I can totally relate...
My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for one. I have had babies on the brain for the past few years, but hubby and I both wanted to get married, move out of our apartment and buy our first home together, and find decent insurance for me. My close family knew how excited we were to start trying, and I had talked to my mom and grandma multiple times about it as this summer approached!
Well... long story short here. My brother (who had just turned 20) and his girlfriend (who was 24, but acted more like 15) who had been dating for about a month, met up with me and my husband at a restaurant. We were just supposed to go out and eat, nothing special. Well, we get there, and we are sitting waiting for our food and my brother tells me that they are pregnant. My blood literally ran cold. All his gf did was sit there with a smug smile on her face, like she was happy about it. Don't get me wrong, I love my brother so much, but how she could be happy about getting pregnant to a 20 year old kid that you have only known for a month, that has no job and lives at home with his parents is beyond me. To this day, everyone in my family thinks that she "oopsed" him. (She told him she was on BCP's... no reason for him to not take 'other' precautions but still ughhhh.) Not only that, but she had been drinking and taking meds for a cold in the past few weeks!
I remember that the olympics were playing on one of the tv's at the restaurant, and all I could do was stare at the screen. I couldn't even say anything... my heart was in my throat and if I would've made a peep I would've started bawling. Then, my brother looks at me and says "Well, you don't need to make this awkward".
I freaked.
After hissing a few choice words at him, I turned to my husband. "Get the check, we are leaving. Now". He just sat and stared at me for a few seconds, so I turned around and left. I literally could not take being in that restaurant for one more second.
I cried for DAYS. It felt like my whole world was turned upside down. I had wanted this for years, and we were getting SO CLOSE, I felt like we had just done everything the way that we were supposed to and that we DESERVED to be able to give my parents their first grandchild as we had worked so hard to get where we were, and been RESPONSIBLE about it. I was furious at them, I felt like they had taken away something from me that I would never be able to get back. The worst part of the whole story is this though... earlier that day my brother and I were hanging out and he had told me that he was thinking of breaking up with her (he had no idea that she was pregnant at this point in time, as she tested right before we met up that evening).
It's been a few months and I've gotten over the searing pain of the situation, but everytime I see them, it is like rubbing salt in a wound. My brother and I used to be inseparable, and that has all changed. It rocked my entire family.
I remember my mom telling me how when my brother and his gf told her and my dad, that my parents were upset, but didn't yell at them or anything. Next thing you know, the gf is telling my brother that until my parents apologize for being upset, she isn't speaking to them. (Mind you, she will walk through the house to visit my brother without saying a word to either of my parents, I could literally slap the snot out of her...) My mom was a zombie for a few weeks... thankfully she is starting to get better though, and focusing on how nice it will be when me and my husband start trying.
The main reason that I forced myself to get over it and move on is the fact that being so stressed was completely messing up my cycles. I have NEVER missed a period since I first got it, and after that whole mess I got really irregular and my cycles got super long. Knowing that my husband and I still want to start trying this summer, I knew in my head that I just needed to let everything go and take care of my own body. Focusing more on that has made dealing with the whole thing easier, I think.
Well, thanks for reading, sorry it was so long. I no way am I knocking anyone here... I know that things happen unexpectedly and that they can be a blessing, and also I'm not saying that you should be married etc before you have a child. Just this specific situation had me really upset, and it's nice to be able to let it all out
not that age as anything to do with it.. its just the person who told me in school between 16-21 never have sex cuz you could get preg first time was a liar 
she ended up losing the baby a few weeks later.
My cousin John and his 'new' fiance are having twins "a boy and a girl" (how green I am because of that), my sister got pregnant last april her first month TTC and then complained about gaining weight etc while pregnant. 
Everyone in the family says my DH and I are the nicest most caring and generous people in the whole family and we will be rewarded some day. Well all the mean, uncaring and selfish people in the family are the ones having children. WTF? 
!!"
I'm the only one of her grandchildren who is even close to having a kid (my brother will not be able to have children - long and sad story there, my cousins on that side of the family are younger/single.. guess they could beat me to it, but I sure hope not since they'd be single or teen parents!).
