C section?

[Melissa.Feb12]

Hey i hope everyone is doing well,
Im popping in from teen pregnancy , nearly 38ws now !
I was refereed to a specialist due to pre e and gestational hypertension (sp)?
He told me he is worried about my size, im 5ft half and inch and babys head wont engage, kinda on the rim, my OH is bigger very wide shoulders and hes 6'3
he told me he doesnt want me to deliver naturally because hes scared i cant do it, he wants to section me, right there i wanted to cry, thats the last thing i wanted Has your dr told you he doesnt think your big enough?
Can i hear some of your c section stories? advice? how long does it take to heal? when could you hold your LO? does your LO breastfeed ok still? Ect? I havent looked up c sections because i never thought id have to get one.
Should i tell him i want to at least try to deliver naturally, or is that harmfull to the baby?

Thank you everyone

 

[vinteenage]

Is there any way you can get a second opinion? It seems odd to me they'd request a csection just because your OH is on the larger side...that doesn't necessarily indicate and big baby!

There is something called insufficient pelvic space, where your pelvis can be too small to physically fit a baby's head. X_amour here has it, and my grandmother had it and had to have four c-sections. Can you ask if that's their concer?

 

[Melissa.Feb12]

Is there any way you can get a second opinion? It seems odd to me they'd request a csection just because your OH is on the larger side...that doesn't necessarily indicate and big baby!

There is something called insufficient pelvic space, where your pelvis can be too small to physically fit a baby's head. X_amour here has it, and my grandmother had it and had to have four c-sections. Can you ask if that's their concer?

This specialist was the second opinion. and yes thats what they think it is. Does it mean i physically CANNOT deliver naturally?

 

[faolan5109]

You can still breastfed if you have a c section. YOu body kind of knows it time to feed you child once they are out of you. With a normal c section they give you the baby fora min while they are stitching up you and you are awake. The healing time is a bit longer but I know what helped me is to keep moving, dont push your self to hard but keep moving so you can.

 

[Melissa.Feb12]

You can still breastfed if you have a c section. YOu body kind of knows it time to feed you child once they are out of you. With a normal c section they give you the baby fora min while they are stitching up you and you are awake. The healing time is a bit longer but I know what helped me is to keep moving, dont push your self to hard but keep moving so you can.

I knew i could breastfeed, but i heard most women breastfeed within 20-30 minutes of birth, and if i cant even hold LO until much lateer wont he be hungry?

 

[annawrigley]

I know there was a girl on here who was told she was too small to deliver vaginally and she'd need a c section, but she delivered vaginally! xx

 

[rainbows_x]

I think your body doesn't make a baby too big for you to deliver!

I would try naturally personally.

 

[Melissa.Feb12]

I think your body doesn't make a baby too big for you to deliver!

I would try naturally personally.

His head wont engage, and his arm is up stuck against his head , on the rim of my pelvic bone, has been for 3-4 weeks, and he thinks its not going down anymore because my pelvic bone is smaller than his head ATM.

 

[x__amour]

I was told in the beginning that my small stature could lead to a possible c-section but I never paid attention to it and in the end that's exactly what happened.
I was induced at 40+1 for hypertension which led to mild preeclampsia. I was in labor for 30 hours and had effaced completely but I had only reached 3½ cm. I was terrified to have a c-section and even when they mentioned it I started bawling like a 5 year old. They decided to let me continue on my own but the second they left the room my LO's heart rate dropped to the floor. They threw scrubs at my OH and rushed me to the OR. In the end they discovered my LO would just not fit through my pelvis. She has bruises all over the top of her head from slamming into my pelvis from the contractions. But PLEASE, don't make this think, "OMG, I'm having a c-section!" because that's not the case at all, we're all built differently! My mom is 4'11'' and had 6 children vaginally! You should still TRY though! I'm sad I never got to experience pushing and what it's like to deliver naturally, I cry every time I watch birthing shows, lol! They usually let you hold your LO in the operating room but some places they don't. As for me, I was horribly sick after the c-section, my blood pressure dropped from 160 to 90 the second she was taken out so I was literally having projectile vomit! I was offered in the recovery room 30 minutes later to hold my LO but I just literally couldn't, I couldn't even lift my arms I was so wiped out but it's different for everyone! Breast feeding is still the same, c-section or not. I've heard it can take a few extra days for your milk to come in but I had no problem breast feeding at all, LO latched on perfectly. If I remember correctly, I had her on Tuesday 9:51pm and my milk came in on Friday night. You should definitely tell your doctor you still want to try naturally, if the time comes during your labor that it's a danger to you or your LO they will act for what's best for you. Good luck hon, PM me if you have anymore questions! Can't wait to see your LO!

 

[Melissa.Feb12]

I was told in the beginning that my small stature could lead to a possible c-section but I never paid attention to it and in the end that's exactly what happened.
I was induced at 40+1 for hypertension which led to mild preeclampsia. I was in labor for 30 hours and had effaced completely but I had only reached 3½ cm. I was terrified to have a c-section and even when they mentioned it I started bawling like a 5 year old. They decided to let me continue on my own but the second they left the room my LO's heart rate dropped to the floor. They threw scrubs at my OH and rushed me to the OR. In the end they discovered my LO would just not fit through my pelvis. She has bruises all over the top of her head from slamming into my pelvis from the contractions. But PLEASE, don't make this think, "OMG, I'm having a c-section!" because that's not the case at all, we're all built differently! My mom is 4'11'' and had 6 children vaginally! You should still TRY though! I'm sad I never got to experience pushing and what it's like to deliver naturally, I cry every time I watch birthing shows, lol! They usually let you hold your LO in the operating room but some places they don't. As for me, I was horribly sick after the c-section, my blood pressure dropped from 160 to 90 the second she was taken out so I was literally having projectile vomit! I was offered in the recovery room 30 minutes later to hold my LO but I just literally couldn't, I couldn't even lift my arms I was so wiped out but it's different for everyone! Breast feeding is still the same, c-section or not. I've heard it can take a few extra days for your milk to come in but I had no problem breast feeding at all, LO latched on perfectly. If I remember correctly, I had her on Tuesday 9:51pm and my milk came in on Friday night. You should definitely tell your doctor you still want to try naturally, if the time comes during your labor that it's a danger to you or your LO they will act for what's best for you. Good luck hon, PM me if you have anymore questions! Can't wait to see your LO!

Im going to tell him monday i want to try naturally, but what if LOs heartbeat drops and they cant section in time? Like has that ever happened? Im just scared if i do try vaginally it could harm him if im not able to do it

 

[vinteenage]

I think it would have to drop shockingly quick. Can you establish a certain "low", but safe, heartbeat number with the doctor that you'd go for the section for? That way you can attempt a natural delivery but if it looks like things may go poorly, you'll already have an established idea of when you'd go in for the section.

 

[xKARENxBABYx]

my lo heartbeat was dropping for a day they kept me in but its when it drops and dosent come back up that's when they section tbh i section isnt that bad well 2days and i was out of hospital and even jumped over a wall! (though my mum went mental at me) and so did the midwife when she heard i was out walking with my pram! (thank god my mum didnt say anything about the wall) but yeah was gutted i didn't get the chance to push!

 

[divershona]

i don't have any experience with your situation so not much advice sorry hun

i delivered my daughter naturally but ended up with a 3c tear and i have been told that if/when i have another child i will have to have a c-section because of the tear however i know that there are people who have had a 4th degree tear and still gone on to deliver vaginally and didn't tear at all the 2nd and 3rd times! so when the time comes i am going to ask again about delivering vaginally and see if its a possibility to me. different hospitals and area's have different policy's on situations like mine, and i imagine if you made it clear that you at least wanted to try to deliver naturally then they would let you try and then intervene if it became neccessary. If your LO's heartrate was to drop quickly and not recover then they would act really fast to get your LO out safely and make sure that he/she is alright. I know a c-section is a scary thought ... ive never had an operation before in my life, never even had sedation when i got a filling so the thought scares me senseless but i know that if that is the only option to get my LO here safely and with me still alive (aparently if i tear again i could bleed out if they aren't able to stop it quickly enough) then thats what i will do. Something i would say though is that if you do have a c-section then it would be really sensible to have a changing mat that is high up (like a changing table) so you won't have to bend and strain your tummy to pick LO up after changing, it was the one piece of advice that my friends mum gave me for next time, and she had 3 c-sections so she knows what she's talking about.

Good luck hun, and remember it doesn't matter how LO gets here thats important, its that they get here safely

 

[rjb]

i had a c section and got to hold my daughter within 20 minutes of her birth, so i wouldn't worry about that.
they brought her to me in recovery for skin to skin time.
personally, my c-section was fantastic. the recooperation wasnt too bad for me, and the surgery went flawlessly.

 

[x__amour]

Im going to tell him monday i want to try naturally, but what if LOs heartbeat drops and they cant section in time? Like has that ever happened? Im just scared if i do try vaginally it could harm him if im not able to do it

If you have hypertension/preeclampsia, are induced, or at "high risk" (which I'm guessing you are) you will be monitored 24/7. They are constantly watching your baby's heart beat and at the first sign of anything wrong, they will take immediate action. They would never do anything to put you or your baby in danger. There's nothing wrong with wanted to try a vaginal birth, it really is a wonderful thing. Definitely talk to your doctor that you want to at least try.

 

[aafscsweetie]

I had a vaginal delivery hun, so I don't really know a lot about c-sections, but I will say that I think it's always possible to TRY to go vaginally and see if you can do it, and then if it's really not working the doctor will ultimately make the decision to take you to the OR to have a section. I would at least see if you can compromise with him and try that. Remember, this is YOUR birth and you can try to do it your way. But you also have to be prepared for deviations, because labor can be a very unexpected and unplanned thing! Good luck. Either way, you will be holding your beautiful baby so soon, and you will forget all about how it happened

 

[Leah_xx]

Hey hun!!
I went over to be monitored and my lil ones heart rate dropped and the doctor came in and told me that if her heart rate had dipped again that they would make my c section first before anyones else because when i had been in the hospital 3 other times for preterm labor her heart rate dipped.
I unfortunally didnt hold my lil one until the following day because my csection was in the after noon and she had to be put on oxygen and monitors cause she was having difficulty. I didnt end up breastfeeding because her and i had problems with it. She couldnt latch on right and i wasnt producing enough and my recovery was pretty good.

 

[Melissa.Feb12]

Thank you everyone for your replies
I got a call today, Mikahs arm is stuck beside his head and his hand is above his head, thats why it wont engage, so they wanted to book a section, i said no id rather talk to my dr on monday, is it possible to deliver when his arm and hard are there?? Is there a way i can help him to engage?

 

[rainbows_x]

Thank you everyone for your replies
I got a call today, Mikahs arm is stuck beside his head and his hand is above his head, thats why it wont engage, so they wanted to book a section, i said no id rather talk to my dr on monday, is it possible to deliver when his arm and hard are there?? Is there a way i can help him to engage?

It is possible, I've heard of babies being born in the Superman pose

 

[Ablaski17]

Thank you everyone for your replies
I got a call today, Mikahs arm is stuck beside his head and his hand is above his head, thats why it wont engage, so they wanted to book a section, i said no id rather talk to my dr on monday, is it possible to deliver when his arm and hard are there?? Is there a way i can help him to engage?

Iam sure it's possible but your doctor sounds like he is being cautious which isn't a bad thing. My doctor didn't think I would be able to deliver naturally & induced me and I was in labor for about 36 hours it was terrible since nothing was progressing I ended up with a c section , & honestly it was not that bad at all. I didn't get to hold her right away since I was shaking really bad due to the anesthesia , but that is just always my reaction to it. If you need a section don't be scared it's not that bad at all. Good luck & congrats!