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[Britt11]

Hey Lisa, I can definitely understand ur frustration but honestly its truly likely just the stress of TTC in general- I think its very hard on both partners and the relationship. I hope u guys get through this bump and get a bfp asap!
Thx for the advice, donor sperm wasn't even suggested at this point- that is usually only for men who have a zero sperm count, which DH has a high sperm count. Yes DH has made lifestyle changes but the FS said there isn't much to improve morphology, he said the treatment is IUI- so to conintue with that for a few cycles. We want our own biological child. I believe the program u are referring to for IVF is only available in the States, I'm in Canada and unfortunatetly u just have to pay for it- $10,000 for the first round I believe. Hopefully it doesn't come to that, but we would do it if necessary.
Fx'd for this IUI cycle, and next cycle I'm doing double IUI!
Hugs,

 

[ttcbaby117]

aww britt - sorry you are down...but at least you know what you are up against....I think this IUI is going to work for you. Bring resentful is a normal feeling. I think my DH must be a bit resentful of me because I am the problem. Think though that many women on here have gotten pg with dh issues. In fact I just read a success story in the LTTTC section. It is in the success story section. There is hope for sure! fxed for you hun!


Lisa- sorry fro the fight...seems we have all been ona roll here....all of us have been pissed off by our dh in this last week...are they getting together on another forum and saying...ok your turn, go and annoy the hell out of your OH and say and do inappropriate things!

 

[lisaf]

Britt - the program for 'shared risk' is not a U.S.-specific program... its something that the individual clinics offer. Not all clinics offer it and many of them have different restrictions etc. It may be a matter of calling around to ask... I just did a quick google search and there are definitely girls in Canada who say their clinics offer the program. However, you have to make sure it includes the meds too since apparently not all programs do include them and that can be another $2-3K
Here's hoping you don't have to go that route!!! FX'd!!!!!!
I know having your own children is a strong biological urge. Its just that if you can't find the money for IVF, it might be the best way for you guys to have any children, you know? When options run out its something to consider.

TTC - we need to find that message board and shut it down! Lol! Then again, its not my turn next, so I should get a bit of a break!

 

[Smile4me]

Awww Britt hun I am sooo sorry my dh had low morph and motility and he just stopped taking Hot showers, he used MACA, and ate wheat germ four tablespoons a day.
I don't know if that will help hun but its worth a shot. I am soooo sorry sweetie but hey the IUI may help- You never know just keep trying to keep a positive attitude about it. I can certainly see where you are coming from sweetie, going through all the side effects of clomid and feeling like what is the point but as long as you as a couple work it out, that is all that matters. You are in my thoughts and prayers hun

 

[DragonMummy]

Britt my DH has low morph too (lowest count 6%) and we've gotten pregnant twice, so all is not lost. It only takes one of the little buggers! x

 

[mrphyemma]

I was shocked at how low my husband's morphology was (3%) but the FS said it was fine as his count was so high (360 million) I wasn't convinced but then he has given me 3 children already so maybe not a huge issue.

Britt I'm sure you are in good hands and you will get that BFP very soon

Thanks for the advice Lisa, you are always a fountain of knowledge!! I'm sorry to hear of the tensions in your household. Hope everything is okay now

 

[keepsmiling]

my hubby got told that his was ok, but didnt get told numbers, i think thy said his motility was 40% which he said was fine?
but i did ask fs and he said it was all ok xx

 

[lisaf]

Emma - thanks, things are fine now... we didn't discuss or resolve anything, but we both let it go... I think he's just going to keep his opinions to himself now, lol!

 

[Onelildream]

Hey, all. Missed ya this weekend. I'm feeling great. I went to the doctor's and got a +! So I guess it's official!

 

[babyloulou]

Britt- please don't give up hope of it happening for you both. My OH had low motility AND morphology! I then got my BFP on my 4th cycle (had never ovulated before so it was actually one of my four ONLY cycles). Honestly don't give up hope love xxx

 

[keepsmiling]

like we all say! it only takes the one,, get hubby to take vit c and zinc, i did and hubbys went up from 20% to 40% xx

 

[babyloulou]

Mine took Wellman, zinc, selenium and Apimist and his morph went from 7% to 13% xxx

 

[keepsmiling]

i think my hubby had low motitily xx

 

[Wait & Hope]

Thanks Isi, I'm glad someone has a good feeling for me. I am just permanently set to failure mode I think. It is maybe my way of protecting myself from disappointment but I just can't seem to feel optimistic about it anymore.

Thanks Tink, I am actually trying for my 4th child and it has shocked me to the core that after having 3 so easily that I am now struggling so. My youngest is nearly seven though so it is a good while since I was last pregnant.

Been to the dr's. No results. She doesn't routinely receive my results from the FS so she said she would look into it but she has given me the forms to go get Cd21 and Cd24 tests done for this cycle. So I will definitely be able to find out if I ovulate this cycle.

I am having some pretty strong twinges in the left today That is my blocked side and Murphy's law is the one I always have ovulation pain in. Please God let my right side churn an egg out

The doctor depressed me a little too. Its nothing I didn't already know but she turned to me and said "You are aware that after the clomid there is nothing else available for you aren't you". To hear it put so bluntly was not nice

Emma - sorry to hear your doctor was so blunt. So much of what you put in your post rings true with me too, protecting myself from disappointment by setting myself up for failure and the shock at becoming infertile (just WHEN did it happen?) considering I conceived my first child after 3 months and the second the 1st month of trying. My youngest is 7 & the gap is getting bigger all the time. A part of our life has been in limbo since June 2006, and now I'm wondering how long we can go on for. The ACU in B'ham said they would recommend we could go on to try IUI for 3 attempts (obv. we would have to fund this, approx £600 a go) & after that it's the IVF route (£thousands) - thing is, feels wrong to us to have assisted conception when we've done it before twice on our own! Plus, the money could be better spent on the children we ALREADY have - so Clomid is probably our last aid to getting baby #3.

Sorry, should've updated first - I'm CD28 & 14DPO today and did an internet cheapie 10m1U test this morning but got a The witch still hasn't appeared and I haven't had any spotting yet (which I usually do a day or two before AF) but I am very crampy & feels like AF is coming - plus temp dropped to coverline today, so I'm not optimistic at all, esp with test being negative We have now officially reached 4 years of trying & not even the slightest whiff of a BFP it's just rubbish...

 

[Isi Buttercup]

Definitely star shaped, Emma

I'm so sorry Britt! But the other ladies are right. It only takes just the one. I'm sure with the right meds/vitamins/lifestyle changes your DH will be just fine! That is yours hun!

Good luck Tink! Hope it all goes well tomorrow.

Lisaf, men can be difficult sometimes! My DH totally looks down on all my meds and had a good laugh when I got him Wellman meds. I was might angry because they don't sell them here and I had to pull all stops to get them from the UK. And all for nothing! And when I overstimulated in March, he had a field day with the "I told you so". But bless, ignorant as they may be, their hearts are in the right place!

Caz, you're not testing till Wednesday? You're teasing us now, lol! Rooting for ya girl!

 

[mrphyemma]

Wait and hope, I really hope AF doesn't show for you honey. I'm intrigued about the IUI but at 600 it is still not cheap considering the success rate. I'm not sure IUI would be of benefit to us anyway as it is my lack of ovulation that is the problem. We could start saving for IVF but like you say it takes money away from the children we already have and I will probably be on a zimmer frame by then anyway. Realistically I have to prepare myself to accept that after the clomid we have to let the dream go.

 

[mrphyemma]

I agree....Caz is teasing us with this testing palaver

 

[keepsmiling]

dnt give up hope emma there is so much that can be done now days xx

 

[caz & bob]

i am sick of doing them hun i would off done one again in the morning but haven got any girls sorry for the teasing don't mean it xxxxxx

 

[Smile4me]

oh hun, you just need to do the right one, the early detection kind I feel it sweetie!!!!