Co sleeping disaster :(

[EarthMama]

Agreed, we will have a king sized

 

[nikkchikk]

My hubby and I move a lot in our sleep, s we are not comfortable with a co-sleeper, but I have seen these and they look pretty safe. https://www.amazon.com/First-Years-Secure-Sleeper-Colors/dp/B00012CHFI
https://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3977276

For the first few weeks I plan on using this little doo-dad next to the bed:
https://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price...=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1321284658&sr=1-13

 

[Jaylynne]

I totally wasn't saying cosleeping is bad! I don't want to scare anyone away from their choice, just wanted to warn that even if you think you're a light sleeper, don't do drugs or drink (like this mama I'm talking about who had the accident) bad things can still happen if you don't prepare and take safety measures- like the mini baby bed in your bed etc. The mother was just overly tired and rolled over on her baby who was quite young.

 

[EarthMama]

It's always good to take precautions. Xoxo

 

[Boothh]

There are ways of co sleeping that on my opinion make it safer if anything than having your baby away from you, iv said it before in another thread but how often do you roll on OH during the night or roll out of bed.. You don't! Well I never have because I am just aware of my surroundings even though i am asleep, there are many positions to sleep in also that make it practically impossible to roll onto your baby without being aware of it! It's an amazing experience, I wish it didnt get all the bad press it does, I cant imagine having my baby away from me where I can't see and feel instanty that he is breathing, not too hot or cold and perfectly safe, id get no sleep at all if I kept having to get up and check him!

 

[Skadi]

Both of us move around in our sleep way too much for it. I'll just have the cradle setup beside me in bed. OH wants to co-sleep but honestly I find it a little odd. I'd be so terrified of something like that happening to be able to sleep with my little one right there in the same bed.

 

[sjwebb]

This is exactly the reason I don't co-sleep. I'm a heavy sleeper but my husband is a very light one and add that to exhaustion from all the feedings and waking up in the middle of the night I don't think I would feel safe having baby in bed with me. I would be terrified I would harm baby. My son didn't sleep in bed with us til he was about a year old and since then hes only done is about 5 more times due to us being on vacation and he had no where else to sleep but by then he can get up and move if he gets squished haha. I think co-sleeping is beneficial for the people who chose that path because baby does get amazing bonding time, just not my choice

 

[sunshineray7]

That's very sad and cannot imagine what the poor mother is going through. We coslept with ds from 2 weeks old and he still comes into our bed now. We are always careful and I am a very light sleeper.

 

[AngelUK]

I'd be too scared too. Not so much of rolling over the babies but that maybe the pillow from either me or OH or even the duvet got over our lil ones. So I am going for something like this which can be attached to the side of the bed. This one is quite expensive but it is the only one I have seen for twins. I am going to have a look on ebay after xmas.

 

[Sew_Sweet]

whats the point in co sleeping?

Sorry, but why are they in your bed?

I kind of wonder why they wouldn't be! I'm joking, but I was dead set against it, but when Alice came along it felt like the most natural thing in the world to have her by me. In fact, I would feel far less safe having my baby in a cot.

My main reasons were that I could keep a close check on her breathing and temperature, ease of breastfeeding, her breathing is regulated by mine, better sleep for both of us, no crying at bedtime, and the bonding time it gave us. I can understand it isn't for everyone though. Just another parenting decision we have to make!

Exactly - for all of these reasons. Though some of the stories I've heard are tragic like this one - there are just as many stories about SIDS that I feel could have been prevented WITH co-sleeping/baby wearing etc.

But I agree with those who said previously that it is definitely not for everyone. You do need to be a light sleeper and very "aware" of your child at all times. To this day I am still hyper-aware of what is going on with my 7 year old daughter and she is in her own bedroom. If I hear her so much as cough in the night it wakes me up and I go check on her. However my husband is a VERY heavy sleeper. He can sleep through war - quite literally. And also of course nobody should ever co-sleep if they've been drinking or taking any sort of drugs that would make you extra drowsy (even things like cold medicine).

I will be using a bassinet with this baby next to our bed but I will be co-sleeping with it some as well. But because hubby is such a heavy sleeper I will keep baby on the outside and use rails.

My heart breaks for the parents that have lost children through co-sleeping. It's possible that they were doing everything right too - but we just don't know.

 

[Tacey]

Incidentally, I used to be a very heavy sleeper, but I feel that breastfeeding, plus maternal instinct has made me sleep far more lightly. Even when I'm asleep I seem to be in touch with Alice, and will often wake fractionally before she does. It's something I think people should keep an open mind on, I certainly never expected to do it, but it should never be done 'on the spur of the moment' without researching how to do it safely.

 

[mrsrof]

There are some people who, even when completely sober, when they're asleep, they're asleep. I would never consider having baby in the bed with us, DH and I both shift positions in our sleep, and all it takes is for you to forget baby is there once (very possible if you're dreaming etc!). baby will be in a cot (a crib-sized one) beside our bed.

 

[LaRockera]

I'm also too scared to take her in bed with us. Both DH and I toss and turn and get in all kinds of funny positions during our sleep, and I know that if I take her in bed with us I won't be able to sleep at all. I'd much prefer if she slept in a crib right next to me.

That said, I'm well aware there are no guarantees in this life. And I would also like to clarify that the reason I personally don't want to co-sleep are purely psychological. I don't think that a woman who chooses to co-sleep shouldn't do so, not at all. x

 

[SabrinaKat]

baby is moses basket, later cot, next to bed -- I move too much at night and when I finally fall asleep, I fall asleep...

best wishes

 

[Wantingbbbump]

I have been co sleeping with all 4 of my kids and will do so with Airyonna when she gets here. For me I love the closeness from it and because I am a breastfeeding mommy it's nice to be able to pull out my breast and twilight sleep while baby is feeding. I did have a scare with my OH and our son after he was born...OH rolled onto his head but boy let me tell you I was up very fast and yelling at oh to move!! It never happened again after that and my son was fine, we didn't even have to take him in to be checked out. I will also have a co sleeper next to my bed because my son still sleeps in my bed and I don't want him to be pushed out for his sister to take his place so she will also sleep in there and in my bed.

 

[MustangGTgirl]

whats the point in co sleeping?

Sorry, but why are they in your bed?

Because that is how it should be. Why carry a baby for 9 months in your body only to throw it in a crib in a room by itself? I think it is horrible that people do this and can only imagine how scared those poor babies are alone in the night like that. I love my kids too much to not want to sleep with them and am certainly not selfish enough to put my wants ahead of what my baby wants.

 

[Jaylynne]

Ok this isn't a bashing thread ladies. Each mom makes the decision what's best for their situation whether in a nursery, cosleeping or in a bassinet. Don't call other moms selfish because they think a nursery is best. It's a rather insensitive comment frankly.

 

[xAmiixLouisex]

That's really sad . I don't tend to move much in my sleep, usually wake up in the same position and same spot I went to sleep in. But, I wouldn't take the risk. I can understand why mommys do it though, I guess you'd never really think that would happen to you and I'd love the thought of such closeness to my LO at night time.

 

[megrenade]

I'm an extremely light sleeper, and I slept with my little sister since she was an infant.. and that's when I was 13 - so I know I'll be just fine. Plus, you never really sleep when you're breastfeeding/co-sleeping because baby is nursing every couple hours.

But I agree - people who are deep sleepers, or thrash around in their sleep should probably do what you suggested.

Poor baby.

 

[LaRockera]

Because that is how it should be. Why carry a baby for 9 months in your body only to throw it in a crib in a room by itself? I think it is horrible that people do this and can only imagine how scared those poor babies are alone in the night like that. I love my kids too much to not want to sleep with them and am certainly not selfish enough to put my wants ahead of what my baby wants.

Err... I think most replies in this thread pertain to having the baby by you in the actual bed, not the same room generally. Correct me if I'm wrong, but the ladies that said they don't want to have the baby in the actual bed (for the baby's safety, not one's own comfort obviously) say they want to have him/her in a crib/cot/basket/whatever BY their beds.

So this thread is not about 'throwing' babies in a room- but even if a woman decided to do that, I wouldn't feel comfortable implying she loves and cares about her baby less than I do. I'm certainly having her in the room until she reaches at least six months (in a crib right by me) but I wouldn't think it's okay to judge mothers that choose otherwise without knowing their circumstances.