[CLOSED GROUP] TTC to 1st diaper - Welcome Freya! Congrats to fezzle!

[lamago]

Here's to good months! Shower of bfps and our first baby soon, right txbiscuit, when are u due?

 

[Pirate]

Yeah, u are probably right. Im sure she's excited to see me pregnant too. She did say good luck.

It's 700 wo insurance. My insurance doesn't cover it.

Thanks! My insurance doesn't cover it either so I was just curious. Every month that goes by makes that seem more and more like a realistic possibility for us.

 

[LillyTame]

I just feel like a BFP boom is coming (whether I'm in it or not, of course I hope I am!) I can't wait to see who all get's it this month!

 

[lamago]

How long have u been trying pirate? It was hard for me to think to do it too at first, but it's became obvious we needed to do it when husbands spermies came up sub par. I'm glad he was able to be with me in the room. It was kinda cool, KNOWING they made it in there. Of course they still have a long way to go but well see.

 

[lamago]

I have to say the last two months have gotten a little easier to handle.

 

[Pirate]

This is cycle 9 with 5 cycles of not trying barely preventing before that. Haven't had any testing done yet (my cycles are pretty close to clockwork, I get positive opks, the first cycle I temped I got crosshairs, etc.) so there is no reason to think there is anything medically wrong. Hubs has his annual physical later this month so I've gently suggested that he might try to get the ball rolling for an SA. I don't even know if there is a correct order to do these things in. I'm 32, hubs is 36. I hate to sound impatient because I know people have waited far longer than I have, but this TTC business isn't for pussies.

Just feeling pensive tonight. Sorry.

 

[txbiscuit]

Good luck lamago! I have about four weeks (give or take) left until my due date. (I'd love to have 7 more last-minute bump buddies!)

 

[Mrs. JJ]

Good luck lamago and Snack!!

I hope we get 7 BFPs this month too, Biscuit! How awesome would that be?!!

 

[lamago]

Pirate, I definitely think starting with sa is a good first, painless step. I got tested early because I'm 35 now 36 so I was being completely impatient. I just want a bump already! It's ok to be pensive. Everyone on tho group is really great at understating and making us feel better!

Well get all our bfps, you'll see.

 

[ClandestineTX]

I hope we do. I honestly was thinking last night, while having a soak, that I envy those with Clomid and IUIs. Not even the BFPs, I envy those of you who have better chances by having help. It made me realize when I see my Doc on the 25th, by which time I will either have a BFP or a new cycle start, I'm straight up going to ask her for Clomid (or something), to kick off my second year of TTC. I just REALLY hope it doesn't come to that, because I don't want to be a LTTTCer. And while posting in someone's journal a little while ago I remembered that I was on some form of hormonal birth control from the age of 15 to 31 - a large portion of which was Depo. Maybe I have been asking too much for my body to just turn everything back on straightaway? Or maybe we need help and I just don't see it, because I suck at asking for help.

 

[Pirate]

, Clandie!

Asking for help is hard. Failure is worse. Swallow your pride and ask for help. There may be some medical explanation or there may not be. There is no shame in asking for help.

Either way, we all have your back! You'll be a mom someday.

*Advice given by a person who has a reeeeeaaaaaly hard time asking for help.*

 

[ClandestineTX]

I'm of the "failure is not an option" mentality. I don't have a reason to believe anything is wrong with us that can't be fixed, and that's assuming there IS something wrong. I definitely ovulate (albeit, feels like a little later every cycle... which is actually an exaggeration - my ovulation drastically bounces around) and Hubster definitely makes and releases sperm - seriously, the man has been donating "samples" to one of our research groups on campus for years... has even been paid for it a few times! So if something is wrong, there has to be a really good chance it's fixable (right?).

@Pirate: when I wrote about the asking for help being a challenge - I KNEW you'd get me, if no one else did!

 

[Pirate]

Pretty much everything is fixable. There are very few women who CAN'T have children (I'm pretty sure you've given me this little piece of advice before). I think the time has come where you need to start looking into some more testing, for peace of mind if nothing else. You know you need the answers.

It's the variability of ovulation that confuses me. You ovulate, it's just not very predictable it seems.

 

[ClandestineTX]

Here's the breakdown. Please tell me if they look that "all over the place" or if we all just thought they were, but maybe aren't that bad.

Per FF's Cycles History, Ovulation data:
Minimum CD 16
Median CD 19.5
Average CD 20
Maximum CD 25

Cycle, CD of ovulation
Dec, 17
Jan, 21
Feb, 22
Mar, 18
Apr, 16
May, 16
Jun, 21 (This was the cycle with the phantom lines on an HPT 11-12 DPO)
Jul, 16
Aug, 25 (Note: quit smoking and added new thyroid meds)
Sep, CD 21 and counting...

And I didn't chart Oct and Nov, so no idea when I ovulated.

 

[Fezzle]

I'm the wrong one to ask because I have NO idea when I ovulate normally since I've only been tracking it for 3 months and not even sure I have yet. But, I'm with you in the failure is not an option mindset.

i would have been fine getting clomid from the first cycle, even if things would have been working fine. I don't care if things happen "naturally" or not, I just want them to happen. That's why it's been all temping and OPKs and supplements from the start. We're going to get tested in Jan/Feb if there's no BFP by then, even if we have to go privately. The longer I wait, if it turns out there is a problem, the more I run the risk of not being eligible for IVF on the NHS.

 

[Ameli]

They do vary a bit, but when they're put together like that they don't look bad to me. Wish I could offer some real insight, but I don't know much about ovulation day variability and what's considered "ok" or "normal". I would've definitely asked for help if it didn't happen as it did for us. To me there is nothing wrong with helping things along.

 

[LillyTame]

There is a little variation but not a lot....like I went from CD18 to CD27 (for 3-4months) now back to CD18! I think being on BC for so long probably is a factor for you and hopefully clomid (or something) would help to kick things in gear!

 

[Mrs. JJ]

What Lilly and Pirate said!! If after this cycle you need some answers, it can't hurt to just look into things even if it's just for peace of mind.

 

[lamago]

@clandie. I totally undstand about the envy part. When I was getting tested I'd always feel that way after a first, those that got pregant after first hsg, those that got pregnant after fist round of clomid, etc. etc. sigh

I think your ov dates look good. Mine varies between 12 and 17! Lots of luck for this cycle. Fx

 

[LillyTame]

It sucks that when I first started chatting on here I didn't know anything about IUI`s, HSGs, Clomid etc...in fact I left a couple groups because most of the ladies were such much further along and I felt lost, but now my immediate circle here is all about those things!