I'm so very sorry for your loss. It's so...yuck (have stronger words but don't think it's wise or healthy to go there)
I just had a d&c exactly one week ago. I miscarried at 11 weeks.
We have been TTC for two years and boy were we thrilled! At 11 weeks you think you're almost there, you know, past the danger zone. yup, bought few bits and peices of maternity clothes and got some baby stuff for Christmas pressies. Anyhoo... how do you get out of bed?
I am fortunate to have a really cool boss and a supportive place of work. Even though they said, "whenever, take your time" I set a date of one week. I will start tomorrow by doing three days only. then the following week, back to regular full time schedule. Do I feel like going tomorrow? no. But I have to get moving.
My DH has been super supportive and has done...everything for the last week. He is trying hard but he's about to tell me off anyday now. Out of respect and appreciation for what he's done for me during the last week, I've got to get up and make him dinner for a change! sort the pile of clothes growing in the bedroom, toss out flower arrangements I got last week from well wishing family (not cus i'm that crabby, just because they are dying and getting smelly), wash the kitchen and bathroom floors. At least.
These things get me up. Also this forum gives me an outlet and support and easily sucks a lot of time from my day where I might have been soaking my pillow with tears in my stinky bed!
eat chocolate, drink wine, coffee and then... set date to start back on regime of all TTC rules. excercise, vitamins, caffeine limit, wine limit, marking calendar, BD'ing every other day.
I spent some days alone and some days talking to everyone I know who has been through this. I don't know exactly. Obviously still in the deep water of this process. Gotta ride the wave... not a choice for me to sink to the bottom. Feel like it sometimes though.
set some dates and duties and make some wee goals to achieve in a week. Then go from there. I'll let you know what happens and how I feel next week.
xoxo Groovy