Circumcision?

[amotherslove]

wouldmnt get it done.. it scares me the way it's done, it bothers me to think of removing a natural piece of my childs body, if it's medically neccesary sure.. but most of the men i have been with are not circ'd and theyre just fine and very very clean.

 

[amotherslove]

being with men who are not circumcised is my preferrence.. though FOB was. i just prefer it with a cover haha. the scar it leaves on cut men is weird.. not like obvious.. but it's strange...

 

[megrenade]

After the research, it seems logical to do....a 60% less chance of contracting HIV? yep...that pretty much sold me.

https://www.medicinenet.com/circumcision_the_medical_pros_and_cons/article.htm

If anyone's curious read that.

you know why that's a bunch of crap? because they are also counting people in other countries who have no ways to prevent such things.

if you don't wear a condom, and have sex with somebody who has HIV.. foreskin or NOT, you're probably going to get it!

 

[bananaz]

I can understand both sides of the issue but having done a good deal of research and talked to OH about it, I am leaning toward circumcision. My OH is cut but I've had an uncut partner previously and it seems like everyone is happy with the way they are, one way or the other. I do wish the procedure didn't become so much more complicated and painful later in life because otherwise I would just let the child decide when they're older.

 

[Boothh]

Can I ask a question though it's slightly OT.. What do you DO with a circ one? You know when your using your hands, because iv only ever seen on curd one in that way and didn't know what to do so I just broke up with that guy, with the skin on you know what your doing it's sort of a guide haha I have no idea what to do with a circ one LOL

 

[susan36]

iv got 2 sons so far one 20yo and one 15yo and no way would i have even thought of getting that done to my sons .they have had no problems so far with it , my brother did get it when he was in his 20s for medical reasons . i just think its barbaric and couldnt watch my baby going through that

 

[Leids]

I think some people may change their minds if they actually watched a circumcision happening, it's pretty terrible. To each their own though.

 

[Wantingbbbump]

I did it with my first son and if this baby is a boy I will do it again. I wouldn't have sex with someone that hasn't been cut!! I don't like the look of them. That's just me though. I thought my sons penis looked like a worm, I wanted him to look the way I have always seen them.

 

[dreamqueen]

I believe in freedom of choice and respect in making that decision, wether it be religious, medical or for preferencial reasons! However this is a dilema i am facing just now. My husband is circumcised (religious reasons) and i know his family will expect the same for my baby... and like someone else said... im kind of hoping for a girl so i wont have to cross that bridge just yet!
I personally dont like foreskins... i think they are very unsightly (no offence but they turn my stomach!) And no matter how clean you are with a foreskin you will never be as clean as without one. Therefor i find circumcision much more hygenic!
My brother was circumcised 2 years ago at 31yrs old... due to a medical condition that caused the foreskin to tighten and therefor caused alot of pain and bleeding... it was a painful procedure...but he is much happier without his foreskin...and although he is a very clean person.. he finds circd much more hygenic!
However.... i would not want to put my son through ANY pain unessesarily.... and should it be my choice to make? I am not sure.... they say that an uncircumcised penis has more sexual sensitivity.... once circumcised the skin toughens up. Dh wont know the difference as he was done as a baby! But....maybe it would be nice to decide to sacrifice this piece of skin when mature enough to make that decision??
Religion states it must be done...asap, but i am not a big believer in set religion as such.... But dhs family are VERY religious and i dont want it to cause arguements...but ultimately...it WILL be my choice. I would like to research how painful it is for a baby and also what risks are involved... and i will make an informed decision... but if my baby will be in agony...then there is no chance i will do it! But we should all have respect for each others choices

 

[Wantingbbbump]

I believe in freedom of choice and respect in making that decision, wether it be religious, medical or for preferencial reasons! However this is a dilema i am facing just now. My husband is circumcised (religious reasons) and i know his family will expect the same for my baby... and like someone else said... im kind of hoping for a girl so i wont have to cross that bridge just yet!
I personally dont like foreskins... i think they are very unsightly (no offence but they turn my stomach!) And no matter how clean you are with a foreskin you will never be as clean as without one. Therefor i find circumcision much more hygenic!
My brother was circumcised 2 years ago at 31yrs old... due to a medical condition that caused the foreskin to tighten and therefor caused alot of pain and bleeding... it was a painful procedure...but he is much happier without his foreskin...and although he is a very clean person.. he finds circd much more hygenic!
However.... i would not want to put my son through ANY pain unessesarily.... and should it be my choice to make? I am not sure.... they say that an uncircumcised penis has more sexual sensitivity.... once circumcised the skin toughens up. Dh wont know the difference as he was done as a baby! But....maybe it would be nice to decide to sacrifice this piece of skin when mature enough to make that decision??
Religion states it must be done...asap, but i am not a big believer in set religion as such.... But dhs family are VERY religious and i dont want it to cause arguements...but ultimately...it WILL be my choice. I would like to research how painful it is for a baby and also what risks are involved... and i will make an informed decision... but if my baby will be in agony...then there is no chance i will do it! But we should all have respect for each others choices

When I had my sons done they put us in the room next to him and I did hear him cry but then he stopped crying. The nurse told me that his only problem was that he didn't like the circ board. The moment they took him off of it he stopped crying..lol He didn't show any sign of pain after at all, not even when he pee'd. If you are worried about pain you can use a Dr that will numb it before so there is no pain for baby. Mine didn't numb him and like I said he hated being strapped down (so the baby isn't moving about with sharps in Dr's hand) My son is now 6 almost 7 and I just showed him photos of cut & uncut and he did not like the uncut ones. I asked him if he was sad at mommy for having skin cut off and he said "NO I like my penis".

 

[dreamqueen]

Thankyou for your personal story!

I am a little shocked after reading all the posts that some people refer to the procedure as barbaric and cruel!
I was also shocked to see someone who said they hated scaremongering stories go on to say that babies die from this op. That is total scaremongering and very hypocritical!

I was also shocked at the mother who is going to tell her son to ask the kids who have been circumcised to ask their parents why they cut off their body part! This is NOT right... and IMO is promoting bullying!

I was also a little surprised at someone wanting to ensure their sons penis matched its fathers so the child wouldnt get confused! I didnt think little boys looked at their daddys willies
Mines wont

 

[JessPape]

Your never going to have your father and son in the shower at the same time? it does happen, 6 year old and daddy in the shower, its not a pervert thing, and it does happen. Some kids are scared of showers and this is a way to get them okay to it.

infants have died being circumsied, I believe the number is rediculously small but it is a medical pocedure that CAN cause extensive bleeds, and infections. Any infection can kill someone.

As for asking a kid in school why their parents got them cut, isn't bulling, its asking a question, maybe a private question that may cause a fist fight in a boys bathroom but really its a harmless question.

 

[Sew_Sweet]

I am honestly hoping I have a girl so I can avoid this discussion entirely with hubby as I feel he will want our son (if we have a son) circ'd. It seems it came up with our first who ended up being a girl and he was kind of adamant about it. I was glad to avoid that - as I felt strongly the other way at that time. I just can't really see any real benefit in it. Like others have said - it makes as much sense to me as cutting off a girl's labia. There is just really no point in it. And the pain - god I'd feel horrible. So if we have a boy I am STRONGLY leaning towards no. I know my husband will have other ideas though so I am not sure how we will sort that all out.

I am really not buying the whole "more clean"argument. That just sounds ignorant to me.

 

[rwhite]

I can't believe some of the reasons I'm reading here. "I don't like the way it looks"...really?! Ears (the outer part) aren't exactly pretty and they aren't all that necessary but we don't lop them off at birth, do we?

The issue with being clean...well, women have a foreskin too - it's their clitoral hood. This gets gunk under it if it's not being washed properly either and it's not the prettiest piece of skin either. Why don't we circumcise little girls as well?

I'm just going to leave a video here for anybody sitting on the fence...I know it reinforced the stance that I held on circumcision. I do not believe that circumcision should be the parents choice - it's their son's body, not theirs. You do not own your children.

Warning - there are graphic parts, however these are warned about in the video before they occur so you can look away in due time.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ceht-3xu84I

 

[luckybreak]

Besides with the skin covering the penis or uretha, they can get more dirt and grime in their uretha than someone uncut. Sure everyones all cuts cleaner, but even cut guys can have nasty penis and infections because of hygine really. All comes down to education and learning hygine! That's it really.

gawd I am starting to feel glad I am no longer having sex hahaha all this nasty penis smells and gunk talk does not makes me want to see a wee wee any more lol

 

[dreamqueen]

Having no foreskin IS more hygenic.... FACT! We do have parts of the body that are not needed... FACT.
To say people are barbaric etc for making the decision to circumcise is out of order. People have beliefs... and they follow these beliefs with the childs best interests at heart. Its GODS word... so please dont mock their reason for doing it.
I think foreskins are disgusting... thats my personal opinion... not a reason that i would circumcise.
Will my 6yr old son go into the shower with daddy...em no. Because i think its perverted? NO... but because i dont think its neccessary. I certainly dont think that the big difference in winkies a 6 yr old boy sees from his own to his fathers will be the bit of skin on the end of it!!
I am on the fence with this as it is something i will have to decide on... but i think some of the anti-circ ladies are very ignorant as to why people do this and for many its not a choice...but a neccessity and a way of life. That should be respected

 

[megrenade]

Having no foreskin IS more hygenic.... FACT! We do have parts of the body that are not needed... FACT.
To say people are barbaric etc for making the decision to circumcise is out of order. People have beliefs... and they follow these beliefs with the childs best interests at heart. Its GODS word... so please dont mock their reason for doing it.
I think foreskins are disgusting... thats my personal opinion... not a reason that i would circumcise.
Will my 6yr old son go into the shower with daddy...em no. Because i think its perverted? NO... but because i dont think its neccessary. I certainly dont think that the big difference in winkies a 6 yr old boy sees from his own to his fathers will be the bit of skin on the end of it!!
I am on the fence with this as it is something i will have to decide on... but i think some of the anti-circ ladies are very ignorant as to why people do this and for many its not a choice...but a neccessity and a way of life. That should be respected

Okay, how about we cut off your labia then? It will only hurt for a little while.

 

[dfavbaby]

I can't believe some of the reasons I'm reading here. "I don't like the way it looks"...really?! Ears (the outer part) aren't exactly pretty and they aren't all that necessary but we don't lop them off at birth, do we?

The issue with being clean...well, women have a foreskin too - it's their clitoral hood. This gets gunk under it if it's not being washed properly either and it's not the prettiest piece of skin either. Why don't we circumcise little girls as well?

I'm just going to leave a video here for anybody sitting on the fence...I know it reinforced the stance that I held on circumcision. I do not believe that circumcision should be the parents choice - it's their son's body, not theirs. You do not own your children.

Warning - there are graphic parts, however these are warned about in the video before they occur so you can look away in due time.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ceht-3xu84I

Great video if you cant make up your mind. I was completely against it before but this video made me stand by it even more. Made me cry as I could never put my own child thru the pain.

 

[megrenade]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bXVFFI76ff0

This is NOT a quick procedure. It looks absolutely horrific.

 

[rwhite]

Having no foreskin IS more hygenic.... FACT! We do have parts of the body that are not needed... FACT.
To say people are barbaric etc for making the decision to circumcise is out of order. People have beliefs... and they follow these beliefs with the childs best interests at heart. Its GODS word... so please dont mock their reason for doing it.
I think foreskins are disgusting... thats my personal opinion... not a reason that i would circumcise.
Will my 6yr old son go into the shower with daddy...em no. Because i think its perverted? NO... but because i dont think its neccessary. I certainly dont think that the big difference in winkies a 6 yr old boy sees from his own to his fathers will be the bit of skin on the end of it!!
I am on the fence with this as it is something i will have to decide on... but i think some of the anti-circ ladies are very ignorant as to why people do this and for many its not a choice...but a neccessity and a way of life. That should be respected

I have highlighted the parts of your post that I am replying to. There are actually a few instances in the New Testament where circumcision is discouraged against. You may find this link handy for reference https://www.cirp.org/pages/cultural/glass1/

I think you will find that there is ignorance on both ends of the spectrum, and moreso from a few women on the pro-side who are looking for any possible way to bury their heads in the sand - those who will not research circumcisions pros and cons, but merely buy in to the whole idea because it's "the norm", it "looks better" choose to only listen to the so called benefits. Why do you think the women who are anti-circumcision are so against it? It's a touchy subject for very good reason.