Breastfeeding at a wedding.

[Celesse]

Thanks once again for the replies, I do feel so much better now. I reckon I'll be back here in 8 weeks time wondering what I was ever worried about!!!

Can I ask one question, if I can't find a suitable nursing dress are wrap style dresses the easiest option?

Sarah xxx

Wrap style would be easy to get the boob out... but you'd have to get it out over the top of the dress so you'd have the whole thing on show and would need to cover with a shawl or something. Easier option if not getting a purpose build nursing dress would be to go for a top and skirt/trousers. That way you can have a similar colour vest underneath and lift the top and pull down the vest, leaving nothing at all on show when baby is attached.

I'd suggest lots of visits to Starbucks or your local BFing support group to get your confidence up before the big day as well.

 

[Sparkern]

Just wanted to say well done for putting so much thought into breastfeeding! I too was nervous about feeding in public when I had my son. However, I just held my nerve and had a go! Nobody batted an eyelid and I always managed to be discrete by wearing a similar coloured vest underneath my top so as not to expose myself (just because I would have felt less comfortable exposing myself- screw what other people think) The more I did it, the easier it became. I fed my son everywhere. In restaurants, at weddings, at a festival, at a family xmas party, in the park- camping!
In the early days, I was very nervous about feeding in front of my dad and FIL but they were surprisingly supportive and relaxed about it. I remember at once family party with lots of relatives I rarely saw, I fed LO on the sofa in the main party room. My cousin hada baby the same time and she left the party to feed upstairs. Each to their own but I was just pleased not to miss out on the celebrations and honestly- I do not think anyone noticed me feeding that evening!
Good luck and I always found a pashmina came in handy to cover any boob that I was worried was exposed. xx

 

[sarah1980]

I'll promise you this... when that baby is born, you will not give a rat's behind of what others think or such logistics. Your instinct will tell you to feed that baby and at 6 weeks postpartum in a hectic wedding, you will just do what feels natural.

^^^ You were right!!!

That's my baby 4 weeks old (2 weeks til wedding) and I actually dont care now!!! I have far more important things to think about now

Sarah xxx

 

[aliss]

I'll promise you this... when that baby is born, you will not give a rat's behind of what others think or such logistics. Your instinct will tell you to feed that baby and at 6 weeks postpartum in a hectic wedding, you will just do what feels natural.

^^^ You were right!!!

That's my baby 4 weeks old (2 weeks til wedding) and I actually dont care now!!! I have far more important things to think about now

Sarah xxx

Hehe thanks for the update! And glad to see you are well into your breastfeeding now!! Congrats on the birth!!

Myself, I purchased nursing capes for modesty when pregnant, but when the baby came, I walked around topless with double pumps attached in front of my in laws, I simply didn't care LOL

 

[sarah1980]

I'll promise you this... when that baby is born, you will not give a rat's behind of what others think or such logistics. Your instinct will tell you to feed that baby and at 6 weeks postpartum in a hectic wedding, you will just do what feels natural.

^^^ You were right!!!

That's my baby 4 weeks old (2 weeks til wedding) and I actually dont care now!!! I have far more important things to think about now

Sarah xxx

Hehe thanks for the update! And glad to see you are well into your breastfeeding now!! Congrats on the birth!!

Myself, I purchased nursing capes for modesty when pregnant, but when the baby came, I walked around topless with double pumps attached in front of my in laws, I simply didn't care LOL

LOL!!!

 

[kaylz]

I posted on here about feeding in public when my LO was about 6 weeks old because I was so nervous about it. I have massive boobs and can't be discrete at all really, so all the replies about 'just do it' and 'you won't care' and 'wear a sling' really pissed me off at the time because I felt those things either wouldn't work for me, or people were just being insensitive with their comments to 'just get on with it'.

But you know what? 10 months down the line, I realise that they were totally right. I now nurse in public anywhere and everywhere if I need to, and it doesn't bother me. I realised when my LO was a few months old that I owed it to other breastfeeding women everywhere to feed visibly, and not to hide away. We sexualise breasts so much in the UK and feeding in public is a really important way to try to shift the balance a bit.

I know that the last thing you feel like when you're a new mum and struggling with cluster feeding etc is to get your boobs out anywhere and everywhere, but once you do it, you end up with an amazing sense of freedom and empowerment. So wear what you like at the wedding and just do it! That would be my advice x

 

[Palestrina]

I posted on here about feeding in public when my LO was about 6 weeks old because I was so nervous about it. I have massive boobs and can't be discrete at all really, so all the replies about 'just do it' and 'you won't care' and 'wear a sling' really pissed me off at the time because I felt those things either wouldn't work for me, or people were just being insensitive with their comments to 'just get on with it'.

But you know what? 10 months down the line, I realise that they were totally right. I now nurse in public anywhere and everywhere if I need to, and it doesn't bother me. I realised when my LO was a few months old that I owed it to other breastfeeding women everywhere to feed visibly, and not to hide away. We sexualise breasts so much in the UK and feeding in public is a really important way to try to shift the balance a bit.

I know that the last thing you feel like when you're a new mum and struggling with cluster feeding etc is to get your boobs out anywhere and everywhere, but once you do it, you end up with an amazing sense of freedom and empowerment. So wear what you like at the wedding and just do it! That would be my advice x

Awesome!

 

[Katt]

i went to a wedding when lo was about 2 months old. I was totally freaked by the thought of it. It got worse when we arrived at the reception - it was absolutely packed and lo was getting really hungry. I asked the staff for help and they offered a few places - the office, the kitchen, tea room. The first feed i sat in the office, then after that a chair in the corner of the dance floor! No-one cared, no- one noticed. It was really fine. All that worrying for nothing!

Have fun!

 

[heather91]

The baby au lait covers are huge you can practically get naked under them without anyone seeing. Maybe try one of those x

 

[Faffalina]

Aaah I can sympathise, as I am shy about BFing in public. I know there is nothing wrong with it, but I just hate revealing my breasts and esp in a formal setting.

Wear something that enables feeding
Use your sister's room (I assume she will have one)
Or, just practice NIP in the lead up to the wedding to build up your confidence

Good luck!

 

[lightweight]

I went to a wedding when DD was 6 weeks old. I bought a maxi dress so that feeding would be relatively easy. Luckily for me the ladies toilets had a kind of ante-room attached with a changing mat, and I perched on a table in there to feed. However later in the day I fed her at the table as we were waiting for dinner to start for ages.

You might want to invest in a breastfeeding cover - I've bought two bebe au lait ones - and they are so useful - I take them with me and use them all the time.

I really enjoyed the wedding I went to, it was knackering, but I'm really glad we went.

 

[sw888]

I found my breastfeeding cover absolutely brilliant, I took it everywhere with me when I was feeding my DD, you can get them from Bebe au Lait and Baby Bubu or a much cheaper option is Peekabooboo - you'll find the website if you google
Peekaboooboo breastfeeding

 

[dolly bird]

hi i breastfeed my son on my wedding day head of the table lol i feed my baby where ever i did have a few funny looks but hay i will do it all again next time (soon i hope )

 

[katnav]

I had the same issues. I am not confident to feed in public (that is just me) so i expressed enough for two bottles so while we were at the church I could feed him but still see the ceremony (the most important par for me) for the rest of the day I was lucky enough to have a hotel room I could use as i did have a dress that would have to be lifted up to be able to feed (not discreet at all!) however if i didn't have the hotel room I would have fed in the car. I have done this on many occasions, i sit in the back seat and have been very comforable, noone can see what you are doing.

Don't stress too much about it as it may make the day less enjoyable, express a little for the church and then use the car if you don't want to/don't feel comfortable enough to feed in public and enjoy the wedding!!!! Have a fab day