Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

2 Corinthians 4:18 (NIV) “So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”


In an effort to escape the brutal summer heat of South Florida, our family headed to the beautiful mountains of North Carolina. The Blue Ridge Parkway is one of our favorite spots for hiking, so we planned a day trip that included exploring a few hiking trails, a picnic and a visit to the beautiful and historic colonial home of Carl Sandburg. We woke to discover the beautiful weather of the day before had dissolved into a soupy mix of drizzle and fog, but we were not about to let a little fog and rain deter us from our original plan. We had been vacationing in North Carolina for years and knew fog is a common occurrence – even in the summer. We piled into our van and made our way up the mountain. The closer we got to the Sandburg home, the heavier the fog became. In fact, when we arrived, the fog was so thick we could barely see the walkway leading to the gift shop where we needed to purchase tickets for the tour of the home and grounds. We decided we would have to come back another day for the tour, but since we were already at the gift shop, it wouldn’t hurt to do a little browsing.
The shop owner greeted us warmly and asked if we would like to purchase tickets for the guided tour scheduled to leave in an hour. Always the diplomat, I responded, “Are you kidding me? Have you looked outside?” The owner smiled and said, “Oh, you mean the fog? It will be gone in a little while. Now – how many tickets do you need?” I don’t like pushy salesmen, even when they are sweet and kind – and maybe a little near-sighted. “I think we will just wait and see if the fog actually lifts,” I responded, convinced the thick fog would last all day, and resumed my browsing. I lost track of time and was surprised to hear the owner announce, “The tour is leaving in 15 minutes. This is our final call for tickets.” I walked out of the gift shop to discover the fog really was lifting and the skies were actually beginning to clear. I couldn’t believe my eyes! Within minutes, the sun was shining – as if the fog had never existed.
It sometimes feels as if the fog of doubt and fear of darkness will never lift from our lives. The promises of God seem to get swallowed up by the problems we face. We want to curse our crisis – not praise God in the midst of that crisis. The hurt and pain overwhelm our faith, and we lose sight of the fact that this world is not our home and the troubles we face are only temporary. Lift up your eyes, girlfriend. Fix your heart and mind on God – He is with you – and makes every problem point to a promise.

Promise of direction** Proverbs 20:30 “Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways.”
God uses problems to show us the way. We would walk through the wrong door if He didn’t close it. Years ago, I dated a young man I thought I would marry. I began to pray, “Lord, if he is not the one, just close the door.” The very next conversation I had with this young man ended our relationship and resulted in my taking a church staff position that led me to Dan Southerland.

Promise of correction** Psalm 119:71-72 “It was the best thing that could have happened to me, for it taught me to pay attention to your laws.”
God uses problems to correct us. When our daughter was a toddler, she was fascinated with electrical outlets. Nothing we said or did seemed to deter her … until the day she stuck a safety pin in the outlet. “Ouch!” she cried, holding up her little red finger for me to kiss. She never played with an outlet again.

Promise of protection** Genesis 50:20 “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good.”
A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it keeps you from being hurt by something more serious. I dreaded taking our children to get their immunization shots. I took a healthy child to the doctor and came home with a little one who was fussy, sore and running a low grade temperature. Our pediatrician finally said, “Mary, think of it like this. You are allowing your babies to experience a little hurt in order to prevent them from experiencing a bigger hurt. A tetanus shot is nothing compared to tetanus itself.”

Promise of perfection** Romans 5:3-4 “We can rejoice when we run into problems … they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady.”
Problems, when responded to correctly, are character builders. I once spoke for a women’s conference with the theme of “Problems into Pearls.” The leader welcomed me and said, “We have to get you some pearls!” Digging in her purse, she produced a beautiful pearl necklace for me to wear. I spoke several times, counseled and prayed with numerous women and tried to meet as many women as possible. When the woman came to retrieve her pearl necklace, I was embarrassed. I had worked up quite a sweat with all of that hugging, laughing, talking. She brushed my apology aside and said, “Sweat is good for pearls. It helps them keep their luster.”
God is at work in and around you.* You may not see His hand, hear His voice or even understand His process, but you can rest assured that you can trust His heart. Remember, every problem points to a promise. -Mary Southerland

Psalm 121:1-2 (NIV) “I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.”

Psalm 46:1 (NIV) “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.”

Psalm 63:7-8 (NIV) “Because you are my help, I sing in the shadow of your wings. My soul clings to you; your right hand upholds me.”



Lord, I am tired of trying to face my problems in my own strength. Today, I choose to fix my gaze on You and praise You for Your presence and power in my life. I will give You praise, knowing You take up residence in the praises of Your people. I will walk through my fear, knowing You are with me. I declare my belief in Your willingness to help me face anything that comes my way. I trust You with my problems, Lord.
In Jesus’ name,
Amen.
 
Hi ladies having a bit of a low day today n came across your group online. Sat and read all the stories, encouraging words and celebrations. My husband and I live in the Bahamas and have been ttc our first since 16mMonths ago. I've been looking for a Christian encouraging group and I must say all the scriptures and words of encouragement are awesome. My notebook here at work is full of scriptures I found on here today. My husband and I both know everything in Gods time and are praying and waiting patiently for our blessing but sometimes it gets a bit difficult when friends who aren't even ttc tell you they are expecting.

All in his time and thanks for the inspiration and encouragement you have given me by posting your experiences and scriptures.

God bless you all.
 
I enjoy this thread a lot too, but I do wish there was a Christian ltttc thread/group as sometimes the enthusiasm & symptom spotting of the relatively new TTC can be difficult for others who have patiently waited a bit longer. I'm only on month 14 (cycle 16) and I take my hat off to the patience and humility of the ltttc on here who have waited for years. When I respond to someone on here who has been trying for a relatively short time I am always respectful as I remember how enthusiastic I was, but its very difficult to do the reverse as it's impossible to understand the emotions involved in ltttc unless you have experienced it yourself.

I don't claim to speak for everyone, but I do believe it's a valid point. It's not a complaint as people can't be blamed for not understanding. But I'm just thinking it would be nice to have a specific thread as other ltttc threads are more general & don't focus on God the same xxx
 
I enjoy this thread a lot too, but I do wish there was a Christian ltttc thread/group as sometimes the enthusiasm & symptom spotting of the relatively new TTC can be difficult for others who have patiently waited a bit longer. I'm only on month 14 (cycle 16) and I take my hat off to the patience and humility of the ltttc on here who have waited for years. When I respond to someone on here who has been trying for a relatively short time I am always respectful as I remember how enthusiastic I was, but its very difficult to do the reverse as it's impossible to understand the emotions involved in ltttc unless you have experienced it yourself.

I don't claim to speak for everyone, but I do believe it's a valid point. It's not a complaint as people can't be blamed for not understanding. But I'm just thinking it would be nice to have a specific thread as other ltttc threads are more general & don't focus on God the same xxx

I know what you mean dear.

You should start a ltttc thread :thumbup:
 
Hi ladies having a bit of a low day today n came across your group online. Sat and read all the stories, encouraging words and celebrations. My husband and I live in the Bahamas and have been ttc our first since 16mMonths ago. I've been looking for a Christian encouraging group and I must say all the scriptures and words of encouragement are awesome. My notebook here at work is full of scriptures I found on here today. My husband and I both know everything in Gods time and are praying and waiting patiently for our blessing but sometimes it gets a bit difficult when friends who aren't even ttc tell you they are expecting.

All in his time and thanks for the inspiration and encouragement you have given me by posting your experiences and scriptures.

God bless you all.

Praise God, I'm so glad you came across our group :flower:

Welcome! My name is Sarah and I'm so happy you are joining us and have already found encouragement.
 
Hi ladies I ask for your prayers. My DH and I have been ttc for the past three years and the one thing I do not want to hear anymore is that everything happens in Gods timing. I have questioned and asked what I did to deserve being deprived of this beautiful gift that only God can give. My level of faith is low to the point where I cant and dont even want to believe anymore because every month that it doesnt happen hurts and breaks my heart. I know that I can not doubt what God has done and can do....I doubt his love for me is what it all comes down to.

Welcome to our group! You will find nothing but support here! :flower:
 
Helllo ladies!!!! I hope everybody is going great!!! :flower: Welcome to all of our new members. My name is Heather and my husband and I have been TTC for about 9 months now!! You have come to a wonderful place. The ladies here are so amazingly supportive and it is a great place to come to and be understood!! :flower:

I hope everybody is doing great!! Anybody have any exciting plans for the upcoming weekend?!?!?!?

My husband is sending me to the spa all day tomorrow to celebrate graduation! It will be some much needed relaxation!!! :winkwink:
 
Rest in Me, my child. Give your mind a break from planning and trying to anticipate what will happen. Pray continually, asking My spirit to take charge of the details of this day. Remember that you are on a journey with Me. When you try to peer into the future and plan for every possibility, you ignore your constant companion who sustains you moment by moment. As you gaze anxiously into the distance, you don’t even feel the strong grip of My hand holding yours. How foolish you are, My child!

Remembrance of Me is a daily discipline. Never lose sight of My presence with you. This will keep you resting in Me all day, every day.

Pray continually. 1 Thessalonians 5:17

Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from him. Psalm 62:5



What bible translation is that sweets? I want to buy it! seems so relevant to todays language :) xx
 
Thank you ladies for reminding me that God is still in control and that His timing is perfect!

I have been ttc for 14 years and after finding out my sis-in-law is expecting their 4th (1 for her 2 for him from previous marriages) and my cousin her first and losing my long time pup (11yrs old) all within this week I must confess I feel a little more faithless...

Im trying trying to hang in there but i sometimes feel that God forgot I'm still waiting for my gift...

Dont get me wrong I believe and trust and am totally sold out to our King, this week is just a little tougher than normal, so reading some of your posts have really helped.

God bless and know you have one more prayer warrior praying for BFP for us all!


Please tell us more about your situation. Each one of us are here to support and love one another as we go through this together.
How long have you been married? What treatments have you tried? How are you feeling today?

Sending prayers your way ! xoxox
 
Hi ladies having a bit of a low day today n came across your group online. Sat and read all the stories, encouraging words and celebrations. My husband and I live in the Bahamas and have been ttc our first since 16mMonths ago. I've been looking for a Christian encouraging group and I must say all the scriptures and words of encouragement are awesome. My notebook here at work is full of scriptures I found on here today. My husband and I both know everything in Gods time and are praying and waiting patiently for our blessing but sometimes it gets a bit difficult when friends who aren't even ttc tell you they are expecting.

All in his time and thanks for the inspiration and encouragement you have given me by posting your experiences and scriptures.

God bless you all.


Nice to meet you on here!! :) I have also gathered a little book of stories, quotes and encouragments from this forum. Arent they all beautiful on here? There is so much love when we all share our sorrows together, they are lifted to the one who knows best. I have decided i am going to gather as much information and support i can find so when i come across other woman and friends who are going through my situation. So i can bless them with the love and support that was given to me.

Praying for you xx
 
Hello ladies

Can I join this thread? I was stalking 1st tri and wishing I was there when I came across PrincessBree's thread and she suggested I look you guys up so I have. I'm sure I have been led here as the post on patience on the 11th was made only a few hours after I posted "I feel I am being taught the art of patience which I don't have much of!" I am also a hobby farmer . . .

Anyway I am currently cycle 7 TTC. I had a suspected early mc cycle 2 and nothing since. I feel I have been doing everything right, charting, OPK etc. Everything except praying. So this month I've pretty much scrapped everything and am trying to work on trust. Trust that I will BD on the right days, trust that it will happen when its supposed to but its hard and praying isn't my forte - worrying and googleing is more my thing!

Minimoocow - WELCOME TO THIS THREAD!! My name is Bec and i have also been trying to conceive with my adorable husband since late 2009.
Dont think of praying as an art form. My husband is a new christian while i have been a christian all my life.
He often would say to me that he wasnt good at prayer and that i should pray instead, thinking it was some sort of thing you do when you've been a christian so many number of years and that he would simply go to church to learn. Soon he found that my so called 'praying' was generally speaking to God, sometimes i even found him falling alseep during my prayers ! lol. He soon realised that praying can be a continual discussion with God. A never ending conversation. I pray when im in the car, when i go to bed, when im having a horrible day and yes, even when things are perfect. It can be short, a journal, or even a breath, 'God I need you.' We forget God is our father and we need to learn to speak with him casually and comfortably as we are his children.

I pray that you will be encouraged to speak to God like he is right there beside you (afterall, isn't he?) and that you will enable yourself to be inspired by the prayers that have already been sent to God regarding you and your husbands life. Blessings to you as you travel through this journey together with us all xxx
 
Hi ladies I ask for your prayers. My DH and I have been ttc for the past three years and the one thing I do not want to hear anymore is that everything happens in Gods timing. I have questioned and asked what I did to deserve being deprived of this beautiful gift that only God can give. My level of faith is low to the point where I cant and dont even want to believe anymore because every month that it doesnt happen hurts and breaks my heart. I know that I can not doubt what God has done and can do....I doubt his love for me is what it all comes down to.

I cant tell you enough just how much i sympathise with your current state. If there's one thing you should remember, let it be this.. God does not waste one bit of pain that you go through. He is smarter then that. He uses every ounce of your pain.

Never doubt his love for you, he loves you oh so very much !!!!!
 
Rest in Me, my child. Give your mind a break from planning and trying to anticipate what will happen. Pray continually, asking My spirit to take charge of the details of this day. Remember that you are on a journey with Me. When you try to peer into the future and plan for every possibility, you ignore your constant companion who sustains you moment by moment. As you gaze anxiously into the distance, you don’t even feel the strong grip of My hand holding yours. How foolish you are, My child!

Remembrance of Me is a daily discipline. Never lose sight of My presence with you. This will keep you resting in Me all day, every day.

Pray continually. 1 Thessalonians 5:17

Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from him. Psalm 62:5



What bible translation is that sweets? I want to buy it! seems so relevant to todays language :) xx

Hi Hun :hugs: I believe it's the NIV version.
 
hello ladies,
just wanted to share how i feeling after days of feeling down about this ttc journey and totally just out right stressed and feeling like i was going to cry all day. well i just left church Thursday night women and men fellowship and i really needed. i feel refreshed and just out right hopeful and peaceful. the feeling i have can barely be described. i just started ttc but i know with the lords help i will get through it without being consumed in depression as i do struggle with serve depression.
respectfully,
Genesis Marie
 
Nice to meet you on here!! :) I have also gathered a little book of stories, quotes and encouragments from this forum. Arent they all beautiful on here? There is so much love when we all share our sorrows together, they are lifted to the one who knows best. I have decided i am going to gather as much information and support i can find so when i come across other woman and friends who are going through my situation. So i can bless them with the love and support that was given to me.

Praying for you xx
Yes, the quotes are all beautiful and encouraging a real pick-me-up
 
Hi ladies,

Need some feedback/words of advice please. At the end of last year I took a HSG which came back good but IBGYN put me on clomid in December, January and February to see if that would kick start the process for me. I was supposed to go back to my doctor in Feb/Mar if I didnt get a BFP but decided to relax, and not stress myself out about rushing back to the doctor.
AF showed up yesterday and I called my OBGYN to make an appointment. He can't see me until June 28th but was wondering if hubby and I should go ahead and have the semen analysis done in the mean time? Hubby has been ready to do this from last year but I was hesitant because I know it can be a bit difficult for men to go to doctors. I'm at the point now where I think it's worth confirming everything is ok with him/identifying if there are any issues.
I will try calling the doctors office back today to see if I can get come previsit advice but just wanted you to weigh in and maybe discuss your experience.

Thanks and TGIF!!!
 
hello ladies,
just wanted to share how i feeling after days of feeling down about this ttc journey and totally just out right stressed and feeling like i was going to cry all day. well i just left church Thursday night women and men fellowship and i really needed. i feel refreshed and just out right hopeful and peaceful. the feeling i have can barely be described. i just started ttc but i know with the lords help i will get through it without being consumed in depression as i do struggle with serve depression.
respectfully,
Genesis Marie
Glad to hear you were encouraged with the word at your church. Isn't it great when you start to feel even slightly discouraged/down and go to church but leave feeling refreshed and renewed. The power of God is so amazing.

You are in my prayers Genesis Marie.

God Bless,
Praying
 
:hugs: I know what you mean. Being on this journey for as long as we have tends to come with unaswerable questions. I have my pity parties crying out to God, Why not me?!?, I have lived a good, wholesome life, What did I do to deserve this?!?, and so on and so on....

All we can do it trust that the Lord has our best interest at heart. During those times we need an extra boost of faith. I have prayed many times that the Lord take this desire away if it's not meant to be, well it's still there...So my faith says that since my desire is there, I believe that one day...one day I will be blessed with a child of my own.

When we begin to question the love of God, we need to remember who we are. We have absolutely no claim on His love. We don’t deserve one bit of God’s goodness to us….I know of nothing that will so quickly cut the nerve of a petulant, “Why did this happen to me?”attitude as a realization of who we are before God, considered in ourselves apart from Christ.

We see then that God loved us when we were totally unworthy, when there was nothing whatsoever within us that would call forth His love.

Any time that we are tempted to doubt God’s love for us, we should go back to the Cross. We should reason somewhat in this fashion: If God loved me enough to give His Son to die for me when I was His enemy, surely He loves me enough to care for me now that I am His child. Having loved me to the ultimate extent at the Cross, He cannot possibly fail to love me in my times of adversity. Having given such a priceless gift as His Son, surely He will also give all else that is consistent with His glory and my good.

Note that I said, we should reason. If we are to trust God in adversity, we must use our minds in those times to reason through the great truths of God’s sovereignty, wisdom, and love as they are revealed to us in the Scriptures. We must allow our emotions to hold sway over our minds. Rather, we must seek to let the truth of God rule our minds. Our emotions must become subservient to the truth. This does not mean we do not feel the pain of adversity and heartache. We feel it keenly. Nor does it mean we should seek to bury our emotional pain in a stoic-like attitude. We are meant to feel the pain of adversity, but we must resist allowing that pain to cause us to lapse into hard thoughts about God….

If God’s love was sufficient for my greatest need, my eternal salvation, surely it is sufficient for my lesser needs, the adversities I encounter in this life.
Thanks Sarah, this is beautifully written
 
Hi

I would like to join you too.

As you can see from my signature, I am on my 3rd cycle and I am NTNP with my DH. I am currently late for my AF but getting :bfn: on tests still whilst definitely having some symptoms. I know things will happen when the time is right and in his time, but it is still hard for us mere mortals. When I started reading some of the threads I was reminded of a song we sing here sometimes:

In His time, in His time
He makes all things beautiful in His time
Lord, please show me everyday
As you're teaching me your way
That you'll do just what you say
In Your time.

In Your time, in Your time
You make all things beautiful in Your time
Lord, my life to you I bring
My each song I have to sing
Be to You a lovely thing
In Your time.

Of course this is based on Ecclesiastes 3: 1 - 14

1 There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:
2 a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
6 a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
7 a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
8 a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.
9 What do workers gain from their toil? 10 I have seen the burden God has laid on the human race. 11 He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet[a] no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. 12 I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. 13 That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God. 14 I know that everything God does will endure forever; nothing can be added to it and nothing taken from it. God does it so that people will fear him.

Wishing all those ladies on here the blessings of our Father in Heaven.
 

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