Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[Sophie_]

Thank you so much! I am so happy I found this thread..I will keep you posted!

 

[xxx_faithful]

I have a question.. So my husband and I are ttc. Today would be day 4 of my period but it has not come so far. I have not had any symptoms of my AF. Today I am having very light cramping and some spotting, at first it was light brown and now light red. Freaking out, we were really hoping this would finally be it :/ has anyone experienced this?

What are your cycles normally like? have you ever had brown spotting/light cramping before? Some woman experience implantation bleeding (you might want to look it up for more info) where the foetus implants into the lining. The implantation bleeding is different then a period, and passes quickly.

See how you go, if you don't get a proper period shortly like your used to then stick it out and test when you can.

 

[blue33]

Hi ArmyWife42886, and welcome! Have you been able to do a pregnancy test yet? Is your af ever late or do you normally have spotting/brown blood with af?

 

[Jett55]

Tonight at bible study they had us go around and say our needs dh mentioned how we are wanting to start a family but it honestly felt like no one cared. Dh hurt his arm at work so they were all more concerned about that I'm glad that his arm is better now but it just kind of hurt that absolutely no one had anything to say not even an encouraging word. While there were women there bouncing their babes on their laps & one rubbing her prego belly I never felt so alone in my life.

 

[Sophie_]

Tonight at bible study they had us go around and say our needs dh mentioned how we are wanting to start a family but it honestly felt like no one cared. Dh hurt his arm at work so they were all more concerned about that I'm glad that his arm is better now but it just kind of hurt that absolutely no one had anything to say not even an encouraging word. While there were women there bouncing their babes on their laps & one rubbing her prego belly I never felt so alone in my life.

Aw that is so terrible, I'm so sorry! That's so sad especially in a bible study! I cant even believe that! Well best of luck to you and your husband! Keep your faith in the Lord..it will happen in his time!

 

[blue33]

Hi Jett55, I'm so sorry everyone acted as if what you and your dh are going through is no big deal. Sometimes people just don't understand how hard fertility issues can be on people since they've never gone through it themselves I think. Stay strong, God will see you through. Hugs to you

 

[Jett55]

It was so weird just blank stares & change of subject. Dh said its because i don't speak up & no one knows. sorry but I don't think it's everyones business. Also think everyone shrugged it off because we're a young couple like young people are automatically fertile or something. I also have suspensions of people not being for it since we're the youth leaders what upset me the most is a girl not much older than me is expecting her 2nd child had the nerves to tell me that 21 & 24 is too young to have children.. sorry for ranting a bit but its laying so heavy on my heart. I love my church & church family just wish people would be more understanding. What seems to be a big deal to one is nothing to another but if a brother or sister is hurting the whole body hurts I just think people forget that we are the body of Christ .

 

[No Doubt]

I'm sorry hun...maybe no one knew what to say seeing how they've obviously never dealt with it before. But I understand it doesn't hurt any less. Do you think you should maybe say something to them? And who knows, maybe they did hear and are praying for you in the privacy of their own home.

 

[Godsjewel]

It was so weird just blank stares & change of subject. Dh said its because i don't speak up & no one knows. sorry but I don't think it's everyones business. Also think everyone shrugged it off because we're a young couple like young people are automatically fertile or something. I also have suspensions of people not being for it since we're the youth leaders what upset me the most is a girl not much older than me is expecting her 2nd child had the nerves to tell me that 21 & 24 is too young to have children.. sorry for ranting a bit but its laying so heavy on my heart. I love my church & church family just wish people would be more understanding. What seems to be a big deal to one is nothing to another but if a brother or sister is hurting the whole body hurts I just think people forget that we are the body of Christ .

Hi Becca! I'm sorry that you are feeling hurt from others not being sensitive to your struggles. I wish people were more aware of infertility and how it effects the lives of couples. They usually have no clue since they have children or aren't at that stage in their life of trying for one.

You know what the good news is??? You have us and we understand your hurt and are always going to be here for you when you are having a bad day or just want to vent. I pray a special blessing over you and hubby today, that God would place His hand on your hearts and give you an abundance of joy and peace, that no matter what anyone says or how anyone reacts to your news, you aren't going to let that steal your joy.

God loves to give good gifts to His children and in due time your gift will arrive

 

[VGibs]

Hi ladies! Just wanted to come in and tell you all that we had our baby! Her name is Ingrid Aleida and she was born on September 29th at 11:21 pm after 3 hours of labor. She weighed 7 lbs 10.5 oz and she took to the breast like a champ. Her big sisters are very happy and thrilled to have a new baby in the house!

 

[Godsjewel]

Thank you! I agree still feeling exctied and hopeful. I have a 5 year old stepson..I really want my child and him to be close! Hopefully the age gap wont matter!

Hi Sophie! I just updated my pic to show you my beautiful stepdaughter, her name is Taylor and she will be 11 on Oct 3rd.

We came into each others lives when she was just 3yrs old and I have been so blessed to call her my daughter. Her birth mom isn't around and she has been living with hubby and I full time since we got married 6 1/2yrs ago. She knows we have been trying to have a baby since we got married and can't understand why God won't answer her prayers. I sat her down one day and told her that my prayers have been answered. I told her when I was younger I had a plan of my own, get married...live in a house with a white picket fence...and have a boy and a girl. My plans were not God's plans for my life and that means His are way better than mine and because He loved me so much, he blessed me with her.

Years ago she told me that God brought us together because He knew she needed a mom and I wanted a child.

She still prayers that God will bless our family with a child and I pray one day they will be answered.

 

[Godsjewel]

Hi ladies! Just wanted to come in and tell you all that we had our baby! Her name is Ingrid Aleida and she was born on September 29th at 11:21 pm after 3 hours of labor. She weighed 7 lbs 10.5 oz and she took to the breast like a champ. Her big sisters are very happy and thrilled to have a new baby in the house!
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Yay!!!

That is so awesome, only 3 hours of labor?!?!?! Praise God, I'm so happy for you and your family dear.

Please keep us updated.

 

[HisGrace]

Hi ladies! Just wanted to come in and tell you all that we had our baby! Her name is Ingrid Aleida and she was born on September 29th at 11:21 pm after 3 hours of labor. She weighed 7 lbs 10.5 oz and she took to the breast like a champ. Her big sisters are very happy and thrilled to have a new baby in the house!
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Congratulations!!! Only 3 hours of labor! She's so precious.

Tonight at bible study they had us go around and say our needs dh mentioned how we are wanting to start a family but it honestly felt like no one cared. Dh hurt his arm at work so they were all more concerned about that I'm glad that his arm is better now but it just kind of hurt that absolutely no one had anything to say not even an encouraging word. While there were women there bouncing their babes on their laps & one rubbing her prego belly I never felt so alone in my life.

I can totally understand what you're going through. I felt like our pastor was only praying for those with money issues and life threatening health issues. I think a lot of the time people assume you're just being impatient especially if you're young. Then sometimes people just don't know what to say. Like others have said, infertility is really something that can only be understood if you're actually going through it. We are here for you and praying for you, and you never know they may be praying for you too.

I'm so happy I came across this thread! My dh and I are Christians and truly believe the Lord will bless us with a child. I have been off bcp's since june 2012 and thought we would just get pregnant when the Lord was ready. Well a year later we really started trying, and charting ovulation and doing OPKs. I try not to get my hopes up by saying "I don't know if this is the month" but my dh alwaysss tells me not to say that! I never really looked at it as doubting the Lord until I was reading my bible Friday night and came across the story of Jesus walking on water to calm his friends fears of the storm at sea. When one of the men asked Jesus to call out to him so he could walk on the water, he soon started to fall because he had doubted Jesus. That really reminded me that Jesus will answer our prayers and send us a child because that's our hearts desire, we just need to keep our faith in Him!!

Hi Sophie, welcome. You are so right. Keep the faith and delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart. My son is a living testimony of that very thing. I got off of birth control in July of 2010 and we didn't have a successful pregnancy until September 2012. God gave us our son at the perfect time. He knows what He's doing, just trust in Him.

 

[VGibs]

Thanks! Ya my water broke and I didn't have any contractions for a long time and then BAM it hit me like a ton of bricks!

 

[No Doubt]

Congrats Gibs! What a cutie! So jealous of your short labor, lol. But glad everything went well and smoothly.

 

[Jett55]

Aww congrats vgibs that's awesome

Thanks everyone! I just don't know what to think because my pastors daughter-in-law & own son dealt with infertility & they never got their own biological baby so I think it might happen to me too. So I don't feel my church is very equip to deal with it. In fact there are 3 couples there that I can think of that never got children. I'm thinking about paying a visit to my moms church because her pastors first wife suffered from infertility & had children also his daughter was told she wouldn't have kids & well ended up with 3 kids so maybe somewhere that's known for getting infertility healed may be a better choice for prayer.

Still praying for each & every one of you!

 

[xxx_faithful]

Hi ladies! Just wanted to come in and tell you all that we had our baby! Her name is Ingrid Aleida and she was born on September 29th at 11:21 pm after 3 hours of labor. She weighed 7 lbs 10.5 oz and she took to the breast like a champ. Her big sisters are very happy and thrilled to have a new baby in the house!
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Praise the lord. God bless you and your growing family !!! wooohooooo 3 hrs of labour. Was it all natural(no drugs)? amazing stuff girl!! xxxx

Hope your recovering well!

 

[ProfWife]

Congratulations on your little one entering the world!!

 

[xxx_faithful]

It was so weird just blank stares & change of subject. Dh said its because i don't speak up & no one knows. sorry but I don't think it's everyones business. Also think everyone shrugged it off because we're a young couple like young people are automatically fertile or something. I also have suspensions of people not being for it since we're the youth leaders what upset me the most is a girl not much older than me is expecting her 2nd child had the nerves to tell me that 21 & 24 is too young to have children.. sorry for ranting a bit but its laying so heavy on my heart. I love my church & church family just wish people would be more understanding. What seems to be a big deal to one is nothing to another but if a brother or sister is hurting the whole body hurts I just think people forget that we are the body of Christ .

I'm sorry you felt like nobody gave you or your hubby the sensitivity you were after. Sometimes when we are delicate over an issue (whether we express it or not) we assume other people to react in the same way, and when they don't, it really upsets us. When things come easy for some people they don't think twice of having it any other way. Personally, the things in my life that have been given to me without me having to ask or work for, i couldn't think of my life any other way.

However, i have met friends different then my situation and have taken the time to sit down with me and explain what its been like for them growing up in a broken home, and the agony and all the brokenness that comes with it. They have brought awareness to me to be sensitive and alert to their feelings when speaking with them. I appreciate them confiding in me, just like perhaps some people at your church would be trusted to hear what you are going through. It doesnt need to be a whole lot of people, it could even be one person. And it doesn't even have to be from your church, it could be from another church like you mentioned.

Ask God to guide you towards the people that will uplift & provide comfort to you & hubby. Don't just confide in any nice christian person, make sure their faith life is the same as yours if not GREATER so they can lift you up and encourage you in supernatural ways! Just because another person has chosen not to continue ttc, do not let the enemy convince you will be the same. God only wants the best for you, and i prayer you will find people that will surround you with love, wisdom and a 'God can do anything' attitude.

xxxx

 

[blue33]

Congratulations VGibs!!! She is beautiful!!!