My father-in-law-to-be told us 3 months ago that my only brother-in-law-to-be has assumed that he'll be best man, as he was at my OH's 1st wedding. My OH had already asked one of his best friends last Christmas. My OH has seen his brother several times since we found this out and despite promising me each time that he'll sort this situation out, nothing has been said. I would be devastated if his brother ended up as best man as he has started on me several times in the 7 years I have known him (not physically, but verbal red-faced rants 2cm away from me). He also consistently slags me off behind my back to anyone that'll listen. Why he wants to be best man at our wedding, when he so obviously hates me, is beyond the realms of my imagination. But he rang my OH the other day fishing for his invite and my OH just said that hadn't thought about it yet. He is such a chicken. I do kind of understand though as his bro's more than a touch temperamental. What do you suggest I do?