Can't believe he's doing this..

The same thing has happened to me (only I'm like your OH in this situation). I really wanted a third child and now that it's happened, I'm trying not to panic. I thought about everything good and kinda forgot the hard stuff (bigger car, need stuff, etc.) until now. We were ntnp, and I wanted to ttc in August, so this whole timing issue threw me off. I guess I like being in as much control as possible. I charted my last two pregnancies for months and this one I have nothing. It's so different. But, I love my kids so much and I'm sure I'll love this one equally as much when s/he gets here. Just hoping for healthy... My hubby is actually handling it better than me.

So, in conclusion, I understand what your OH is going through and I'm sure he will come around. Maybe he just likes more planning/being in control like I do. Good luck!

 

I'm sure it's just the nerves kicking in. I got my BFP 2 weeks after we decided to start trying and it took us by surprise. It took OH a day or two to get used to the idea and now he's like a child at an ice cream store. The sickness, heartburn, sore boobs and me being boiling hot is just interesting to him at the moment. I am positive once we go to the scan and all is OK and he finds out exactly how much we need to get, that's when he will start to freak out a bit.

Give him some time, don't talk about it unless he does and wait for it to sink in properly. I'm sure he will be over the moon by the time of the scan.

 

Hi Zozo,

While my other half and i decided to ntnp i still think it has shocked him. When i found out i had already done 6 hpts which were all negative but i knew i felt different. When i took a digital test and it said pregnant, i showed OH and he was jumping up and down on the spot. That was just over a week ago now, and while he says he is happy he doesn't talk about it much and if i do he changes the subject. I asked him what was going on and he said he does want this, he's just a bit scared, its our first so neither of us know what to expect. Try not to worry too much, i expect your OH is having a cold feet moment, i am sure it will wear off after a little while. Try talking to him properly about the whole situation, find out what it is thats bothering him xx

 

Yeah give him some time, it's a massive shock and life changing. Just don't start to flap around about it too much yet and he'll slowly come round. Have you ever read 'men are from mars, women from venus'? I got half way through but the gist of it was men need time alone to go into their cave and process things whereas women like to talk things through. Naturally this is where problems arise. Just let him stay in his cave a bit and he'll soon get all excited with you.

 

Hello,

Like what the others have said he prob just needs a little bit of time to let it sink in! My DH was the same when I told him about my BFP, but I just didnt mention it and gave him time to adjust and now hes happy and is talking about the new baby!

Men are funny creatures! But we love them!

 

We were TTC and caught the egg in the very first month. OH was a bit disappointed at first as he was "hoping to practice more"...

 

Mine was the other way around I had a chemical in March and when I told him I was pregnant I got the oh no !!!!
Then I got pregnant 2 weeks later and he was a bit more excited about it. I think its the shock of actually hearing those words that make them say the most horrible things. I's sure he's just trying to let it sink in and he will come around