CBFM (thread/statistics) graduates TTC,BUMPS & BABIES 2011/2012

[trixie79]

well im home and no baby yet!!!...

the procedure was very sore but not afterwards which is good, i got a cocktail of drugs and gas and air, but felt everything!

the cervix is still up and closed, i think he said it was prosterior?? so i am going in on monday next week to get induced...he said he will use the gel to make it happen quicker.....i will have to get googlin!

i also had my first real internal and omg it hurt....there was a real tender part and he said that it was babys head that he was touching!....i think if the cervix was open he would have broke my waters but he said he couldnt even feel the opening! so i have another week and by next tue i will have my baby!! whoo hoo at 38 + 4 wekks......i cant wait..

hot baths have been reccommended, so thats the plan tonight!!

 

[Claire1]

Aww Trixie! Im sorry it didnt work for you, but at least you have another date planned and can be organised.
Speaking of hot baths, i had one the other day but it made me feel ill, might be worth another go now. Im so ready to have this baby now.

This is a bit off topic, but how have you all been with your oh's? We seem to be going through a rough patch and he seems really distant and has no interest in me. I know he wants the baby out soon, and I have been a complete nightmare with my hormones. Im just worried we wont have the same closeness we once had once baby is here?? He has alot of pressure at work and doesnt deal with stress well, so im wondering if this is part of it? Also, think cause im home alot now we have nothing to talk about apart from the baby, erugh, i dint know. Could really do with out this
Anyone had something similar or words of advise?

Sorry to be a downer ladies xx

 

[lilrojo]

Aww claire your not a downer.. I think we all go through rough patches with our oh's its hard for them and for us.. our hormones go crazy and they dont understand that, or what it does to us.. I honeslty for myself, when i had mckenna-my dd, had a tough time after the birth and i think we went through a rougher period right away.. but once my hormones settled everything was good and we felt closer to each other.. not saying this will be the same for you.. you two may feel closer right off the bat..

Maybe try to talk about it (which i know isnt easy with men) talking and getting things out now though would be better than later.. when you will be more stressed and tired with a new baby.. Sending you hugs..

Trixie hope things start to move soon.. fxed for you

 

[Claire1]

Thanks Lilrojo, Im expecting crazy hormones again once baby has arrived. I have warned him ha ha. He is taking 3 weeks off so its gonna go one way or the other? I have tried to talk to him, but like you said easier said then done. He just gets annoyed!
Im hoping it will pass soon, and we can be close again. He's just so distant
I hate feeling like this, I should be thinking about the baby and happy things, not stressing about my marriage.
Oh well, have to keep my chin up

 

[baby2310]

Ahh good luck trixie, fx'd you start naturally with hot baths and if not only a week left woohoo!

Claire hun, he might just be worrying about what you're going to go through with labour etc.
My OH has had quiet patches too, he's just worried about me being in pain when it comes to labour. He also keeps worrying that he won't be a good dad - absolutely no reason for him to worry i know he's going to be a great dad. Perhaps your OH is feeling something similar and doesn't want to burden you with his worries.
Try and talk to him, perhaps have a nice meal together and curl up on sofa for some you time x

 

[Claire1]

I never really thought of it that way baby, but I suppose it is possible. I also jump from a-z and expect the worst. Will see how things go, im hoping it will pass soon. Will take your suggestion and try and go out for a meal and have some time together. Thank you xx

 

[LadyL]

Good luck with the rest of the week trixie. At least you have an end date to look forward to. Hope all goes well for you (I'm still hoping someone here will have their baby on Friday so I can have a birthday buddy!!) But I understand most people wouldn't want their child to be born on Friday the 13th--even though I was--and I think I turned out well!! Haha!

Claire, I think it is totally normal to be going through rough patches, esp now that we are so close to the end. Me and my husband will have a few tiffs here and there too. And I know what you mean about losing closeness. We haven't been intimate for a while, and we haven't even been sleeping in the same bed for about a month now. He is such a light sleeper, and apparently I've gotten to where I groan in my sleep?! But we both sleep better, and I think for now that's what's best for both of us since we are both still working. I'm hoping it will all level out once the baby's here and we become a little more settled to our new life.

So, I had my 36 week appt today (the dreaded cervix check)...and of course not dilated at all! And baby is nowhere near engaged. My doctor even said that it looks like he will want to stay in there for a while!! I was born 3 weeks late, so I'm hoping that my son doesn't want to take after me!! Oh well.....

Stranje, I'm sure you're busy holding your precious baby girl at this point....hope all went well and can't wait to hear an update.

Hope all you other ladies are doing well!!

 

[Claire1]

Thanks LadyL, its good to know we're not the only ones going through a difficult time iykwim, Just wish it wasnt happening. Im sure it will all be ok in the end once we have our little ones
Oh and hope your little one doesnt keep you waiting too long x

 

[Claire1]

Hi Ladies, quick update from me. I spoke to hubby and said he is just worried about thing, money,baby and labour etc. He hasnt got anyone to talk to and was worried it would upset me and start to cry....which is prob what might have happened. My hormones are really bad at the moment.
He works nights permanently so its hard to have time together sometimes.
He seems better, still abit distant and not showing as much affection but hope that it will come with time. We also havent been intimate for quite a while and think that doesnt help.
Thanks for the support ladies....dont know where I would be without you You made me feel a lot better. xx

Oh and trixie, did your bath help?? Think I might make it a daily thing.

Hope all well stranje, cant wait to hear from you xx

 

[_dreamer_]

glad to hear you had a chat with your OH claire, hope things will just continue getting better. its a stressful/emotional time all around with lots to think about, its good to get things out in the open.

no news from stranj...hope you're ok and have your little girl in your arms by now

trix, sorry to hear it was so sore eek and that it didnt bring on labour for you. at least you will have your bubba real soon though!!!! i hadnt heard hot baths help bring on labour, might have to try that one once I'm over 37weeks.

 

[Claire1]

glad to hear you had a chat with your OH claire, hope things will just continue getting better. its a stressful/emotional time all around with lots to think about, its good to get things out in the open.

no news from stranj...hope you're ok and have your little girl in your arms by now

trix, sorry to hear it was so sore eek and that it didnt bring on labour for you. at least you will have your bubba real soon though!!!! i hadnt heard hot baths help bring on labour, might have to try that one once I'm over 37weeks.

Thanks lovely. Its hard because you expect pregnancy to be a wonderful bed of roses like you read or see in films. Silly isnt it, and life still goes on and money worries and stress and concernes dont just go away. Think I have been over sensitive as well which doesnt help.

Tip if your having a bath...dont have it too hot! I felt a bit faint before. Enjoy xx

 

[trixie79]

claire i wrote a long reply on the other thread abt hubby for you...

afm i got a bloody show yesterday and this morning....no pains yet though, the bath didnt really help as i can hardly fit into it lol!!!!!

 

[Claire1]

claire i wrote a long reply on the other thread abt hubby for you...

afm i got a bloody show yesterday and this morning....no pains yet though, the bath didnt really help as i can hardly fit into it lol!!!!!

Thanks Trixie, good news on the show!!

 

[baby2310]

ahh claire glad you're feeling better and have talked things through.
always remember your not alone and we are always here to lend a friendly ear.
trixie good news on the show, you could try a long walk and spicy food if the bath isn't working out for you, good luck! x

 

[_dreamer_]

good news on the show trix!

nothing from stranjegirl yet? hope you're ok hun and that your just too busy with your newborn! thinking of you.

 

[StranjeGirl]

Hi Everyone!! I am back home. Giada Liliana was born 1/9/12 at 3:32 8lb 3.75 oz, and 20.5 inches long!

I went in at 6 and had been losing my mucus plug since the night before. I was really nervous about the induction. I work with two doctors and one of them came to see me about 7something. She checked my cervix and I was 2 cm dilated. She did something very painful (maybe giving me a sweep) because she knew I didn't want a ton of pitocin so she said she was trying to help me along. My other dr came in at 8:30 to break my water. They waited a little bit before the pitocin to see if I would start strong contractions on my own. I started contractions, but I guess not strong enough, so about 9:30 they started a low dose of pitocin. Contractions started coming stronger and about every 3-5 minutes. It was manageable at that point. Then I think like an hour later they upped the pitocin a bit more, and the contractions started getting very strong and coming very frequently. My doctors came in close to 1 and said they still were not consistent enough but they checked my cervix to see if I had progressed. By now the contractions were very painful and felt like they were coming constantly. I was sure my cervix was at a 9. Well the dr checked me and said I was 3 cm ha ha ha. I wanted to shoot myself. He said we had to up the pitocin and although I love my doctor I really wanted to punch him in the face. I had been using my hypnobabies, and it was helpful, but it was too hard to get in a comfortable position to use it. THe only way was laying on my back, but that was not comfortable for me. THe birthing ball was better, but I couldn't fully relax because I had to hold myself up. It was hard because I was hooked up to pitocin and heart monitor and saline. Anyway, after he left I decided I wanted an epidural. I couldn't stand the thought that this was going so slowly and the pain was about to be increased and who knows how long it was going to last! By the time I got the epidural and it took effect it was a little after 2. At like 2:30 I felt much better but I kept feeling like I had to go to the bathroom every time I had a contraction. A little after 3 it really felt like I had to go to the bathroom so my husband got the nurse and she checked me and she felt the head and I was ready to go. Both my doctors came right away, probably at 3:15 or a couple minutes later, and I pushed for about 15 minutes and she was out. I had a minor first degree tear and as scary as it was, it was a wonderful experience. The baby is great so far and very mellow....always wanting to sleep. I am extremely sore, even though the tear was minor. And I can't control my bladder at all. If it gets kinda full I get up to use the restroom and before I get there it starts to come out and I can't stop it. It's awful!! I can't do a kegel to save my life. My muscle is too fatigued and it hurts to much to try. Both dr's said it's normal for the first week, but the nurses acted like it wasn't. Hopefully it will get better soon. It really hurts to stand, walk or sit. I am really hoping that next week is better. Other than that things are good...just trying to get the hang of breast feeding, which is hard with a sleepy baby who doesn't seem to care if she eats or not.

I hope you are all well. So excited for you Trixie that you had your bloody show!

Glad you are feeling better Claire. I think it's totally normal. It is a scary time for fathers too, but no one pays attention to them! So glad you had a good talk!

Looking forward to seeing all the upcoming babies!! Hope everyone is well!!

 

[lilrojo]

Aww Stanje she is just sooo precious.. so happy for you and your dh.. congrats on your little girl.. and things get better.. and easier.. give it time, and you to heal.. sitz baths do great for any tears.. Love the pics and happy to hear from you..

Trixie hope your doing well too..

 

[trixie79]

stranje congrats she is adorable. im sooo happy for you. i cant believe we made it....hopefully by monday or tuesday ill have mine!!! its so surreal! i have no pains yet....so i think he is comfortable wer he is!

 

[_dreamer_]

congratulations stranj she is just beautiful! hope youre settling in at home well. hope the soreness eases off soon, ive tried not to think about that but now worrying lol. oh well, one of those things!

 

[workingttc]

Huge congrats, Stranj! Giada is beautiful--what a lovely family you have!! I hope your body heals quickly and that you feel better soon.

Hope everyone else is doing well...Bring on more baby news!