Can i join you please? advice needed

[hannah_224]

Ive just become a single mum to my daughter (19 months). My ex partner walked out on wednesday last week after becoming violent towards me first. He wants to see my daughter but i dont know whats going to be best for her. How do you manage the contact issue? Do you find your children get confused? How often do they see their daddy? I dont know what to do from here or how to handle it. Any advice welcome! x

 

[tinkabells]

Hiya,
I didnt wanna read and run, but i would contat like your local cab office and see what they say about him seeing your daughter, as his violent, hollie has nevern seen her dad and he doesnt wanna be involved at all, so my sit is very different xxx

 

[Ash_P]

Hey, sorry to hear what ur going thru. I havent had my baby yet so havent got to the situation of contact and visitation etc. But I have spoken to my solicitor on several occasions to prepare for when that time comes.

If ur ex has been violent to u, and u are unsure about how he would be with baby, then def speak to the solicitor and get advice. U can request supervised visits for a period of time that they feel he is then reliable enough to have child on his own.

Ur maybe better going down it a legal way, that way there is no arguements etc, and also it means that u dont have to see him for a while. U leave the baby into the supervision centre, and then wait in another room or come back, so u dont have to face him head on (my sis went thru this, and it worked well for her until the social workers felt he was stable enough to have the wee man on his own) By that time she was mentally stronger to deal with him, and now they are extremely civil for the sake of their son


Sorry if this doesnt give u much info, but if theres anything else u want to u, by all means ask me and I can ask my sister for the way she did it.

Hope ur ok x

 

[purpledahlia]

sorry to hear that, If he has been violent then like the others say i would do it the legal official way, Im not sure i would trust him. and i wouldnt let him see LO alone if he has violent tendancies. hope something gets sorted out!