We told my FIL that I'm pregnant recently. He has since mentioned that of course, if it's a boy, we'll have to use the middle name of Verney. Um, no. Granted it's his middle name and one of OH's middle names as well. But still, no. OH feels like we should talk to him about this beforehand. I say it's better to just not discuss until we have the baby and announce its name. We're not even planning on finding out the gender. We both seem to agree that the baby is already getting a family name - the last name. OH says we can should give the baby my maiden name as a middle name, but I don't want that. OH's side gets the last name, and our baby will have its own first and middle name. We will decide on that, no one else.