Belle I'm really glad your interview went well, especially after your drama before it (I hope that resolves itself soon enough), credit to you for keeping your cool! I read through your lists of pros and cons. I think for me, I would probably go for the job with the higher pay and better benefits for now, purely for the financial help you would get with fertility treatments (and you did mention that you would hopefully be able to be fairly flexible in terms of going to your appointments). At the stage of life I'm in at the moment, I think that would outweigh the added stress that may come with the new role, and then if I fell pregnant, I would review my situation again after maternity leave. I appreciate that doesn't really help too much as it's not me! What does DH think about it?
Ask, at the moment we're not entirely sure. I'm currently going through tests to see if I'm eligible for egg share IVF. I had blood test 3 weeks ago to test for various things including chromosomal abnormalities, so we're hoping to get those results back in a couple of weeks. DH and I also had to have compulsory counselling (a requirement by the UK fertility treatment regulatory body), which we did this week. If the results come back all clear, it's very possible that we could begin this side of Christmas. Feels strange even thinking about it!