Christian, unmarried, and pregnant.

[WhaatToExpect]

So I been feeling really tired lately, all I want to do is sleep. My lower abdomen feels pretty tight, and when I sit down I feel like my heart beats faster or like my temperature gets hotter. So yesterday I took a pregnancy test, and there was two lines but one of them was very light (you could barely see it) so I was hoping that was a negative. However, I started googling it and it said that it was positive "a line is a line no matter what" so I freaked out and bought another pregnancy test at Walgreens. I took it this morning and it showed Yes+ (A REALLY DARK +YES). I am making an appointment for today after I get out of work to see a doctor to do a blood test and get a final confirmation. However, what freaks me out the most is trying to tell my parents. My family is christian, and we aren't supposed to have sex before marriage. I know I been doing something wrong and I have been praying about it, but it's actually too late now. I been crying and thinking like crazy, and I still cannot find a way to tell them I'm pregnant. I'm scare, I would hate myself for ever hurting my mom ....I cannot imagine her face expression once I tell her, I know my dad will be heated, but I know there's not much to no but to face the consequences . I really need some advice.

 

[x__amour]

Hi sweetie, welcome to BnB and congratulations on your pregnancy.
I'm Shannon, 22. I have a 3 year old named Victoria "Tori" & a 2 month old named Bryson.

I am Roman Catholic and was unmarried with my first but it wasn't a major concern for me but I can see that your faith is very important to you. Just know that God and your parents will love you no matter what. A baby is such a blessing and you will be a fantastic mother. Sit down with your parents and explain what's happening, their support will make a world of difference.

Hope to see you around!

 

[WhaatToExpect]

Thank you so much Shannon

 

[JoolsH]

I am a christian with a teenage daughter. I agree with the no sex before marriage. I would be disappointed but i wouldnt be devastated if my daughter ever became an single mother in the future. A a baby is always a blessing to be welcomed into the family no matter whether we agree with the circumstances in which it was conceivd or not. hope your parents are able to love and support you in this x

 

[xforuiholdonx]

Hi there and Welcome to Bnb! Congratulations on your pregnancy!
Im Lisa (22), I have a 4 year old daughter, and a 13 month old son.
Have you ever heard the saying that "God does not give you more then you can handle"? Thats the first thing my mother said when I told her I was pregnant a day before my 17th birthday. Your parents might be a bit peeved at first, but it'll pass. Just know that God has already forgiven you, and is blessing you with this beautiful baby, even if it is a bit early! always here if you need to talk

 

[Accountess]

This is going to be a great period of growth for you. Both spiritually and emotionally.

Start thinking about prenatals and what your future plans are and how to achieve them. You have a little person who depends on you body and soul. Take care of yourself and your baby.

Have you considered asking your spiritual leader about how to tell your parents?

 

[WhaatToExpect]

I told my parents yesterday morning. They were not happy, I had never seem them cry so much in my life. However, at night my mom was able to talk to me and hug me and my dad this morning gave me a hug....hopefully moods keep getting better. Thank you guys for the advice and encouragement.

By the way! I'm 6 weeks

 

[x__amour]

Aw babe, that's great! Definitely stick around here on BnB, goodness knows we need new faces!

 

[Wish4another1]

whattoexpect!
I just wanted to come on here and comment
I am 41 my oldest daughter is 22 (23 in October) - I got pregnant my senior year of high school.
I was unmarried and a believer. What I want you to know is that your life will be successful and full of challenges, and it will be different then what you or your parents envisoned.
I always say that my daughter saved me from myself. I was a very poor growing up and selfish - I wanted to be an electrical engineer because they made the most money (in my mind). I believe that God intervened in my life and gave me my little girl to mature me.
I am now an officer in the Army (21 years now) and that surprise baby is serving in the military(almost 2 years).
It sounds like your parents are coming around - they were shocked at the news !!! I think you and your family are going to be fine!!
God bless you and this little peanut you are carrying...

 

[WhaatToExpect]

Wish4another1

Thank you so much. That is the way I am seen my baby, as someone who will save me from myself. I was living life too relaxed and right now I feel like I need to get things that I want in my life done for the best. I will have to mature, and I am happy for that. Thank you so much, because you just encouraged me to keep trying hard with my studying or w.e God will put in my future.
Yes they were shocked, they said they never taught their youngest daughter would come home with at news like this one at 19 yrs old. But I know they'll be there for me at my hardest times.

Thank you!!!!! God bless you Officer and your daughter

 

[skyesmom]

congrats on telling your parents! it takes a lot of courage to do that, no matter what your belief system is!

i have no religion and i consider myself lucky to have been raised free of any preconceptions and religious "requirements", as i think that, besides the faith into a superior being which is an amazing thing to have (which i have, i'm agnostic not atheist), they also bring lots of unnecessary fears, judgements and guilt into one's life.

i really like your take on this - seeing it as an occasion to grow and evolve - and as hard as it is for you and your parents - don't beat yourself up for it. you said you'd hate yourself if you ever hurt your mother - don't. there is no such a thing as a perfect human being who has never hurt anyone else. that's what we're here for - "screw up" and learn from it and grow.
having a religion can give you great strength in times of need, like now, but can also lead you to "beat yourself up" a bit too excessively for not complying to its norms and rules and falling into "sin". i personally think people can be responsible even without guilt, or fear of breaking the "rules", just for the sakes of doing the right thing and growing.

whatever God may be up there, i am sure he'd be happier if you'd love yourself and grow, rather than feel guilty about the miracle occasion you got for it.


and for being unmarried - getting married isn't necessarily a recipe for a happy life - so many couples function well without it, so many couples fall apart despite being married, so making it official is by no means a guarantee the relationship will work.

with this i just wanna tell you not to judge yourself for your situation and to make the best of it, even if the people around you do.