Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[Mummy_2_One]

Hi all. It's night time here and the last day of my holidays. Back to work tomorrow. I have a blood test in the morning to test my anitbodies of my thyroid or something, since my last test revealed I seem to have an underactive thyroid.

Sarah - I'm sorry you had to go through listening to family talk about pregnancy, etc. - esp. in your own home! It's hard to know whether to say something when women are going on about that. I don't because our friends don't know we're ttc. Many, many hugs to you!!!! I don't think many mothers realise how much it hurts those of us who struggle with ttc. Praying for comfort for you.

I haven't been a good friend to a friend of mine in that I've kept my distance over the year due to her constantly talking about babies, pregnancy, etc. and that she fell pregnant without trying for her second child and was only ttc for a few months when she conceived her first child. She has also moved on to being closer friends with others closer to her age (she's about 20 or 21- ish). It's definitely not her fault that I can't conceive at the moment...and she doesn't even know what I'm going though (and I wouldn't tell her as she'd tell others- not in a mean way, just in general convo). But, it's just too hard sometimes.

Have others on you here kept your distance from friends who talk about their children all the time? I don't mind being close friends with those who talk about other things as well as their children...but it's just too much when it's constant talking about it.

I thank God for each one of you. May He sustain us through this journey we're on.

Hi me222 :wave:

I just wanted to comment quickly on your last question, about finding it difficult spending time with friends who talk about their children all the time. I'm probably very guilty of this when it comes to my daughter! And I can assure you that it comes (in my case anyway) from an amazing place of thankfulness and amazement and love for this little person who just fills my life and I can't help talking about. So while I too feel sadness over my friends talking to me about their new babies (because I want one so badly), I also understand where your friends are coming from when they talk about their children with you... It's particularly hard to find much else to talk about if they're stay-at-home parents too.

So big big hugs for you, because I know it's hard, but I can assure you that your friends don't mean to rub salt in the wound when they talk about their little people, they just want to share their lives with you, and their kids are a big part of that. If they knew you were trying, it may be a different story (I know I would be more sensitive if you were my friend), but we too haven't told people we're trying for baby number 2, so i know why you wouldn't want to divuldge that info.

It's very hard... But I wanted to share their point of view, so I hope you don't mind and you aren't offended.

Praying for you.

 

[Dynamicmae]

21 day bloods 1.6!!!!! Has anyone else had such a low reading before?

 

[Godsjewel]

Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails; 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

My father was a pastor for more than 50 years. It was a calling he cherished and it fit him well. One day he received a phone call from a church member (who just happened to be a next door neighbor) laughing hysterically. She said her 6 year old son had come running wide-eyed to her and breathlessly exclaimed, “Mom! Pastor Barker is outside mowing his grass with no clothes on!”

Knowing that her pastor was not outside mowing his grass with no clothes on, curiosity obviously got the best of her, and this church member quickly went to her window. There was pastor innocently taking care of his lawn as anyone else would--fully clothed! Why would her son think the pastor had lost his mind--and his attire? She looked at her confused and upset son, and noticed something she hadn’t noticed before: he was squinting. When she looked back out the window, she realized the pastor had on tan colored clothing. Then it dawned on her. Her son needed glasses! His vision had become blurry! When he looked out the window and saw the pastor in flesh colored clothing, he thought he saw the pastor with no clothes! What a mistake to make all because of a child’s vision being out of focus!

Has infertility caused your heart to become blurry? It is so easy to focus on nothing but having a baby that you lose sight of other things and other relationships that are precious to you. Has your relationship with your spouse become nothing more than a baby-making venture? It’s easy to do, isn’t it? What mistakes we can make when our relationship vision becomes blurry! We find that the stressful times increase and the joyful times decrease. We can’t see all the wonderful things we love about our spouse. We only see negative pregnancy tests. When you want a baby so badly, and that desire is delayed it can be easy to obsess on sperm counts and ovulation days and forget how much you really do love his goofy sense of humor or the cute dimple in his chin. Infertility has caused our vision to be out of focus.

If your vision has become blurry, I challenge you today to focus on your relationship with your spouse. Choose a day when you know conception is impossible. Pick a day when there are no doctor’s appointments and when you are certain that you will not ovulate. Recreate your first date, or perhaps the day you got engaged. Perhaps you could relive the first time you realized you couldn’t live without him. Go back to the days when you didn’t know infertility would be your constant companion. Focus on your spouse. Focus on what it was that drew you to each other. Fall in love with each other all over again. Find what it was that God thought was such a good idea that He chose to put the two of you together. Enjoy each other completely for a day, and set your focus to let each other feel loved.

Infertility will still be there tomorrow. You can go back to that journey then. But for today, focus on developing great gifts you can give the child you hope to have one day. The greatest gift you can give a child is a home where Jesus Christ is honored as King, and one where knowing Him will come easily and naturally for your child. The next greatest gift you can give your child is to be raised in a home where Mom and Dad love each other and have a strong, stable marriage. A child raised in that kind of home will grow up feeling loved and secure, and will develop a sharp focus of their own.

So love Jesus and honor Him with your life. Love and focus on your spouse. Enjoy each other and your relationship today.

(And one more thing. If you have to cut your grass one more time this year--wear brightly colored clothing!)

-Beth Forbus

 

[Godsjewel]

21 day bloods 1.6!!!!! Has anyone else had such a low reading before?

Sorry dear, I don't know too much about blood levels.

 

[fletch_W]

Hi all. It's night time here and the last day of my holidays. Back to work tomorrow. I have a blood test in the morning to test my anitbodies of my thyroid or something, since my last test revealed I seem to have an underactive thyroid.

Sarah - I'm sorry you had to go through listening to family talk about pregnancy, etc. - esp. in your own home! It's hard to know whether to say something when women are going on about that. I don't because our friends don't know we're ttc. Many, many hugs to you!!!! I don't think many mothers realise how much it hurts those of us who struggle with ttc. Praying for comfort for you.

I haven't been a good friend to a friend of mine in that I've kept my distance over the year due to her constantly talking about babies, pregnancy, etc. and that she fell pregnant without trying for her second child and was only ttc for a few months when she conceived her first child. She has also moved on to being closer friends with others closer to her age (she's about 20 or 21- ish). It's definitely not her fault that I can't conceive at the moment...and she doesn't even know what I'm going though (and I wouldn't tell her as she'd tell others- not in a mean way, just in general convo). But, it's just too hard sometimes.

Have others on you here kept your distance from friends who talk about their children all the time? I don't mind being close friends with those who talk about other things as well as their children...but it's just too much when it's constant talking about it.

I thank God for each one of you. May He sustain us through this journey we're on.

I completely know how you feel. i dont see my friends any more. we dont have anything in common anymore. its not that i dont want to see them, its that we cannot see them without their children being there, and if they get a sitter, all they do is talk about their kids.

mummy i get your side too. my friend had an mmc last year in march and she just gave birth to a healthy baby so i know how much she appreciates that her baby is here but i have no desire to see her at all. purely out of jealousy and selfishness. but the weird thing is that neither does my husband

I watched a movie last night called fireproof. its like to 100th time iv watched it but when i see the fact that their marriage is ruined because of his addiction to ladies on the internet, i think of my addiction to wanting a baby and peeing on a little stick in desperate need of seeing another red line and how its slowly driving me and my husband apart. how is his situation any different from mine? my hubby wants love and attention just as much as calebs wife wanted it and sought it elsewhere. i dont want that happening!! which is why im so happy i decided to take these months out. to show my husband that i dont just use sex as a way to make a baby but that it brings us both together as a couple and we fall in love all over again.

sorry for ranting. just needed to offload

 

[Heather11]

Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails; 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Love this passage!!!! It was read at my wedding!

 

[Heather11]

21 day bloods 1.6!!!!! Has anyone else had such a low reading before?

I am not really familiar with blood levels either! What does this mean?!

 

[Dynamicmae]

@ heather... My docs secretary says it should be over 20... Now I'm CD 24 and got very extreme AF cramps... Never had this before!!! Can't even stand up straight!!!

 

[Heather11]

@ heather... My docs secretary says it should be over 20... Now I'm CD 24 and got very extreme AF cramps... Never had this before!!! Can't even stand up straight!!!

What levels are they referring to? Hormones?

I am on cycle day 25 and I am all crampy too! Lets hope it is a good sign!?!?!

 

[SuperwomanTTC]

21 day bloods 1.6!!!!! Has anyone else had such a low reading before?

I just pulled out a copy of my 21 day lab work. The reference area says the following:

Follicular phase 0.2 - 1.5
Luteal phase 1.7 - 27
Ovulation phase 0.8 - 3.0
Pregnant 1st trimester 8.8 - 48.6
Postmenupausal 0.1 - 0.8

 

[Dynamicmae]

Yes, the Progesterone level....

 

[Dynamicmae]

21 day bloods 1.6!!!!! Has anyone else had such a low reading before?

I just pulled out a copy of my 21 day lab work. The reference area says the following:

Follicular phase 0.2 - 1.5
Luteal phase 1.7 - 27
Ovulation phase 0.8 - 3.0
Pregnant 1st trimester 8.8 - 48.6
Postmenupausal 0.1 - 0.8

So by the look of that 1.6 is just just just to low?
I think I may have O'd on CD 16. I see the 21?day bloods must be done 7dpo? So I'm gonna stay hopeful that bloods are inaccurate cause they were done to early. I must wait for AF till CD 38. If it doesn't arrive I must phone doc for appointment. So the LONG wait starts. Thank you for your advice and help ladies. I'm CD 24 today and have EXTREME AF pains worst I've ever felt........ Only time will tell

 

[Heather11]

21 day bloods 1.6!!!!! Has anyone else had such a low reading before?

I just pulled out a copy of my 21 day lab work. The reference area says the following:

Follicular phase 0.2 - 1.5
Luteal phase 1.7 - 27
Ovulation phase 0.8 - 3.0
Pregnant 1st trimester 8.8 - 48.6
Postmenupausal 0.1 - 0.8

So by the look of that 1.6 is just just just to low?
I think I may have O'd on CD 16. I see the 21?day bloods must be done 7dpo? So I'm gonna stay hopeful that bloods are inaccurate cause they were done to early. I must wait for AF till CD 38. If it doesn't arrive I must phone doc for appointment. So the LONG wait starts. Thank you for your advice and help ladies. I'm CD 24 today and have EXTREME AF pains worst I've ever felt........ Only time will tell

I hope you O'd earlier!! I am pretty much on the same cycle day as you!!!

 

[HisGrace]

Hi Superwoman. It's good to see you're still around. Looks like you're getting close.

 

[uwa_amanda]

I haven't posted much lately but I am asking for you to pray for my family. We lost my aunt this morning to cancer.

 

[No Doubt]

Heather 1.6 is low, but if you're only 5dpo, then it's very possible that the numbers won't be right. I was told progesterone levels should be done days 21-23...probably to account for people in your situation who don't O on day 14. I'm surprised your docs didn't think about that. So don't get too discouraged.

Amanda I'm sorry to hear about your aunt. I will be in prayer for you and your family.

 

[Shellvz]

Hi Ladies,

Wishing you all the best in your cycles. I have been reading the posts but haven't had much to add.

We don't see FS till Dec 10th so it has been a time of processing and absorbing for us still. Read lots of articles online and watched a few videos on youtube about male infertility and treatments.

Seems quite complex - feeling slightly overwhelmed by the road before us.

This is my first cycle knowing that a BFP highly unlikely if not impossible. I haven't been in this place before. Week two of 2ww and nothing to wait for. All my usual pmt symptoms have kicked in and now I know that they mean nothing - yet the habit of a year of ttc and reading into every symptom is a hard habit to break.

My Aunty died on Friday so I have a funeral to go to tomorrow. It will be lovely to catch up with all the family but I am hoping no-one asks me questions about when I will have a baby. I am making sure the outfit I choose to wear is flattering and won't give an impression of a baby bump!

It is difficult to believe that we are in this place. It helps to know that we are not alone. Sometimes I feel like a fraud writing on this baby bump thread as I can't get pregnant naturally. It will need a miracle or medical intervention for us and that is something we are still coming to terms with.

 

[me222]

I haven't posted much lately but I am asking for you to pray for my family. We lost my aunt this morning to cancer.

Amanda, praying for comfort for you and your family. Hugs.

 

[me222]

Hi Ladies,

Wishing you all the best in your cycles. I have been reading the posts but haven't had much to add.

We don't see FS till Dec 10th so it has been a time of processing and absorbing for us still. Read lots of articles online and watched a few videos on youtube about male infertility and treatments.

Seems quite complex - feeling slightly overwhelmed by the road before us.

This is my first cycle knowing that a BFP highly unlikely if not impossible. I haven't been in this place before. Week two of 2ww and nothing to wait for. All my usual pmt symptoms have kicked in and now I know that they mean nothing - yet the habit of a year of ttc and reading into every symptom is a hard habit to break.

My Aunty died on Friday so I have a funeral to go to tomorrow. It will be lovely to catch up with all the family but I am hoping no-one asks me questions about when I will have a baby. I am making sure the outfit I choose to wear is flattering and won't give an impression of a baby bump!

It is difficult to believe that we are in this place. It helps to know that we are not alone. Sometimes I feel like a fraud writing on this baby bump thread as I can't get pregnant naturally. It will need a miracle or medical intervention for us and that is something we are still coming to terms with.

Shellvz- I'm sorry this journey is so very difficult. Praying for a child for you and all the women on this forum. May God draw us nearer to Him through this valley in our life. Many hugs to you. I haven't got the right words to help you. But, just want to let you know that each of us are here for you and are praying for you. May God strengthen your marriage through this hard time.

I'm sorry about your Aunty. Praying for comfort for you and that no one will make insensitive comments regarding you having kids, etc. I so don't like when people do that. Hugs.

Have you been to a naturopath? I'm thinking of my husband and I are going to one to see what they can do to help us since the whole testing this isn't entirely working...

For those who want to know about me at the moment:

I'm not so hopeful about my cycles at the moment. Got my period Friday. Husband has to do another sperm test since the other one didn't work out due to the pathology not testing sperm (and the doctor not knowing this). My husband found out that the other pathology in town doesn't test sperm either - but a town 90 mins away does. How can we do a sperm test for 90 mins away when they are prob. not open over the weekend and we both work full-time? I don't know. I can't really ask for a day off for an appointment when I've had so many days off this year already due to being sick (and my husband isn't going to please himself as we believe this is wrong).
How do others do this? Anyone know others who have had to travel far awhile for a sperm test? What did they do?

I just want to remind myself and you all reading this: that no matter what tests say (or, in my case- lack of tests at the moment), what doctors say, what others say...God's will will be done. He is Sovereign. Yes, I struggle with this - as I'm sure you all do as we then have to admit that He can make us pregnant in an instant and yet He hasn't for His reasons. I don't know what those reasons are, but He does. Perhaps to build our character ("suffering produces perserverance, perserverance character...")? I don't know. What I do know is that God is our guide. He will guide us as we trust Him with fertility related decisions and everything else in life.

Praying for you all.

 

[No Doubt]

Shell, sorry to hear about your aunt hun, I will be in prayer. As far as fertility in your case, I know it's so difficult to be in that place and I know what you mean about breaking the habit of ttc and symptom spotting in the tww. It is a difficult thing to break. I tried and found myself backing off some but not letting things go. It took everything else in my life becoming hectic for me to be refocused cause I literally didn't have time to think about it. I would like to refer you back to the scripture in your signature. It may appear that this will never happen and you may feel that way and even believe it, but don't.

Saturday at church we had a guest speaker. He old us that he travels a lot and he said that the worst turbulence is clear air turbulence. He said it will look beautiful outside...sun, blue sky, no clouds, absolutely gorgeous. Then all of a sudden you hit turbulence, it still looks great out, so you can't figure out why you're experiencing this turbulence on this flight. He then reminded us of Hebrews 11:1 and then said, as simply put as it is, that faith isn't knowing what's about to happen and knowing how to figure things out and work through the problem and know the outcome and that things will he solved and everything be ok. He said faith is a little like clear air turbulence. Your life looks great and then something unexpected hits you and you can't figure it out or where it came from or why, but you trust God that it will all be ok.

Shell, don't allow this period of clear air turbulence to rock your faith. I understand its not easy to hear bad news and that we as humans need to experience the different emotions. I just pray you don't allow this to keep you there to long. God will make a way for you to be a mother. I'm sure you never saw this coming but He did and He knew you would feel this way. Now trust Him and know that with Him everything is possible, regardless of what doctors say. They can't put life in your womb anymore than you can. God creates life and everything is in His perfect timing.

I pray you find peace and strength.