Can I join you ladies?

[deafgal01]

What? How is it more dangerous to give birth through the vagina (after you've had a C sec once)?

My sister has 3 children. First born was hard for her to push out, so they resorted to C section after hours of labor. Second born was able to come out through the vagina- no issues with that birth. Third one never made it to full term so that one she had a d&c for. I have no idea if she would have chosen vagina birth over c section or what, this is not the type of stuff I talk about with her (at least not yet).

 

[HCas]

Well they did stitch my mom up but since she had no insurance and back in the 80's if you didn't have it and couldn't pay right then and there you got thrown out.

As for how its more dangerous I couldn't truly tell you. This is what her doctor said when we went into one of her appointments when she was pregnant with my nephew. She probably could have still chosen vaginal if she wanted however she didn't want it the first time so hearing it was more dangerous the second just pushed her more towards it the second. And according to her doctor each time she has one it becomes more dangerous the next time.

Not sure if her doctor is wack or if this is a more recent discovery or what. But that's what we've been told

I plan on pain killers and vaginal. Seems easier in the long run and you actually get to see your baby come into the world instead of a blue tarp. If Roger had a say I think he'd want us to do a water birth.

 

[deafgal01]

https://americanpregnancy.org/labor-and-birth/vbac/

If your sister wants to do research and reconsider her choices, let her know that the doctor might be misinformed. According to this, it seems a repeat C section is more risky than trying a VBAC. I don't know... I may not know everything but what her doctor is telling her right now seems kinda wrong from my perspective.

The only thing I see that might make it more risky is the possibility of higher chance of infection if she tried vbac but for some reason had to switch to c section after attempting vbac. But other than that, it seems like everything else is less risky vbac compared to c section.

 

[HCas]

She didn't want it the first two times she won't want it now.

 

[KatO79]

Nope she probably won't.

But I've never understood women who want C sections, I personally am more terrified of a C section than giving birth vaginally. I mean, they cut you open during a C section And if my mother is correct that there's all that pain weeks later, I definitely don't want it unless of course, as said, either my own or my baby's life is in danger and they have to.

Anyway I'm CD4 now and AF has stopped so DH and I are starting to BD every 2nd day Am still waiting for my Conceive Plus to come in the mail but don't need it until CD9. Worse case I think I have a bit left in the tube and I still have some Preseed so I might have enough for my fertile days if the Conceive Plus doesn't arrive in time

 

[deafgal01]

Agreed Kat. That article I looked up says that the C section has more consequences to deal with compared to vagina births. Less pain, quicker recovery time, shorter hospital stay, etc.

 

[HCas]

My dr called and told me my newest blood work showed follicle activity. So now I have to get more done on the 17th to see if I o'd or not. I swear I will laugh my butt off if my body starts working right now that we're adopting and getting help.

Fingers crossed Kat that everything works for you this cycle. If not I'm 100% sure we'll all have the 2015 sticky beans.

 

[deafgal01]

HC- that's some good news! Hope the next one reveals ovulation. It is kinda ironic if your body decides now the time to work after going through process for adopting and getting help.

 

[KatO79]

My dr called and told me my newest blood work showed follicle activity. So now I have to get more done on the 17th to see if I o'd or not. I swear I will laugh my butt off if my body starts working right now that we're adopting and getting help.

Fingers crossed Kat that everything works for you this cycle. If not I'm 100% sure we'll all have the 2015 sticky beans.

Great news HCas Here's hoping those tests show that you Oed

Thanks HCas But I'm not very hopeful with so many failed cycles behind me since my chemical I'm much more hopeful about IUI But here's hoping we get our bfps soon so we can be bump buddies

 

[HCas]

Haha so excited!

MIL took me to Ikea and Babies'r'Us today. It was ablast and I got sooo many ideas for nurseries. It was funny though cause my belly was hurting so I kept rubbing it and holding it and people kept looking at me like "Is she pregnant?" "How far along is she?" It was also great because we got the cutest nightlight and a lion king diaper stacker

 

[KatO79]

Haha so excited!

MIL took me to Ikea and Babies'r'Us today. It was ablast and I got sooo many ideas for nurseries. It was funny though cause my belly was hurting so I kept rubbing it and holding it and people kept looking at me like "Is she pregnant?" "How far along is she?" It was also great because we got the cutest nightlight and a lion king diaper stacker

Wow sounds like fun I'm looking forward to being able to shop like that DH doesn't want to look at anything baby related until I'm actually pregnant, spoilsport Did you buy anything?

I guess shopping for baby stuff makes your uterus hurt because of wanting a bump Here's hoping it soon happens

 

[HCas]

Haha we got a cute silicone night light that changes colors and a lion king diaper stacker. Tomorrow I'm taking Roger back to look at the cribs.

Somehow I got a husband who loves looking at baby stuff almost as much as me. He never stopped me from walking into the baby section except a few rare times I got around by saying I was looking for my nieces and nephews XD

 

[KatO79]

Haha we got a cute silicone night light that changes colors and a lion king diaper stacker. Tomorrow I'm taking Roger back to look at the cribs.

Somehow I got a husband who loves looking at baby stuff almost as much as me. He never stopped me from walking into the baby section except a few rare times I got around by saying I was looking for my nieces and nephews XD

They sound so cute Oh cribs, one of the things I'm most looking forward to shopping for, that and the clothes and the stuffed animals

Lucky you I can imagine my DH isn't going to think it much fun when we do go shopping (hopefully in the near future) as he's not the shopping type But who knows, maybe it's something different when we'll be shopping for our child He does always look disappointed when AF shows so maybe when I do get pregnant he'll be excited to buy stuff for the baby, especially when we've had such a hard time of it

Great excuse, nope just looking for my nieces and nephew A pity I won't be able to use that as my brother's daughter turned 7 recently while my eldest brother-in-law's kids are 9 and 6 (the boy is older than the girl) and since he's divorcing, there'll be no more babies from him.

 

[HCas]

You would think I wouldn't be able to use it since one sister is eternally single and the other is a year younger and just out of college. But life happens. My younger sister was a teen mom and my oldest is a single mom. Then out of my five brothers, the second oldest has a young son that he doesn't have custody of and the third oldest adopted his wife's two kids.

We make the joke that this family can't have normal families. If you are married you either already had a kid or they did, don't expect one any other way. It was always a joke til me and Roger started trying. Still kinda is but now my siblings are careful when making it, if AF just reared her head it might send me into a fit, which my poor brother Kyle had to find out last Christmas.

 

[KatO79]

You would think I wouldn't be able to use it since one sister is eternally single and the other is a year younger and just out of college. But life happens. My younger sister was a teen mom and my oldest is a single mom. Then out of my five brothers, the second oldest has a young son that he doesn't have custody of and the third oldest adopted his wife's two kids.

We make the joke that this family can't have normal families. If you are married you either already had a kid or they did, don't expect one any other way. It was always a joke til me and Roger started trying. Still kinda is but now my siblings are careful when making it, if AF just reared her head it might send me into a fit, which my poor brother Kyle had to find out last Christmas.

Wow, yes it sounds a bit unusual. Here's hoping you soon can say that you and Roger have a on the way and can be the ones who can have a "normal" family

I wouldn't find the joke funny if I was you either I can get really mad really quickly if someone is being upsetting so I'd probably have reacted the same way. Especially if I was hormonal like I am when I have AF Hopefully he won't make that mistake again He probably didn't mean anything by it, I think men are especially forgetful and end up saying stupid stuff at the wrong time.

How did the crib shopping go by the way

 

[HCas]

Well the majority of my family didn't know I was trying until a few months ago. And I normally don't get that upset with it because its really true. I mean even me and Roger have a strange family already XD But AF literally came right on Christmas that year and he said it and it just hurt. I had to pull him aside and explain. He was the first out the brothers to find out. To be honest I still think two of them don't know and I think my dad is either in denial or doesn't know lol

We're just a very strange family

 

[KatO79]

Well the majority of my family didn't know I was trying until a few months ago. And I normally don't get that upset with it because its really true. I mean even me and Roger have a strange family already XD But AF literally came right on Christmas that year and he said it and it just hurt. I had to pull him aside and explain. He was the first out the brothers to find out. To be honest I still think two of them don't know and I think my dad is either in denial or doesn't know lol

We're just a very strange family

Ok I guess he's forgiven then since he really didn't know Don't know if I'd call your family strange though

Most of DH's family don't know we're TTCing either, just my MIL, FIL and DH's grandmother plus my youngest BIL's girlfriend. DH hasn't told his brothers or his closest cousin yet. Most of his friends know but don't know we'll be starting IUI next month. Don't know why I was just asking him last night since one of his friend's girlfriend might ask me how it's going on Saturday at our Christmas luncheon and I want to tell the truth and that we'll be starting IUI next month. So I asked him if it's ok and he said yes we can tell his friends openly we'll be needing assisted conception. I was afraid he'll feel needing assisted conception is some deep, dark secret or something and I'd have to come up with some story I just hope the girlfriend doesn't give me the whole "just relax and it'll happen" mantra as she had an easy time getting pregnant with #1 but first got pregnant with #2 when she "relaxed" (these are kids she had with her now ex-husband) I have enough in my MIL saying this, don't need more joining that particular choir

 

[HCas]

I would rather gear "Just relax" than my mom's "Don't get your hopes up." Only a small amount of our friends know, mainly because we only have a small group of good friends. But now most of our family knows. We've gotten a lot of different advice too. Some normal ones like "Just keep trying" to weird ones like "if you have a 'real' wedding you'll be able to get pregnant no problem", yep thats one advice someone gave us. Because we did a spiritual wedding between only the two of us and didn't have a huge wedding with family and friends.
I was also told to eat blueberries to get pregnant by my big brother's baby's momma. Never heard of it but I kinda laughed at her. I was like really if eating fruit was they key I would get pregnant every other day.

 

[KatO79]

I would rather gear "Just relax" than my mom's "Don't get your hopes up." Only a small amount of our friends know, mainly because we only have a small group of good friends. But now most of our family knows. We've gotten a lot of different advice too. Some normal ones like "Just keep trying" to weird ones like "if you have a 'real' wedding you'll be able to get pregnant no problem", yep thats one advice someone gave us. Because we did a spiritual wedding between only the two of us and didn't have a huge wedding with family and friends.
I was also told to eat blueberries to get pregnant by my big brother's baby's momma. Never heard of it but I kinda laughed at her. I was like really if eating fruit was they key I would get pregnant every other day.

OK your mom's "advice" is worse but I bet if you had someone telling you "Just relax" every chance they got, you'd get pretty tired of that one I'm close to slapping the next person who says it actually What does having a wedding to do with getting pregnant Have they heard of your sister getting pregnant 3 times and no ring on her finger Lots of people get pregnant without being married at all so don't know where they got that from that you have to of had a "real" wedding Are you sure it wasn't a very bad joke or someone goading you into having a big wedding

Don't get the blueberries advice either Too bad it isn't true as I love blueberries and it'd give me an excuse to buy and eat more of them since they are otherwise pretty expensive here

It's amazing what kind of advice people are willing to dish out

 

[deafgal01]

I miss shopping in the baby section. I used to when my nephew and niece were small but now they are beyond age of 7 so I have not wandered in the baby section for a few years now.