It's sooo hard to really think about it now, of course it seems utterly mortifying, impossibly embarrasing, then again so does the idea of moaning, being stark naked or doing the strange 'chicken dance' I did all the way through labour...honestly, it's not the pooing that's scary, it's the whole idea of not 'being yourself' , not being in control, and I think it's best not to think about it before it all begins (the 'embarassing' things I mean..)You just can't fathom what it will be like, but you're not quite you, and no-one expects you to be, not the midwives or doctors or your OH. Most women poo, and as a midwife (I was a trainee before LO) that's precisely what you want, because an obstruction in the birth canal stops the baby coming down..it is honestly not even discussed between midwives, or students, it wouldn't be worth it as it's just a normal part of pushing hard and pushing out, the right kind of pushing to get baby out! I am also worried about it, can't help it, though it's my 2nd. With first, I got up and went to the toilet, midwives thought I was mad and put a bowl blocking the toilet as they were sure I would just push the baby out down there!