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[LadyL]

Ladies, I am having a really rough day.....

My brother (who is 26) has been a recovering drug addict for a few years. He was mainly taking prescription pills and would do cocaine sometimes. Well, I found out yesterday that he got caught at work (he works at the same hospital I do as an Emergency Room Tech) taking meds and using....Morphine, Versed, and Fentanyl....these are all very strong drugs and he was taking high doses of all them. He's apparently been using for about 3 months. Luckily, they are letting him resign so it won't go on his record. But he is currently on his way to rehab where he will be for the next 45 days. I am just so upset, and I know it's selfish, but I'm mad that now he won't be around when I have the baby. We have always been so close (there's only 2 years age difference between us). I'm sorry I went off on a rant. I just don't have anyone to talk to about it really. And I hate it so much for my parents who have spent so much money on him for rehabs in the past and he has taken money from them. They don't deserve to go through this. I just hope that this time it works or I don't know what will happen to him if it doesn't.

Sorry to be such a downer....I just needed to get it out somehow!!

 

[Claire1]

Ladies, I am having a really rough day.....

My brother (who is 26) has been a recovering drug addict for a few years. He was mainly taking prescription pills and would do cocaine sometimes. Well, I found out yesterday that he got caught at work (he works at the same hospital I do as an Emergency Room Tech) taking meds and using....Morphine, Versed, and Fentanyl....these are all very strong drugs and he was taking high doses of all them. He's apparently been using for about 3 months. Luckily, they are letting him resign so it won't go on his record. But he is currently on his way to rehab where he will be for the next 45 days. I am just so upset, and I know it's selfish, but I'm mad that now he won't be around when I have the baby. We have always been so close (there's only 2 years age difference between us). I'm sorry I went off on a rant. I just don't have anyone to talk to about it really. And I hate it so much for my parents who have spent so much money on him for rehabs in the past and he has taken money from them. They don't deserve to go through this. I just hope that this time it works or I don't know what will happen to him if it doesn't.

Sorry to be such a downer....I just needed to get it out somehow!!

Oh Lady Im so sorry, it must be hard for you all. On the upside, at least he has the support from you and your family. I hope things work out.
Also when he has finished rehab, he will have something to look forward to with the baby

 

[lilrojo]

Maybe being an uncle will give him a kick in the butt to get his act together in rehab.. hope he realizes what an important role he has for your baby lady.. sorry your having to go through this right now.. and were all here for whatever you or anyone else needs to talk about.. Sending some big hugs your way..

 

[_dreamer_]

i'm so sorry to hear that lady

like the others have said, hopefully that will give him a kick up the butt when he realises what he's missing out on with his nephew, and that he has someone looking up to him now. it must be so hard on the whole family to go through, and its not at all selfish of you to want him to have been around when your baby is born.

you know you can always come on here and get these things off your chest and we're all here for you. thinking of you - big hugs x

 

[baby2310]

Ah thanks Stranje, good that your hospital are looking after you.
My hospital seems to be a bit rubbish in terms of keeping me informed about whats going on, sil is having her baby there end of this month and going to see how she gets on, may change to one slightly further away but have heard good things about.
Not sure what maternity ward is like at mine but they keep losing my notes and test results and i still haven't heard from my cardiologist (was told at 20 weeks to expect to hear from him within 3 weeks!)
Hoping maternity ward is much better!

Have booked my antenatal class for 3rd march they squeezed me in as wanted to do a saturday and all classes are full before my due date. Really looking forward to it

Getting so excited for all you ladies due soon, Stranje - will be watching out for baby news this weekend for you! Hope everything goes well x x

 

[baby2310]

Lady so sorry to hear you're going through this, can only echo what the others have said - any time you need to talk we are all here for you

 

[StranjeGirl]

Ladies, I am having a really rough day.....

My brother (who is 26) has been a recovering drug addict for a few years. He was mainly taking prescription pills and would do cocaine sometimes. Well, I found out yesterday that he got caught at work (he works at the same hospital I do as an Emergency Room Tech) taking meds and using....Morphine, Versed, and Fentanyl....these are all very strong drugs and he was taking high doses of all them. He's apparently been using for about 3 months. Luckily, they are letting him resign so it won't go on his record. But he is currently on his way to rehab where he will be for the next 45 days. I am just so upset, and I know it's selfish, but I'm mad that now he won't be around when I have the baby. We have always been so close (there's only 2 years age difference between us). I'm sorry I went off on a rant. I just don't have anyone to talk to about it really. And I hate it so much for my parents who have spent so much money on him for rehabs in the past and he has taken money from them. They don't deserve to go through this. I just hope that this time it works or I don't know what will happen to him if it doesn't.

Sorry to be such a downer....I just needed to get it out somehow!!

Oh Lady I am so sorry It is so hard for a family to go through, and especially when you are about to have a baby. It sounds like you have been through helping him get better before, but don't give up hope. They say it usually takes an average of 7 times before rehab gets a person to stay clean without relapse. I used to work in multiple rehab places, and people really do get better. Sometimes not the first time, or even the first few times, but the ones with supportive families and who continued to get help after relapses really did end up getting better and making new lives for themselves...it's just a long process from start to finish- but it sounds like your brother started the process long ago. I hope this is the last time for him and your family. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and hugs

 

[baby2310]

btw ladies ASDA baby event starts Saturday 14th January, case anyone wants to stock up on nappies etc

 

[StranjeGirl]

omg is it really a full moon on monday!!!! typical! mind you i bet you all that i will be the one to give birth on friday the 13th!!!! i am just not hopeful that the stitch removal will put me into labour! im not that lucky......

im starting to get abit petrified!

congrats tobaira.....your daughters are adorable, cant believe one of us has actually had their babys!

omg this is real........IM GOING TO HAVE A BABY! why didnt any of you warn me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my vagina is just not big enough!

The scary thing trixie is our vaginas are going to somehow become big enough!!! Yikes!!! I'm petrified too!

 

[LadyL]

Thanks for the support everyone!! It means a lot to have people I can vent to. I don't really want to tell my friends here because they all know my brother and I don't want them to think of him differently. Thanks Stranje, it's good to know that people do get better. I really hope this is it for him. Addiction is a very hard thing to understand and sympathize with, but it really is a disease, and I am slowly starting to understand it myself.

On another note....yes, it is super scary to think that our babies have to come out somehow!! There has got to be an easier way!!

 

[Claire1]

Hey Ladies, How is everyone?

I just wanted to wish Stanjegirl and Trixie all the best for tomorrow. I will be checking for any updates. I hope you can enjoy some much deserved baby cuddles very soon

How are you feeling about it?

Trixie, are you still hoping for the labour start when the stitch is removed or would you rather wait a bit longer?

 

[Tobaira]

hugs ladyL

excited that it's almost time for everyone to have their precious bundles!!!

 

[LadyL]

Wishing Stranjegirl and Trixie all the best tomorrow!! Good luck ladies!! Can't wait to hear how everything goes!! I'll be thinking of you both!!

I got to talk to my brother today, and he seems to be doing good. Apart from not being allowed to smoke (cigs)! Haha! I think he's having a harder time with that than with the detox. But he said he's mostly been sleeping and it hasn't been too bad. He'll be moving to a center tomorrow for the next 40 days, and we won't get to talk to him for another week. He's been at a detox center for the past 3 days, but this new place he'll be around other recovering addicts and be attending therapy sessions and such. He seems pretty ready for all of it, so I'm glad for that!!

 

[StranjeGirl]

So glad things are going smoothly LadyL! Hope your brother makes it through with flying colors, and that you and your family are well!

I am freaking out about tomorrow! I'm bummed because the hypnobabies course taught us to not have fear about childbirth, and I was feeling really good, but I do fear the induction!! And fear causes tension, which causes more pain aaahhhh. Oh well, I will try and get some sleep tonight. Wish me luck and good luck to you tomorrow Trixie!!!! Hope we both have a little baby very soon!!

Hope everyone else is well . Here is my last pregnant pic taken at 40 weeks... Can't believe it is over. It is going to be hard to get used to!

 

[_dreamer_]

gorgeous bump stranj! good luck for the induction

good luck trix with getting your stitch out

and lady, glad to hear you've spoken with your brother and he seems to be ready for it. fingers crossed for you that he continues doing well

 

[trixie79]

well guys im sittin in the hosp since 8 this mornin and still haven been taken down. My doc is lovely though and came down at 10 to see me. He explained the whole procedure and scanned me 2. Babys head is engaged and ready. But if nothin happens after the stitch comes out he will send me home and set a date 4 induction. He said he wont let me go over 40 weeks. God i hope the stitch breaks my waters. I want him out, i want to be able to touch my feet again!! Good luck stranje. Hopefully i will have good news soon xxx

 

[workingttc]

Good luck ladies! So excited for you both! LadyL, glad to hear your bro is doing ok, sorry to hear about his situation. That must be incredibly tough on you and your family. I hope rehab works this time!

 

[lilrojo]

Hey ladies..

Best of luck Trixie and Stanje.. hope to hear of baby news soon..

LadyL so happy to hear your brother seems ready for rehab, praying this will be the last time he has and you all have to go through it..

Hi tobira.. hope your doing well, and so are your girls..

 

[Claire1]

Hope all is going well Trixie and Stranje, update when you can Been thinking of you both today.
Pleased you got to speak to your brother lady, hope it works out

How is everyone else?
Oh, and when did taking a bath become such a mission?! Couldnt shave properly and then felt faint cause think the water was too hot..I dont know! haha, just as well there isnt long to go!

 

[baby2310]

best of luck trixie and sranje, look forward to hearing your news!
LadyL glad to hear that your bro is getting the support he needs, hope everything works out for you hun x