CD2 Anyone

[jjbubbles28]

So beginning 5th cycle for our first baby. Anyone else? I am 35, hubby 44 and married for almost 7 years. Finally felt it was time. Looking forward to sharing the journey

 

[jjbubbles28]

No one?

 

[Karen916]

Hi jj,

I am a little bit behind your cycle (I am expecting AF within a couple days) but I would be happy to post with you!

I am really looking forward to this cycle being over. Last cycle, I unfortunately had a very early miscarriage. It was absolutely devastating to us. It was our first cycle ttc and when we found out I was pregnant it was such a surprise and a joy, only to end in such heartache not long after that. I was completely crushed and had a really hard time for a while, had to take time off work, cried all the time, etc. But, with time, I healed physically and have come to heal emotionally, bit by bit. I'm doing a lot better now. I'll always be sad about our loss, but I'm feeling more positive about the future now!

We were advised by three different doctors not to ttc until the next cycle, so this will be the first time I've ever been eager for AF to show her ugly face! LOL. We can't wait to try again and hope and pray that God will bless us with a baby soon.

I look forward to posting with you!

 

[jjbubbles28]

Hi Karen. I am so sorry for you. That is one of my biggest fears and I cant imagine after trying and succeeding how hard that must be. I am hoping this is our month. I am not doing anything special, trying to keep it natural. I am on coq10, omegas, prenatals, and vitd. We use preseed and might try mucinex this month. Had a weird period this month. Am regular at 29-32 days. Got it at 31, but for like 20 hours only. Light red and brown and finito. Weird. Am planning if I do not get a positive we will head to the doctor by end of summer. Really hoping it doesn't come to that
Best of luck to you and look forward to chatting

 

[nomorewaiting]

Hi there. Haven't been on here in a while. I am about a week ahead of you. I am 32 and am on cycle 11 of trying. I am cd9. I actually decided to seek the help of a new ob/gyn for fertility testing on Tuesday. My husband is in the military and scheduled to be away more than half the year next year so I needed get this ball rolling sooner rather than later. I had some blood work done already and dh will have an SA done after his current military training... Then it is on to an HSG for me at the beginning of my next cycle. There is always a chance it could happen this month but I am content knowing that there is a plan in motion if we don't succeed. Anywho, I went back to using the digital ovulation predictor kit this cycle and just got my first flashing smiley this morning so here goes nothing!! (again). Fingers crossed for all of us!

 

[Karen916]

Thank you, jj!

I agree that keeping it natural and low-key is a good way to go! It's interesting, because that cycle, our first one ttc, was soooo long. Normally I ovulate around CD15-18, but I didn't get long-term crosshairs until CD 25, I think it was... I took a few tests a while later, got some negatives, and thought that was it. So at that point we were DTD just for the fun of it. Well, it turns out FF changed its opinion, and I actually ovulated on CD39, so our no-pressure, "just for fun" BD was the one that worked in the end! I've heard that a lot, that when the stress of trying is gone and you can relax, that's when you have more luck.

That's weird that your last period was so short! I wonder what that was about. How are you feeling otherwise?

And nomorewaiting, nice to make your acquaintance as well! Congrats on the positive OPK!

I hope we will all have good news within the coming weeks!

 

[jjbubbles28]

Go, go, go nomorewaiting!!!!
That is what everyone tells me to relax! Its not in my nature, I am a worrier, a controller, and constantly am working, cleaning, or helping someone. I cannot just sit. I feel fine otherwise. Just getting ready for my 2 week stretch of every other day starting Monday. My husband is currently out of work on disablilty for a broken wrist. It would be the perfect time because his job is insane and he cannot even move by the time he gets home. So I feel extra pressure!
Happy thoughts to everyone!

 

[nomorewaiting]

I find the word "relax" laughable as well, JJ. I don't know if I've ever done that a day in my life and to try to relax and not think about TTC..... yeah sure! Not everyone in my life knows we are ttc but those who do and have said you need to relax and it will happen, immediately gets the death stare.

So I thought I'd pass on something my new doc said about the bd during your fertile week.... do the dance more often all month long. First time in my life I had an actual physician tell me to do it more. He said we all get caught up in the internet trap and only bd every other or ever day in our fertile week and slack off the weeks surrounding it. That means dh's body only produces swimmers to last for the average times he needs it and maybe by the O time there aren't nearly enough to go the distance. I told dh this and I think he took this with a challenge accepted attitude HA! Not just focusing on a specific window and just having fun with it all month makes for less stress I think.

So the digital opk I have is the clear blue advanced so another day of flashing smiley for me. I don't think I will get my solid smiley positive until Monday or Tuesday. I couldn't take staring at lines so I went digital and that is all I do beside paying attention to the calendar. For me personally I always thought that temping would put too much pressure on myself and I already think about this process enough. Do you guys chart your bbt or anything?

 

[Karen916]

I do agree with both of you that "relaxing" is much easier said than done! I hope I wasn't sounding like I was lecturing or finger-wagging - I definitely wasn't at all. I find it hard to relax, too as I am also a worrier by nature. I try to work on it, but it's hard, especially regarding something as important and exciting as making a baby. But, thank goodness that we have wonderful sources of support in our lives, including this great board and lovely posters here!

nomorewaiting, thanks for sharing what you were told about the BDing! That sounds good to me, haha Especially after we had to take several weeks off of DTD, we are ready to have our restrictions lifted! LOL

 

[jjbubbles28]

I find that very interesting about bdding. I had heard that sperm don't die but rather get absorbed into the body and then he will produce new sperm. So in turn there are never old sperm, but new and fresh even if not "deposited". I did feel that after this cycle we would get off of our 2 week abstinence just to see if it made a difference. Too late to start that now I agree it will make for less stress, but I think my husband liked his "vacation" .
I tried temping, but I get up through the night and it never worked for me. I did use opks, but found I got 2 surges a month. Making me suspect I have a problem. So after 2 months of doing that I am just doing the frequent bdding, supplements and pre seed.
I pretty much tell everyone about our ttc. I find it easier to talk to people than hide it. The only people we didnt tell were are mothers just in case nothing happens......

 

[jjbubbles28]

our mothers , LOL

 

[Karen916]

We didn't tell anyone at first that we were ttc, although I eventually told my mom because that cycle was really long and wonky and I was starting to get concerned. Most of our family and a few of my friends know about the mc so now they of course know we are ttc. It's nice having the support and so far we haven't had any intrusive questions, although my DH's mom did jokingly tell him that she'd like a grandchild for her birthday present this year, lol. And it's funny that she said that, too, because we would most likely find out right around her birthday! (It would be CD34.)

The got me today! I feel crappy, but am happy and excited for our fresh start at ttc!

Best wishes to everyone for a happy Monday!

 

[nomorewaiting]

I originally talked to my mom and sisters when we first decided to start and have a couple of close friends who I chat with daily who were the first to know. One of my good friends started to try for her second right around the same time so we've been in the same boat for a while. It took her 9 cycles to get pregnant and now has a peanut coming in late October. I still feel horrible for how I reacted when she told me. I really am and was so very happy and excited but my husband was away with the military, I had just been shot down from even a discussion about ttc with my (now former) gyn office, and AF had just arrived so I bawled like a baby in front of her! I apologized for days and days! As for everyone else, I answer honestly most times if friends ask if we plan to have children. My in-laws have no idea. They hounded me for years and have said some insensitive things so they will know about future baby bean when baby bean is nice and happily growing.

On a happy Monday note: Time to start the official tww for me. Trying to stay positive but knowing that if this cycle doesn't work I may get some answers with the HSG at the start of the next helps!

Karen, Happy thoughts for this new cycle!

 

[jjbubbles28]

Karen, onto a fresh cycle! What are you doing this cycle? anything different?
No more waiting, hope this tww is worth it!
We started our 2 week cycle last night. I hope this is the one!!!

 

[Karen916]

Thanks! It's so exciting to be able to try again. I'm feeling very positive this time around.

In terms of what I will do differently, I'm going to try to cut down to one coffee a day during the pre-O phase, and have only de-caf in the tww. From what I've read there wouldn't have been a connection between the little coffee I had and my mc (and I didn't have any coffee at all once I got the BFP) but I don't want to take any chances, just in case.

Other than that I don't think we will do much differently; just BD as much as we can/as much as we feel like and try my best not to become a stressball like last time; it is sooo hard for me not to over-stress and over-analyze every little thing, but I will try! I'll also try to get more rest/relaxation time during the tww if at all possible.

So you ladies have both just started the tww? Exciting!!!! Best of luck to you!!!

 

[jjbubbles28]

I am gearing up to O. According to my app it should be by next weekend. So its my 2 week bedding extravaganzaFingers crossed...

 

[Karen916]

Ahhh, gotcha! Well, good luck and happy BDing!
I hope and pray this will be the lucky cycle for you!

 

[Khigg19]

I'll hang around! I'm on CD15 of my 5th cycle and will O on cd17 (AF is expected June 30th). Got my first BFP last cycle, but that ended in a chemical pregnancy on cd38. I'm ready for my 2nd BFP and for this one to stick!

 

[Khigg19]

Jjbubbles, every doctor has a different opinion on BDing and how often it should happen so make sure you ask your doctor at your next appt he/she will be able to give you an answer specific to your case! We got our positive taking it easy and BDing way less than in previous cycles and so my doctor suggested we keep the relaxed approach and take it easy up until CD 12, 15, and 17.

 

[jjbubbles28]

Khigg, I am so sorry. Ive been worried sick since I havent seen you posting. If you need to talk I am always here. Well, I hope this is our month to shine. My husband got a new job offer today. YAY! A paycut ,but should be a lot less stress and a pleasant work environment. Still has the broken wrist, but is hoping to start working it in a few weeks. Hows your hubbys new job?
Karen, hoping we'll all be smiles in a couple of weeks. Gonna try Conceive plus this round too. Thought about what you said with coffee and considering nixing it too