Can I join you ladies?

[KatO79]

I can wait a month for you Kat. It'll come eventually!

Yes, I really hope this time flies by, especially the time between now and until I get AF around January 6th Who knew I'd be looking forward to poking myself with needles

Plus here's hoping we conceive the 1st time around We really need some positive news in DH's family now that his big brother is divorcing and it's setting a damper on things They're already living seperately and have agreed on a so-called 9-5 sharing of the kids (she gets them 9 days in a row and he gets them 5 days in a row during each 14 day time period). Since he had his kids on the 24th (the big day here), he didn't get to bring them to the Christmas family luncheon on the 26th and the uncle (married to the biological aunt) made a bit of a big deal about being disappointed that the kids didn't come (since he wasn't there on the 24th) He's normally pretty nice so I don't get what was up with that

 

[deafgal01]

Divorce is nasty affairs! So sad that he could not bring the kids on the 26th.

 

[KatO79]

Divorce is nasty affairs! So sad that he could not bring the kids on the 26th.

Yes we didn't see the kids at all either since we were at my crazy mother's for Christmas the 24th. Although they can be a bit bratty as the mother spoils them with giving them everything they want and pretty much letting them behave how they want with no consequences for bad behavior

It's even worse since his soon to be ex-wife is a lawyer I think at this point the divorce has been fairly amicable. It was her that wanted the divorce. I think DH's big brother's main concern was for the children. Think the only issue is her and and her witch of a mother are blaming the whole failed marriage on DH's big brother, basing it on the silliest things like he never bought shampoo/soap for himself even though she did most of the shopping so why should he have to go on a separate trip for that if she's shopping Just the silliest stuff. Good luck to her next husband is all I can say, if she even gets one

 

[HCas]

Keeping FX for you Kat. I'm sure his family will be extactic when you get the pos and hopefully it'll help bring some light in. Divorce sucks, though it kind of seems its a good thing for your BIL. Since his ex is such an (sorry if I'm being rube) brat.

Also thanks deafgal ^^

 

[KatO79]

Keeping FX for you Kat. I'm sure his family will be extactic when you get the pos and hopefully it'll help bring some light in. Divorce sucks, though it kind of seems its a good thing for your BIL. Since his ex is such an (sorry if I'm being rube) brat.

Also thanks deafgal ^^

It really is best for him. She was sometimes really horrible. She used to hate me because of my huge issues finding a job plus my family doesn't have as much money as hers (we used to but lost it all). It's only been in the last 2-3 years she started being nicer to me even though my job situation hasn't changed so now we have an OK relationship. I don't think she's a very good mother either. She spoils them rotten with all the toys they want, no matter the cost, and when they do misbehave, there's no warning, she just starts screaming her head off at them I think it's also fairly obvious that she prefers her son over her daughter even though she really wanted a daughter. I remember when they had the boy and at his 1st birthday were discussing having #2 and she wanted a girl (because my MIL really wanted a girl when she was having kids but had 3 boys and wasn't into having a 4th so gave up). She said if #2 turned out to be a boy, they'd have to try again

I think the problem is my BIL was really bad at confronting her on her poor behavior so he almost always let her behave like a cow sometimes Think I only saw him once put her in her place when she was being horrible. A couple of confrontations more would've done wonders for her and have created more respect between them. As it was, she had the pants in the family and decided everything

 

[deafgal01]

She sounds like a horrible character of a person (as a mother anyways)... Good riddance to her but bummer that she's not setting boundaries with the kids and making sure they earn their toys and stuff. They'll only grow up to be spoiled rotten unless your brother's influence helps them to be kind and understand that money isn't everything (toys isn't everything) and that there's people out there with less things than they have.

I wear the pants in my relationship with my spouse but I don't treat him as horrible as she did your brother. I may be mean at times (rude by the comments I make) but at least I respect my husband especially when he stands up and tells me to hush.

 

[KatO79]

She sounds like a horrible character of a person (as a mother anyways)... Good riddance to her but bummer that she's not setting boundaries with the kids and making sure they earn their toys and stuff. They'll only grow up to be spoiled rotten unless your brother's influence helps them to be kind and understand that money isn't everything (toys isn't everything) and that there's people out there with less things than they have.

I wear the pants in my relationship with my spouse but I don't treat him as horrible as she did your brother. I may be mean at times (rude by the comments I make) but at least I respect my husband especially when he stands up and tells me to hush.

She really is. She takes after her mother Her little sister is a really nice woman though and takes more after their father Nope, they don't need to earn anything, they just get and get. They never thank anyone for their gifts either and none of the parents is making much effort to teach them manners. I think some parents have a thing with teaching kids to be polite and compare it to training a dog: "My child isn't a dog!" It's crazy, there's an epidemic of selfish brats that are groing up to be a pain for society and never were taught any economic sense so they loan huge amounts of money to buy all the stuff they want because no one told them about economics and buying what you can afford

These kids have no idea I remember the son being shocked to learn that not every family can afford 2 cars He also demanded that my youngest BIL "GET (HIM) A COKE NOW!" and wasn't polite at all and people just laughed. I can imagine people won't be laughing when he's grown up and says things like that still The daughter once said it wouldn't matter if she broke a toy because her Mommy and Daddy will just buy her a new one, it's horrible They can be nice on occasion but yeah, no way I'd want to babysit those 2 I remember one year for Christmas the gifts they got from the 1st of December until the 23rd of December as "calender gifts." They got some pretty expensive ones and the gifts aren't suppose to cost very much They're not grateful for anything, they're used to just getting. I remember one year DH and I bought the son a board game he didn't wish for but we thought he'd like and we'd avoid having bought something someone in the mother's family (as they're also into spoiling children) has already bought (we'd tried that a couple of times). We saw the kids on 2nd Christmas Day and don't you know, he'd already been given that game So he put up a stink and was pissed off it was something he'd already gotten. He then tried to look for more presents before his father finally stopped him but geez, what a brat

Yeah I sometimes go too far in what I say to DH as well (mostly if I'm stressed or have AF and am hormonal) but for the most part, he tells me off if I'm being really bad. He's not much better either and can also be really bad and need to be told to shut up and be nice

 

[deafgal01]

I think we all have our pressing buttons... DH was staring at me in bed and tried to start a conversation. Um... I just woke up. I DO NOT wish to have a conversation first thing when I wake up and obviously I was playing a game on the ipad too so I was kinda focused on that. I suppose he can annoy me at times. I annoy him too...

Sad... I think teaching kids manners can go a long way in this society. Especially saying "thank you" to people (even strangers or staff in their uniforms). You never know whose day you'd just made by saying something so simple when they're used to not hearing those words or being ignored. I would never consider or compare children learning their manners training to dogs, because those are two different things. My husband writes thank you cards for the gifts he gets at christmas and other times of the year on occasion like birthday cards and vacations if we stay with someone. I don't do that, but I do sometime wonder if I ought to because I feel like I'm being rude if he's doing that and I'm not. Ya know what I mean.

I know when I have kids, I'm going to try and follow the 3 or 4 gift rule. 1 thing they need, 1 thing they want, and 1 thing to read. something like that. I also hope to implement volunteer time in their childhood too so they learn to appreciate the things we have and be kind to those who don't have what we have- they may not be able to do much with volunteering til they're older but I'll find/figure out something.

 

[KatO79]

I think we all have our pressing buttons... DH was staring at me in bed and tried to start a conversation. Um... I just woke up. I DO NOT wish to have a conversation first thing when I wake up and obviously I was playing a game on the ipad too so I was kinda focused on that. I suppose he can annoy me at times. I annoy him too...

Sad... I think teaching kids manners can go a long way in this society. Especially saying "thank you" to people (even strangers or staff in their uniforms). You never know whose day you'd just made by saying something so simple when they're used to not hearing those words or being ignored. I would never consider or compare children learning their manners training to dogs, because those are two different things. My husband writes thank you cards for the gifts he gets at christmas and other times of the year on occasion like birthday cards and vacations if we stay with someone. I don't do that, but I do sometime wonder if I ought to because I feel like I'm being rude if he's doing that and I'm not. Ya know what I mean.

I know when I have kids, I'm going to try and follow the 3 or 4 gift rule. 1 thing they need, 1 thing they want, and 1 thing to read. something like that. I also hope to implement volunteer time in their childhood too so they learn to appreciate the things we have and be kind to those who don't have what we have- they may not be able to do much with volunteering til they're older but I'll find/figure out something.

Haha, I can totally get not wanting to converse in the morning, I'm not a morning person myself I think we all have our buttons and when you live with someone, it's almost impossible to not press them on occasion

Totally agree on teaching kids manners I don't get where people are getting the dog training line of argument against, it's pretty bizarre I'm super polite myself and am constantly saying "thank you" to people. Don't know if I'm a bit too much sometimes but I guess it's better than the opposite problem Although I don't write thank you cards myself either, I just thank people when I open the gift and say something positive.

I think that gift rule sounds pretty good, I've been thinking of something similar myself so he/she doesn't just wish for a bunch of toys I think the volunteering idea is great, I may steal your idea Don't know what the age limit is but I'm sure you can do it in other ways. I've been thinking if I do get a volunteer job at an animal shelter, maybe I can bring my child with me when he/she is older so they can help and learn to care for other living beings. If a kid can learn to think of the needs of animals, it shouldn't be a problem teaching the same about people.

 

[HCas]

Ladies I'm really sorry I'm not getting on as much recently. December wa jut not my month with so much drama and bad new.

Happy New Year though!

Also not tarting treatment this cycle. One thing lead to another and in the end we didn't have enough money to cover it

 

[deafgal01]

Oh HC... that just sucks... Especially when money delays our dreams!

 

[KatO79]

Ladies I'm really sorry I'm not getting on as much recently. December wa jut not my month with so much drama and bad new.

Happy New Year though!

Also not tarting treatment this cycle. One thing lead to another and in the end we didn't have enough money to cover it

Awww so sorry HCas

If I may ask, what happened? Hope you still had a great Christmas and New Year's

 

[HCas]

Thanks ladies

A combination of things caused it really. From me getting really sick and needing to go to the dr. to Christmas itself being more expensive than planned. The holiday were till pretty good though. And we're not going to take a break because of not tarting this cycle. We're actually getting ready to try a bunch of things this cycle to see if it work and maybe we won't need treatment at all.

 

[deafgal01]

Fingers crossed that these simple changes will bring on your bfp, HC.

 

[KatO79]

Thanks ladies

A combination of things caused it really. From me getting really sick and needing to go to the dr. to Christmas itself being more expensive than planned. The holiday were till pretty good though. And we're not going to take a break because of not tarting this cycle. We're actually getting ready to try a bunch of things this cycle to see if it work and maybe we won't need treatment at all.

Aww sorry HCas, here's hoping you won't need treatment and something works Hope you're feeling better. I know Christmas can be expensive. We used a bit too much money on people's gifts so will be trying to save money the next couple of months.

 

[KatO79]

So AF is starting to come today, have cramping and there's red blood when I wipe. Ended up calling the clinic today to schedule my 1st U/S and "Hormone Injection 101" class. Based on what I told her, she said it would be best for me to come Friday January 9th.

So excited to start my 1st IUI and hoping it works

How's it going for everyone else

 

[KatO79]

So my U/S went great and the nurse was really good in teaching me how to use the Puregon Pen to inject myself with She gave me a pamphlet with the instructions (with pictures) as well just in case.

I've been put on 50 IU Puregon (FSH) from CD2 to CD8 at night. On CD9 in the early afternoon I go in for my 2nd U/S to see if I need to keep injecting (evt. change my dose) or if I can soon trigger myself. That'll be January 16th so here's hoping I can trigger soon after

So how's it going with everyone?

 

[deafgal01]

Just keeping busy here, trying to lose weight and be more active but still drinking alcohol. Least I only have one glass of wine Fri and Sat night generally. Rest of time I drink coffee in morning, hot chocolate /soda stream rest of day, or water.

I guess I'm trying to get myself looking and feeling better before spring break. We have a cruise to look forward to at end of March so I really want to feel more energetic for that.

 

[KatO79]

Just keeping busy here, trying to lose weight and be more active but still drinking alcohol. Least I only have one glass of wine Fri and Sat night generally. Rest of time I drink coffee in morning, hot chocolate /soda stream rest of day, or water.

I guess I'm trying to get myself looking and feeling better before spring break. We have a cruise to look forward to at end of March so I really want to feel more energetic for that.

Sounds good deafgal, how much weight are you trying to lose at the moment? Yeah alcohol isn't so good and I think it helps put on weight as well I think my MIL said there's around 100 calories in 1 glass of red wine (she's currently on a diet so she's counting calories).

Sounds lovely with a cruise I don't think I've ever been on one Where is this cruise going?

 

[deafgal01]

The carribbeans. Trying to lose maybe 15 to 20 before that but ideally get down to 155 like I was before so short term to get from 190 down to 175 and then work my way from there.