Hi ladies
Can I join your thread? I must admit I am struggling a little with my faith at the moment because things just aren't happening for us
DH and I have been ttc'ing for a year and 4 months and absolutely NOTHING has happened in that time! What is hard for me is thinking why God doesn't want me to have a baby- I feel like I am being punished as we want this SOOOOOO badly and I know we would look after our baby like our lives depended on it - so I just don't understand it. I know God has a greater plan for me and I can never know what that is but why wouldn't I be able to have a baby when it is the thing I want most in the world? I have always tried to be a good person etc and I'm just confused as to why things aren't working
I'm loving all of ur positive attitudes and pray some of it rubs off on me! How r u all doing today?
Babydust xx
Welcome to this wonderful thread, Im so glad you found us.
We all know what you are going through and have felt those very same emotions that youre feeling. God is nothing but love and the trials we face in life are not because we are being punished, but the word of God says, Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. ... James 1:2-8
Its not that God doesnt want you to have a baby, He sees the bigger picture and that may mean that you need to wait a little while until He sees fit to bring that precious child into your life. His timing is perfect!
Sometimes it's hard to understand why God doesn't allow things to happen straightaway. An important lesson that I am continuing to learn each day is that God works things out in his own perfect timing. Trusting in God, I believe is the key to success and happiness in life.
Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4
Wow! What an amazing promise. If you delight yourself in God he will give you what you want, that is the desires of your heart. He wants you to 'delight' in Him, to seek Him and to love Him and spend time with Him in prayer and Bible study. If you are seeking after God in this way, the desires you'll have will be to serve him and to always live according to what the Bible says. It is important that you trust in God's word and not rely solely on your feelings.
God has promised to give you the desires of your heart, but it may take a while for those desires to come to fruition. Psalm 37 goes on to say ...
'Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun. Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.'
Commit your hopes and dreams to God. The most important point to remember is that God loves you. You are His child and He wants the best things for you. God will work things out in your life if you trust in him. It is possible that you may have to go through certain trials and wait for His answers ... 'And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.' Romans 8:28
God has plans for your life. He knows everything about you. He made you. He loves you, as the following selection of verses from Psalm 139 confirms ...
'O LORD, you have searched me and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways. Before a word is on my tongue you know it completely, O LORD. For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.'
Remember, God has plans for your life and wants the best for you. He allowed his Son to die so that your sins could be forgiven. In Jeremiah 29:11 is says ... 'For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'
The hope and promise that God gives us is that one day we will spend eternity with him in Heaven. This life on earth is temporary. What an amazing hope this is. But for now while we live on earth we need to seek after God and wait for God's perfect timing.
'But those who wait on the LORD Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.' (Isaiah 40:31)
Wait on the Lord. Be patient. Trust in God's perfect timing and he will answer you. Then you will hear him directing you
'Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, This is the way; walk in it.' (Isaiah 30:21)
We need to wait on the Lord and trust that his perfect timing is best. God's word warns us not to try and speed things up and do things in our own strength ... 'There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.' (Proverbs 16:25)
There is a right time for everything. A right time to get married, a right time to have a baby, a right time to do everything. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says ...
'There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.'
God's answer to your prayer maybe to wait for a time before he gives you your desires. Every gift that comes from God is worth waiting for. In the Bible, there are lots of examples of God providing women's deepest desires. In 1 Samuel we read how Hannah wept and prayed out of great anguish before the Lord for a child and God answered her prayers. In the book of Esther we read how God called Esther to a position of influence for 'such a time' and used her to save the Jewish people.
Habakkuk 2:3 tells us ...
'For the revelation awaits an appointed time; it speaks of the end and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay.'
So in conclusion, be encouraged. Wait patiently on the Lord. Trust in God and He will work things out in your life. God will use you as you are, if you make yourself available to Him. Talk to God today and ask Him to give you the desires of your heart. If it helps write your prayer down and keep it somewhere safe. Then in six months time, look back at your prayer and reflect on God's amazing provision for you. God is faithful, trust in Him and His perfect timing.
The other ladies have said it perfectly, and we understand what you're going through. We just have to 'wait patiently on the Lord.' He knows the best for us, even if we dont agree or understand His timing right now. I'll add you to my prayer list, and I hope you find some encouragement and inspiration here! You don't have to walk alone in this journey 
