Just like to thanks all for the kind words, and at least some good has come from this as we were unable to have proper test until it happened 3 times, now in 6 weeks we are BOTH to have tests, which go as far as cromosones etc, to see if there is an underlying problem somewhere, hoping this may shed some light, the wife is still off work distraught, but I think whatever doesnt kill you makes you stronger, again thanks for the comments!