Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[shorty42383]

Hey ladies,

I hope everyone had a great weekend! I was just wondering if anyone has had any joyful news or praises in their TTC journey?

Hi shorty42383,

I am so glad you have requested ttc success stories. I believe it is truly important to strengthen our faith. If it can happen to the lady down the road, or your neighbour, or your sister. It can definitely happen for you, and might i add even more so !!! As you use the testimonies of success stories to build upon your existing faith, it will happen for you in the most amazing and anointing way !!!

If there's anything i can recommend for you is kneel infront of Gods throne and request specifically what you would like. How you would like to feel and look during your pregnancy, how you want your labour to go, even the characteristics of your daughter or son !!! I truly 100% believe in praying EXACTLY what you want, as your order will come out exactly what you requested. And the fun things is, God has given us the menu(the opportunity and the power of prayer) and we can decide what we would like

PREGNANCY
I had a very easy pregnancy, i had loads of energy throughout the 9mths and was exercising up until the due date. I was infact renovating our house at the time! I didnt have any fluid retention, gest/diabetes, back pain, acne, sugar cravings, cankles, or weight gain.

LABOUR
I was 5cm dilated upon waking at 11pm from a deep sleep, i didnt even know if i was having proper contractions or just cramps! The labour pain wasnt intense so i chose an all natural/ no pain relief/no drug water birth.

NEWBORN
Bubs would sleep like a trooper, infact i would have to wake her up for feeds so she was getting enough food She slept for 5hrs during the night from a few weeks old and began sleeping through the night from 9weeks.

God not only can bless you with conceiving but the whole way through! Keep praying, confessing and declaring what is rightfully yours. Success stories are there as you seek them

Thank you so much for sharing this! You have an amazing testimony. Thank you for the reminder of how The Lord listens to our prayers and takes notes of the details! He wants to give us even the small desires of our hearts!

 

[steph_466]

I love coming onto this thread and just reading everything you ladies post. I don't comment or post myself really but I do read it! Thanks girls

 

[phaedypants]

I'd like to join too! It is hard getting that BFN every month, but I just try to remind myself that God's timing is better than mine. No one IRL knows we are TTC so it is nice to get on here and talk about it.

No symptoms for me yet, still waiting to O. I should O sometime this week though and then the symptom spotting can begin!

Prayers for all of you this month!

Hi sweetie! welcome
It's so nice to be able to have this forum to chat with others, I have been lonely in this since I don't have anyone close to me that knows what I'm going through.

You are right, God's timing is perfect and it's best to leave it in His hands.
I used to pray that God would take this desire away, but it's still there. I know there is a reason for all of this and am thankful that He cares about each and every one of our lives. I know I need to leave it in His hands and keep my focus on him.

Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart. Psalms 37:4

I have been TTC for 13 months, after a miscarriage at 11 weeks last fall. I am beginning testing this month... Just waiting for day 2 of my cycle for the first round of blood tests.

This is so hard.

I trust God with all my heart, but sometimes I am scared to think that He may have another plan for me. Sometimes I think that I am selfish to want this so much--although I know it is what I am made for---but when I think of children in foster care...and me over here with a heart for motherhood.... I wonder.

It's so much to process.

I hope we all can carry on with a peaceful and faithful heart and live the life that God needs us for.

 

[Godsjewel]

I have been TTC for 13 months, after a miscarriage at 11 weeks last fall. I am beginning testing this month... Just waiting for day 2 of my cycle for the first round of blood tests.

This is so hard.

I trust God with all my heart, but sometimes I am scared to think that He may have another plan for me. Sometimes I think that I am selfish to want this so much--although I know it is what I am made for---but when I think of children in foster care...and me over here with a heart for motherhood.... I wonder.

It's so much to process.

I hope we all can carry on with a peaceful and faithful heart and live the life that God needs us for.

Hi dear! First of all, I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious angel. I too know how it feels to lose the life that was growing inside of you. I just pray that God uses everything we have gone through for the good.

I agree, this is the hardest journey I've ever been on.

It's crazy how no one truly understands the desires we have for a child. Women that already have children without any issues tend to joke and say, "here, take mine! or "are you sure you want kids???" and they have no idea that we would give anything to go through pregnancy and deliver a healthy baby.

I wish God would tell me His plan and say, "Sarah, just wait a little longer, give it a couple of more months, I have some other plans for you right now" Unfortunately it doesn't happen that way. He wants us to continue to have faith that it will happen when all seems dim.

Praying for you and your hubby during this ttc journey.

 

[Godsjewel]

“I never thought I’d face infertility. God gave me such a desire to be a mother! I wish He’d either let me get pregnant or take the desire away!”

Have you heard this statement before? I’ll bet you’ve even said it yourself! Why would God place such an intense desire in your heart, yet withhold the fulfillment of that desire from you? Could it be that He didn’t know you would be infertile when He gave you the desire to be a mother? No, we know God is all-knowing. (He counts the number of the stars; He gives names to all of them. Great is our Lord and abundant in strength; His understanding is infinite. Psalm 147:4-5) He knew you would struggle every day with your unmet desire for motherhood versus the physical reality of childlessness, yet He allowed infertility to be a part of His plan for your life anyway.

Our God is an “Anyway God”. On the surface, His plan may seem to contradict itself. Giving an infertile woman in intense desire to have a baby seems contradictory, doesn’t it? However, if you will serve God with an “Anyway Faith”, you’ll see that God works through confusing situations in ways you never could have expected.

Consider some of the people in the Bible who served our “Anyway God” with “Anyway Faith”:

75 year old Abraham was promised a child. The “Anyway God” knew how old Abraham was but still said a baby would come. He faced his 80th birthday, his 85th birthday, his 90th birthday. Still no baby, but Abraham chose to believe God anyway. Abraham’s “Anyway Faith” collided with our “Anyway God” and Isaac was born.

Daniel knew that King Darius had signed a law demanding that if anyone prayed to any god or man besides himself that he would be thrown into a den of lions. Daniel, full of “Anyway Faith”, went to the roof of his house and prayed anyway. God knew Daniel was being faithful to Him, yet our “Anyway God” allowed him to be thrown into the lions’ den, rather than rescue him. Why? The answer is found in Daniel 6:23: ...no injury whatever was found on him, because he had trusted in his God. What God? His “Anyway God”! What happened as a result of Daniel trusting His “Anyway God” with “Anyway Faith”? Then Darius the king wrote to all the peoples, nations and men of every language who were living in all the land: “May your peace abound! I make a decree that in all the dominion of my kingdom men are to fear and tremble before the God of Daniel!”

Is it always easy to find “Anyway Faith” in your “Anyway God”? Not only is it sometimes hard, but you sometimes have to stand alone. Job faced unparalleled tragedy and had to find “Anyway Faith” without the support of his spouse. Job’s “Anyway God” knew he loved his family and prayed for them everyday. However, in the course of one day, Job lost all of his material belongings, and most devastating, he lost all 10 of his children. Following these unimaginable losses, Job also lost his health. What more could he lose? He lost the support of his wife. “Curse God and die, Job!” she said. (Job 2:9)

Through his tears, his grief and his physical battles, Job found his “Anyway Faith”. It’s recorded for us in Job 13:15: “Though He slay me, I will hope in Him.” We could translate it this way: Even though God knew I loved my life, He knew I loved my children, He chose to allow these things anyway. Even so, I will hope in Him anyway. I trust Him anyway. What’s the end of Job’s story? Double blessings. Read it for yourself in Job 42:10-17. Even with “Anyway Faith”, Job still questioned God. He ranted and raved. He cried and suffered. But our “Anyway God” blessed him...anyway!

If you’re wondering about your “Anyway God’s” plan for your life because He has allowed infertility to be a part of His plan for you anyway, I pray that you will trust Him completely anyway. Love Him anyway. Serve Him anyway. You’ll find that He has blessings in store for you...anyway!

-Beth Forbus

 

[xxx_faithful]

I have been TTC for 13 months, after a miscarriage at 11 weeks last fall. I am beginning testing this month... Just waiting for day 2 of my cycle for the first round of blood tests.

This is so hard.

I trust God with all my heart, but sometimes I am scared to think that He may have another plan for me. Sometimes I think that I am selfish to want this so much--although I know it is what I am made for---but when I think of children in foster care...and me over here with a heart for motherhood.... I wonder.

It's so much to process.

I hope we all can carry on with a peaceful and faithful heart and live the life that God needs us for.

Welcome phaedypants,

Leave your shoes at the door and come and sit down in here with us

I am always saddened to hear of peoples losses, its almost as if it comes hand in hand, woman who are ttc are woman who have also had to go through loss, like one isn't hard enough to go through!

I will never ever understand or comprehend the whole ordeal of ttc and why some people go through it while others don't, but i do know one thing i am sure of, is that i am proud.

PROUD you might say?

Proud in the way that i would never actually say to another woman who hasn't had any difficulty, but secretly i know a few more things than her.

I know i am braver because i have had to struggle for what is in my hands.
I know i was hand picked, and chosen by the one person who knows i could walk through the fire, and make it out alive.
I know i am a little more grateful, a little more wiser, and somewhere along the line, im changed for the better. And no-one looking into the situation will never get why we keep smiles on our faces when our children are crying, or why we aren't upset that we are waking up in the middle of night. Yes, we have a secret that no-one else knows.

Phaedypants, you aren't selfish for desiring a child, that would make all of us selfish for ever wanting to expand the kingdom of God! We need as many little soldiers that will fight for Gods glory as we can, in the interim, ask God to equip you as the head of these soldiers that you will direct and influence them, for good and for God. You WILL be blessed, just keeping drawing into God. He will give you the guidance that you need to live, day in day out.



xxx_faithful

 

[phaedypants]

Thank you both for sharing your faith.

I didn't know whether it would help me to join a forum, and I wavered for a long time... reading one or two, but not connecting. But when I saw your group, I knew that I should connect, because it is both my fertility and my faith that I am working so hard to nourish.

I do know that my greatest prayers are for faith--even greater than the prayers for motherhood. My better self knows triumphantly that God will lead me down a path that He has chosen for me, and that nothing other than that truth really matters.... But sometimes, when my period arrives and crumbles all of my built up hopes, I am not my better self in that moment.

I am inspired that outlet can help me work on both fertility hopes and faith.

I feel like my faith is stronger even reading these messages!

 

[blue33]

I have been TTC for 13 months, after a miscarriage at 11 weeks last fall. I am beginning testing this month... Just waiting for day 2 of my cycle for the first round of blood tests.

This is so hard.

I trust God with all my heart, but sometimes I am scared to think that He may have another plan for me. Sometimes I think that I am selfish to want this so much--although I know it is what I am made for---but when I think of children in foster care...and me over here with a heart for motherhood.... I wonder.

It's so much to process.

I hope we all can carry on with a peaceful and faithful heart and live the life that God needs us for.

Welcome phaedypants,

Leave your shoes at the door and come and sit down in here with us

I am always saddened to hear of peoples losses, its almost as if it comes hand in hand, woman who are ttc are woman who have also had to go through loss, like one isn't hard enough to go through!

I will never ever understand or comprehend the whole ordeal of ttc and why some people go through it while others don't, but i do know one thing i am sure of, is that i am proud.

PROUD you might say?

Proud in the way that i would never actually say to another woman who hasn't had any difficulty, but secretly i know a few more things than her.

I know i am braver because i have had to struggle for what is in my hands.
I know i was hand picked, and chosen by the one person who knows i could walk through the fire, and make it out alive.
I know i am a little more grateful, a little more wiser, and somewhere along the line, im changed for the better. And no-one looking into the situation will never get why we keep smiles on our faces when our children are crying, or why we aren't upset that we are waking up in the middle of night. Yes, we have a secret that no-one else knows.




Faithful, that was beautifully put!!

 

[ProfWife]

Ladies,

I've noticed how much better I feel when doing something, even small, that is "beyond" myself. If you have time, an old Christmas card and a stamp, here is something you could do as well.

A 13-year-old in Ohio has incurable brain cancer and potentially only weeks to live. If anyone would like to send a Christmas card to him, here is the news story. The info for mailing is at the bottom of the article.

https://www.wesh.com/news/national-...as/-/11788232/22811770/-/cd7jphz/-/index.html

 

[phaedypants]

Just today I was thinking of this same idea. I have cried so many heart-felt prayers to God that I will be blessed with a baby, but today I was reminded of my promises to Him. I know there are ways I still resist His guidance in leading a Christian life, but I know he honors my prayers even so.

If I can focus on fulfilling my promises to Him, I know He will grow my faith and reveal His plans for me.

 

[Alr83]

Wow, faithful...i loved these words. Thank you!

PROUD you might say?

Proud in the way that i would never actually say to another woman who hasn't had any difficulty, but secretly i know a few more things than her.

I know i am braver because i have had to struggle for what is in my hands.
I know i was hand picked, and chosen by the one person who knows i could walk through the fire, and make it out alive.
I know i am a little more grateful, a little more wiser, and somewhere along the line, im changed for the better. And no-one looking into the situation will never get why we keep smiles on our faces when our children are crying, or why we aren't upset that we are waking up in the middle of night. Yes, we have a secret that no-one knows

 

[Godsjewel]

What is it like for a man who suffers from infertility? In some ways, I think it must be more difficult for him than for the woman who struggles. A woman can bear her soul to her friends and her sisters. How does a man confide in his buddies that he cannot impregnate his wife? It is so unfair, but when a man is told by his physician that his “boys” have poor morphology or mobility, he almost instantly feels as if he is less of a man.

Perhaps male factor infertility has become the third party in your marriage. What an unwelcome companion! If any person ever tried to enter your home and belittle your husband, you’d never stand for it. You’d kick them out of your house, and dare them to ever even think of returning. A low sperm count reminds him of his inability to help you conceive in every intimate moment the two of you have. You never stood at the altar and gazed lovingly into his eyes and promised to love him “as long as you are amazingly fertile”, but somehow, a man with a fertility issue feels as if he has failed his wife.

Look at a couple of the men in Scripture who had to trust God for children. How did God see them? God called Abraham his friend. What an honor! (And the Scripture was fulfilled which says, " And Abraham believed God, and it was reckoned to him as righteousness," and he was called the friend of God. James 3:23) According to Luke 1, 6, Zacharias was upright in the sight of God, observing all the Lord's commandments and regulations blamelessly. Did God see them as less worthy men? Not at all! They were men upon whom He chose to build the foundations of the church. Abraham would be the father of nations and through him all people would be blessed. Zacharias would raise the fore-runner of the Messiah, yet at one time, both of these men were one half of an infertile couple. God saw unimaginable worth in these men. He saw past infertility’s influence on their lives, and saw what He could make of them.

If your husband suffers from male factor infertility, why not make today about him? Chances are, if you are blessed with friends or family who understand your struggle to conceive, they offer you support far more than they offer your husband support. Most people don’t understand that infertility can be a man’s problem as well as a woman’s problem. Remind your husband why you love him. When you first met him and fell in love with him, what was it about him that made your heart skip a beat? I’ll bet it wasn’t his sperm count! Did the dimple in his chin make your knees go weak? Tell him. Were you gushing like a school girl over the way he sang off-key on a walk to the park? Take another walk today and reminisce. Help him realize that fathering a child is not the only thing you want him for. Remind him how manly he is to you. As you support and encourage him, you may just find your own burden lifting.

An excellent husband, who can find?

For his worth is far above jewels, no matter his fertility.

The heart of his wife trusts in him,

And she will have no lack of gain.

(Based on Proverbs 31:10-11)

-Beth Forbus

 

[xxx_faithful]

Hi Ladies

I was just going through some worship music from my church back home in Australia. I want to share with you one of their songs, "We've come alive."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i_UMjjITL1o


xxx_faithful

 

[blue33]

Hi ladies. I am having my surgery to unblock my tubes Friday morning at 9am. Please say a prayer for me. Thank you all in advance!

 

[xxx_faithful]

Hi ladies. I am having my surgery to unblock my tubes Friday morning at 9am. Please say a prayer for me. Thank you all in advance!

Will do my love! This is great news, i would be excited if i was you. Only good can come from this. Your clearing the path for a baby to enter your lives.. yay Let us know how you go on Friday, don't forget to pray a quick prayer before you go in to ease any nerves.


xxx_faithful

 

[ProfWife]

Will be praying. Scary but exciting!

 

[Godsjewel]

Hi ladies. I am having my surgery to unblock my tubes Friday morning at 9am. Please say a prayer for me. Thank you all in advance!

Everything is going to go well, in Jesus name!!!

Please keep us updated

 

[Godsjewel]

The mind of man plans his way,
But the LORD directs his steps.
Proverbs 16:9

Many plans are in a man’s heart,
But the counsel of the LORD will stand.
Proverbs 19:21

When you stood at an altar as an excited bride and gazed lovingly at the handsome groom at your side, what plans had you laid for your future? You had probably spent hours coordinating every minute detail of your wedding plans, down to the specific color of the napkins at the reception. The honeymoon was planned and was the perfect get-away for the perfect newlyweds. Your future couldn’t look brighter. You had the jobs you had always dreamed of, and you were moving up the career ladders just as you had planned. Everything was going just as you always knew it would. Life was unfolding beautifully, until you tried to get pregnant.

Just as you had done with everything else, you planned just when you wanted to have a baby. You knew just when you want to conceive and had no reason to believe it would happen outside of your timing. Small delays at the onset were no reason for concern, but months turned to years and your plans fell apart. What was happening? Why wouldn’t God allow you to have a baby when so many others conceive so easily? Didn’t He know you wanted a baby more than you desired your next breath? Why is it that the dream most precious to you is the one that seems most out of reach?

Infertility can cause such a crisis in your faith. It can make you feel that God has abandoned you and has nothing to do with you anymore. You may have sensed His presence in such a real way in your life, but now it seems that He is nowhere to be found. How ironic it is that just when we believe God is so far away, He is really so close and is directing our steps.

You may think the casual meeting of a new friend at church is coincidence, until you find that she too has experienced infertility. The Lord has ordered your steps toward someone who understands your struggle. Your Bible falls open to a Scripture that speaks to the hurt your heart feels when your period starts again. Happenstance? No. God’s counsel knows just the word you need to heal your wounded heart. In an unusual move, you turn on the television just in time to see an interview with a local doctor who specializes in the disease you’ve been diagnosed with. The Lord has ordered your steps toward a physician who has the expertise you need. You pray about being able to conceive, yet you feel the Lord whispering to your heart about adoption. His counsel to your heart is wise. If He had allowed you to follow the plan you had designed for your life, you would miss out on the blessings He has designed for you. He loves you enough to allow you to escape your own plans and lead you in the way He lovingly designed for you--even if that plan involves infertility.

God has a mighty plan for your life. Plans to prosper you and not harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11) When you come to the manifestation of the plan He has for you, I believe you’ll look with gratitude at the journey He has brought you through and you’ll feel blessed.

 

[blue33]

Thank you ladies!! I will definitely let you know how it goes.
Faithful, I will definitely be saying a prayer before I go in!

 

[Godsjewel]

Carol’s life is one of faithfulness. More than merely spoken words, her life has exemplified her rock-solid belief in God even in times when He doesn’t answer prayers as she has prayed He would.

For some time, Carol and her family cried out to God to heal her father of cancer. The cruel disease taunted her dad and wracked his body with pain, yet Carol quoted Scripture and steadfastly believed God for his healing. Up until the day of his death, she remained sure that God would turn things around and amaze all the physicians working his case and heal his mortal body. The miracle didn’t come. Carol’s dad left behind a hurting and confused daughter when he went to be with the Lord.

However, in the decade since her father’s death, Carol has remained faithful to the God who didn’t answer her prayer as she begged Him to. It’s not that He didn’t answer her prayer. It’s just that He had a greater plan. In reality, He answered all of Carol’s prayers and has even gone beyond what she asked Him for. In her grief and inability to fully see God’s plan at the time, Carol was steadfast in her service to God. Today it’s a little easier to see how Carol’s miracle did come. Perhaps not the way she asked for. Not the way she expected it to come. Not in the form of God healing her father’s body. But today, God is rewarding Carol’s faithfulness to Him whether she understood His plan or not. And today, you can see that her miracle did come.

You see, even in her grief, Carol faithfully took her young nephews to church when their parents didn’t attend. They know Carol served God even though He didn’t heal her dad. She brought them to the house of the Lord, and taught them to serve the God who said “no” to her cries because she trusted Him despite her heartache. Today those little boys are teenagers who faithfully serve God themselves. Would they have served God if Carol had given up on Him? Who could know? The reality is those boys watched Carol trust God even when His plan didn’t make sense to her, and there were were times she couldn’t hear His voice. In a very real way, through the salvation of her nephews, her miracle did come. Carol’s mom stayed active in her church even when she had to attend without her husband. People in her church know that she wanted God to heal him. People have watched her love God alone. Her testimony has stayed strong and today she is a vital part of the ministry her church has to people who are sick and hospitalized. She comforts others who hurt like she did. Their miracle did come. Perhaps most precious to Carol, her siblings who didn’t serve God during their dad’s illness and death have come to the saving knowledge of Jesus Christ. More than anyone on the planet, they know how faithful Carol has been. Oh, yes, Carol will tell you. As she watched her siblings come to Christ, she knew her miracle did come. Not in the way they wanted. Not in the way they expected. But others have seen the grace of God because of the trials they have gone through, others watched Carol’s faithfulness through the trial of her life and one by one their miracles have come.

What does this have to do with you and your desire for a baby? Let Carol’s story remind you that God doesn’t always work the way you think He will. Let her faithfulness in the midst of confusion encourage you that just because God doesn’t work things the way you thought He would, it doesn’t mean that He doesn’t work things for your good. You may have just had a month where you really thought you were pregnant, only to find out your period was just a few days late. God didn’t allow a pregnancy. Does that mean He never will? Not necessarily. Perhaps it means that your faithfulness in this disappointment will be an opportunity to showcase the goodness of God to someone who needs it.

If God isn’t working through your infertility saga the way you though He would, frustrated friend, don’t give up! Miracles do come. God does answer prayers. It’s just that sometimes, He brings miracles wrapped in surprises and answers prayers in ways we never could have imagined. Just ask Abraham and Sarah. Talk to Jacob, Rachel, Elizabeth.

Or Carol. She’ll tell you--her miracles did come.