confused and scared

[Kalanisdl15]

So a few days ago I started feeling really pukey. I also was late about a week... so my boyfriend and I went to Wal Mart and got a pregnancy test and it said I was pregnant. The crazy thing is I was using birth control... the ring. We both just moved to California from Nevada last month and finally got settled in our tiny studio apartment. He just got a job and i was going to go to school for cosmetology. We both arnt in the right position for a baby right now and i dont know if we ever really will be. Also, I dont know anyone here so I think If I really am pregnant I would want to move back home which i hate but i have friends and family and support. I am going to planned parenthood tomorrow to take a blood test to see if its for real. I have been on the internet trying to calm my crazy mind and been looking at everything from abortion to having a baby. Its also another worry that my mother has never given birth and wont be able to help me along the way... you may be confused by that remark but im adopted haha. I guess I was just writing this for some guidance and ideas or at least a little more understanding on what is going on!

 

[loopylew]

hun you must be mixed up and confused, you need to talk to someone you can trust and go over how your feeling/thinking etc, either way you both have big decisions to make

 

[clb1982]

Hey
I was really sad to read of the predicament you are in It must be really hard when you never expected it and your not ready.
I think maybe it would be a good idea for you to confide in a friend or family member you trust for some moral support and guidance.
But ever then no one will be able to tell you what you should do, only you can make that decision for yourself.
Is your partner supportive? maybe you can talk it through with him.
We are all here if you need to talk.

Take care

 

[Tam]

Hello

Welcome to Baby and Bump!

Just make sure you get all of the information you need before you make any decisions and then you will be able to make the right one for you.

I am sure although your Mum has never given birth, I am sure she would be a great source of support and be there for you 100%, it will probably be lovey for you both going thru it together for the first time, so to speak........whether that be now or in x amount of yrs.

Good Luck in making your decidion hun, but make sure it is YOUR decision and you are not pressured either way from anyone! x

 

[Always&4ever]

I'm sorry to here the place your in at the moment, only you can decide what to do and as Tam said, find out as much info as you can anout your options and take it from there, and trust me even though your mum has never given birth she will still be a godsend to you.

 

[Ann-Marie]

Sounds like you're having a tough time. Just remember to think about you and your partner... don't let people judge you, or force you into a decision. There are lots of options which you'll need to think through. I was also adopted, my adoptive parents couldn't have their own, so there only option was adoption. I've also known girls to have babies when it wasn't the right time, and never really bonded with their child. There is no right answer except the one that's right for you. Take care, and be strong whatever you decide. Thinking of you.

 

[leeanne]

Sounds like you're having a tough time. Just remember to think about you and your partner... don't let people judge you, or force you into a decision. There are lots of options which you'll need to think through. I was also adopted, my adoptive parents couldn't have their own, so there only option was adoption. I've also known girls to have babies when it wasn't the right time, and never really bonded with their child. There is no right answer except the one that's right for you. Take care, and be strong whatever you decide. Thinking of you.

I agree with you! Sometimes babies are conceived that are just not the right time in one's life. I do feel for you and I agree that you shouldn't let anyone force you into a decision. You are the one who has to live with any decision you make and you and only you will truly know what is right at this point in your life.

Trust me, finding out I was pregnant recently when I thought I was done after my second child, and being 38 going on 39, I thought about my options. But one things was for certain, in my situation, I had to have this baby and I am perfectly fine by my decision now and so is my hubby of almost 10 years. It is our baby and there was no way that I was going to consider any other options.

But, for you, you know what is right for you. Seriously think about the pros and cons and how they will affect you. Good luck!