breast reduction after i have my baby

[hannah berry]

Hi all, i know this isn't what most of you are thinking about but i really have been thinking about it a lot since my husband told me he wanted to get me one after our baby is born. I always had problems with large breast since i was 11 and it caused loss of self confidence and depression. i haven't worn a proper shirt since i was ten. Not to mention back and shoulder problems. i noticed with my first pregnancy my boobs never went back to the same size they stayed huge and now with this one i swear they grew over night the day i got my bfp. I don't want to sound selfish but i really need this done but i have no idea where to start looking. i went to a generalist doctor who was so nasty i cried on the way home. she told me to take off my shirt and looked at my boobs saying theres nothing wrong you should stop worrying and be thankful you have boobs. then she looked at my neck, shoulders and back which is slightly bent forward almost in a hunch and just kept saying that i looked weird and that my neck should be back a bit more. i left feeling ridiculed and shamed. I just know that getting this done will not only help with my self confidence and pain but also with my daily life. I look after our little girl 24/7 while husband is away its hard work and my husband is always away for army stuff. I moved here for his job and i hate it i hate the country and everything. I just really want something for myself for a change after all soon i will be mother 24/7 to two babies and i have no family at all in this country. can someone please help me and sorry for the rambling.

 

[xxMichellexx]

I've had a breast reduction Hun, mine was when I was 19. I haven't been able to breast feed however it's the only down side, my whole life improved. I was lucky to have in on the NHS, lucky to get a nice doctor and consultant, however with the NHS like it is now I don't think it will be as easy! Could you afford to go private? Xx

 

[NotNic]

Haven't had one myself but I think it's a great idea if you are in pain and it will give you some self confidence back. Try asking a few doctors for opinions. If its honestly something you want for yourself then there's no reason why you shouldn't pursue it.

 

[CastawayBride]

Mine will be done through insurance as well...have always had very large breasts but will have the surgery once we know we are done having children as I very much want to breast feed, if possible!

 

[hannah berry]

Thank you so much for support. I live in France so i don't know much about how other countries do things. To tell you the truth i've heard some stories of people dying from this is it true or is it just those random cases? i had an emergency c section with my little girl. Do they take medical history into account? i was born 3 months prem i had heart surgery to close small holes so i have this huge scar that runs down my shoulder blade to the side of my rib. so i might as well get scars i asked for, that in a way make me feel better about myself. money is not an issue its just i have no idea where to start do i just walk into a hospital as ask to see a plastic surgeon or something?

 

[xxMichellexx]

I think I would do a google search in your area for plastic surgeons and breast reductions, should give you a better idea. I was never told about risk of death when I had it done, there's a risk of death with all surgery to be honest! It is a very invasive long operation but worth it, my scars are visible but worth it. As for the other questions try and chat to a doctor about it! Xxxxx

 

[hannah berry]

thank you will have a good look. is that a photo of you? you look lovely i have a few dresses like that style but i hate how guys just stare at my chest all the time and girls give me nasty looks like i got a boob job or im trashy. i'm happy to see your reduction went well and your happy lets hope i get to experience the same thing.

 

[lovinglife28]

I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience with the dr. you went to. Sounds like one of those docs that should have chosen a different profession as they have NO bedside manor. I had a reduction in my early 20s and I'm still glad I had it done. I was referred to a dr. by a coworker who had just had the surgery and basically mine was covered as a medical necessity as I was in constant pain and it was affecting my work. There wasn't a whole lot more to it than that for me because my insurance covered it. I would start with google and see what kind of info you can find about the drs in your area and if there are any people who've posted reviews and such. There are risks with any type of surgery or anytime you are put under anesthesia, but all of those things will be explained to you and you can find so much info online also. For me I only have a little bit of scaring and some loss of sensation. Which I will gladly take instead of the daily pain and not being able to wear normal clothing.

 

[Rcx]

I don't have any advice but just wanted to send hugs.
I don't know if you saw a doctor in France but I know from experience (I lived in France for 2 years) that the doctors can be so rude and patronising.
Do what's best for you honey, and from the sound of it the breast reduction is best x

 

[hannah berry]

thank you so much everyone i'm so scared what my family will think. of-course i think about my baby and its health and everything its just they will probably tell me i'm being selfish and should be thinking about the kids but i really want this for myself and husband said it's a present from him for all the hard work i have done to give him a happy and healthy family.

 

[NotNic]

My sister has a very similar beginning to you and she had a breast enlargement on the NHS (her muscles in her chest were damaged from
the heart surgery she had as a baby - meaning one was necessary). As with anyone with heart problems, especially great care is needed by the anaesthetist but these ops are very possible.

 

[hannah berry]

thanks you, yes i had ultrasounds and everything done for my heart and lungs when i was pregnant with my daughter when the doctor found out i had problems but everything looked clear and he couldn't even find the scars or anything in my heart he said it was so strange but i have no trace just a huge scar on my back. i am relieved so i hope that is a good sign that it wont pose a risk. i can't stop dreaming about looking down at normal breast and wearing nice shirts. ever since my husband called me yesterday and told me i have been excited. i have dreamed of this since i was 12.

 

[Rcx]

thanks you, yes i had ultrasounds and everything done for my heart and lungs when i was pregnant with my daughter when the doctor found out i had problems but everything looked clear and he couldn't even find the scars or anything in my heart he said it was so strange but i have no trace just a huge scar on my back. i am relieved so i hope that is a good sign that it wont pose a risk. i can't stop dreaming about looking down at normal breast and wearing nice shirts. ever since my husband called me yesterday and told me i have been excited. i have dreamed of this since i was 12.

I think this shows just how micha you need this operation. Yeah like mentioned prev there are risks with the surgery like any other surgery however, we often get pregnant through choice and know the risks it carries.
I think this will benefit your children because you will be a happier and more confident person x

 

[lilmonkey86]

My mom had a breast reduction about 8 years ago, she had some issues but only because she did not do proper research on the doctor, she has since seen a new doctor and had the issues corrected but even with all the problems she had she will still tell you it was the best decision she ever made. Hers could have been covered by our country health insurance but it would have taken much longer as there is a waiting list and its just a more difficult process so she opted to pay for it, but she just told everyone that it was medically necessary as she was suffering pain and numbness from pinched nerves (very common for women with large chests) no one ever questioned it and a quick Google search will reveal that any doctor would agree that in those cases surgery is the best option. Also having a reduction does not mean that you can't breastfeed, if they don't cut the nipple and reattach there is a good possibility that you can still breast feed (if that's what you want to do)
here is an article that may help you better explain to your family what is going on with you.

https://www.webmd.com/beauty/breast-reduction/is-breast-reduction-right-for-you

 

[hannah berry]

wow so much support. thanks, i am taking a look this afternoon and talking to my doctor about it this week to see what he thinks. of course i have to wait till after baby is here but no harm in getting planning out of the way. like someone said to me it's best to go privet that way i get the best care. i will be stalking surgeons around my town for the next few months lol.

 

[xxMichellexx]

If I could have gone private I definitely would have, the care will hopefully be brilliant! Yeh it's a photo of me last year when I was at my thinnest, I'm 1.5 stone heavier now but hey ho! Best decision of my life to have the reduction, it was slightly embarrassing telling all family members what I was having done but everyone soon forgot xxxxxx

 

[Tigerlilyb]

I had a snotty doctor like that once, never saw her again! I find that doctors over here are generally a bit aloof but it's probably because they work such long hours and are always so rushed. No excuse though. Where abouts in France are you?

I've heard so many stories of people regretting breast implants but never heard of anyone regretting a reduction, I really hope you find a better doctor who can get the ball rolling!

 

[hannah berry]

Hi my department currently is la lorraine. I have a wonderful maternity clinic but not so much the general doctors i've been to 5 so far and none that i like. i Notice that waiting hours are long. The longest i've ever had to wait for my doctor appointment was 3 hours and one so long i had to leave. I hope i can get a great doctor our pregnancy clinic offers everything, from cardiology to plastic surgeons. My first stop would be there. i've got my doc app tomorrow for baby going to talk to the gynecologist. Any ideas how long i would have to wait after i had a c section?