goes to bed at 6. It is very limiting but I know she thrives on routine. My LO is 16 months - and I d find it really hard to take her out after her bedtime, I feel sooo guilty and only do it when I have no other option - but I'm making an exception Xmas day and Boxing day

At 6 months your babies routine is not set in stone - at any age they aren't really. Just make sure you take somewhere comfy for him to sleep. I would take a travel cot and the baby monitor so you can put him upstairs or somewhere quiet and keep an ear open.

 

[Foogirl]

I would go and accept that you might have to come home early if she wont settle.

We've taken Abby out of her routine a few times and she handles it really well.

The other option is to go to your party early and do the routine there, is there a big bed you could put her to sleep in (or can they put a mattress on the floor or borrow a travel cot), or will she sleep ok in the pram?

That way all you have to do is lift her once she has been asleep to take her home.

I'm all for sticking to a routine and doing what you can to stay there, but the odd party out shouldn't be something you can't consider.

 

[Lu28]

I have done as foogirl suggests above. We've had dinner at a friend's house and then just done the bedtime routine there and put her down to sleep in her travel cot and then taken her home later. She only woke briefly and went straight back to sleep

 

[Kit]

We have also been to people's houses a few times and done the bedtime routine there. He hasn't ever woken up before we got him home and into bed.

 

[beancounter]

we occasionally take finn out,but always with the travel cot. I take him to a dark quiet room and give him some boob like usual and put him down, never had a problem, prolly cos he's knackered at the end of the day. Another way is a sneaky late nap at 5pm and a late night! That was an accident but it worked ok, lol.

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

I would say do the whole bedtime routine there. If he sleeps well in his pram then I think it would be fine!

 

[helent1983]

Thanks everyone! I think we are going to go and do the routine there as suggested. It is only one day so I a sure he will be fine!! God arn't I pathetic to worry about such a little thing!

xx

 

[Foogirl]

Thanks everyone! I think we are going to go and do the routine there as suggested. It is only one day so I a sure he will be fine!! God arn't I pathetic to worry about such a little thing!

xx

Not pathetic at all. I've been surprised myself at just how difficult this all is to think about first time round. Me and Mr Foo are two well educated, professional people with oodles of common sense, who spend their working lives organising people and projects, but we can still find ourselves spending ages talking round the logistics of a situation trying to work out the best way to do it and it is only something as simple as going to Asda to get some shopping

 

[helent1983]

Thanks everyone! I think we are going to go and do the routine there as suggested. It is only one day so I a sure he will be fine!! God arn't I pathetic to worry about such a little thing!

xx

Not pathetic at all. I've been surprised myself at just how difficult this all is to think about first time round. Me and Mr Foo are two well educated, professional people with oodles of common sense, who spend their working lives organising people and projects, but we can still find ourselves spending ages talking round the logistics of a situation trying to work out the best way to do it and it is only something as simple as going to Asda to get some shopping [/QUOTE

LOL!!

 

[Kitten]

I agree! There are so many difficult decisions when it comes to worrying about LO. I too tend to avoid doing anything past his bedtime, lol.

 

[sapphire20]

We have this problem every weekend, we usually go to OH parents for Dinner and then my Parents for a blether but Olivia goes to bed at 6.30 so we werent getting to see my parents. Im scared that if LO is out of her routine one night that will be it and she wont sleep all night anymore, so I havent yet tried it, Ill have to on Boxing day aswell as usually we stay at my Parents but my sister is!!

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

I find I invite people round to ours for dinner a lot more rather than us going to them. If they arrive before her bedtime, they see Ruby before her bed, then OH puts her to bed while I get on with the cooking, and Ruby sleeps as normal without any disruptions.

 

[topcat]

Not pathetic at all. I've been surprised myself at just how difficult this all is to think about first time round. Me and Mr Foo are two well educated, professional people with oodles of common sense, who spend their working lives organising people and projects, but we can still find ourselves spending ages talking round the logistics of a situation trying to work out the best way to do it and it is only something as simple as going to Asda to get some shopping

Haha this made me smile! It's amazing how these tasks can seem so tough - we get ourselves in such a tizz sometimes.

It's quite a good topic, we're in the same dilemma for New Year - we're staying at friends and not sure how Lucy will be sleeping in a new place.

 

[Foogirl]

It's quite a good topic, we're in the same dilemma for New Year - we're staying at friends and not sure how Lucy will be sleeping in a new place.

Take something familiar. Does she have a mobile or a night light or something in her room that she tends to look at when she is going off to sleep? Having something they are used to will really help.

 

[topcat]

Good idea! Will try this out...