Can I enjoy this pregnancy already??

[tamina800]

This is a pregnancy after a miscarriage that shook me up pretty badly last year.

Although everything seems to be going well this time (I'm 16.5w), I'm just not able to accept that this is really happening.

I just got a private scan today because I've had a dull ache in my tummy the past 2 weeks and also could not find the heartbeat on the doppler at home. The baby looked great. She was bouncing around and even waved at us

I'm allowing myself a little bit of excitement now.. but cannot say I'm enjoying this pregnancy fully. I want to start thinking of names, preparing my son, and start talking about the baby as a reality, and not as an object of disbelief.

Ugh. I'm rambling. Anyone else pregnant now after a m/c? Are you able to enjoy it without worrying all the time?

 

[shinona]

It's really really tough to believe that everything is going to be ok when you've suffered a loss. I had a mc between my 1st and 2nd and i found it hard to believe that it was going to be ok when I was pregnant again. The worry doesn't go away but you just have to try and not let it take over. Your wee one is past the most risky part now and the time will start to whizz past soon xx

 

[mammag]

I'm pregnant after 3 consecutive miscarriages, and I'm afraid every single day. But so far my baby is healthy and growing and I'm getting a little more secure every day. Although I don't think I'll be convinced until I have baby in my arms.

 

[AnonymousCAT]

Yes! I had a mmc in jan trying for our first. I've relaxed a little more after hearing the heart beat at about 13.5 weeks, but the longer I have between appears the more the fear that something has happened starts to creep in. Can't wait until I start to feel movements. I think this will be very reassuring. Trying to just not think about all the what ifs though and just enjoy it.

 

[ange0011]

Absolutely! When I got pregnant with my son after a miscarriage I had a hard time believing it would be ok. It was a very tough pregnancy that turned high risk. This time, I got pregnant with twins with an Iui after being told it would not work and I cannot relax again! I just keep telling myself that worrying will not help anything but it is tough.

 

[CastawayBride]

It can be so hard pregnancy after loss! I lost my son at 32 weeks after a doctor mistake. Then became pregnant and sadly had a miscarriage.

We are going on 23 weeks and at times I still feel like, can this be for real?

It is just one day at a time for us....and a whole lotta faith.

 

[hotslinthesun]

I had 3 miscarriages before I had my daughter, and the worry never went away the entire pregnancy. I felt very jealous of my friends that were pregnant at the same time and blissfully unaware of how it felt to worry all the time. I'm sorry to say that the worry never goes away (even after they're born - part of the whole being a mom thing), but you'll start to feel a little more confident once you can feel the baby move regularly and once you start buying things, setting up the nursery, having baby showers, etc. Just know that so many women have been in your position and have gone on to have perfectly healthy babies. It's normal to worry but allow yourself to let go of it once and a while and daydream about when your baby is finally here.