Confused, frustrated, alone

[lostnconfused]

I'm 9 weeks pregnant, and I have no one that I can talk to about anything. (sorry if this seems like a bit of a rant)

My parents kicked me out of the house, and don't want anything to do with me unless I decide to have this "taken care of". I'm currently living with a guy friend of mine, he's a great guy, really nice, but he has the IQ of a fruitfly lol he's just clueless most of the time.
I do want to have the baby, I really do, but it just seems like I would be giving up so much at the same time. I've been training in martial arts for years, and I'm really good at it, won competitions etc. and now I am not able to train. I'm lost without training. It was the one thing that I did every day, for 2 hours. I've lost my family, and most of my friends don't want anything to do with me any more either. It's like I'm so happy because I'm going to be having a baby, but so full of despair because I might have lost my future.

 

[Katy09]

Awww hun!! I'm so sorry you're going through this... I really have no advice.. just hope for the best for you..

 

[ilvmylbug]

I do understand how you feel, I felt the same way when I was pregnant teen. It's very scary because being a teenager is already scary in itself - you are learning to grow up and be on your own - now it's you're to be on your own taking care of someone else!

It's not my place, or anyone else's, to tell you what to do, but I will just say this:

I left a lot of opportunities behind me when I gave birth to my daughter. When I was pregnant, I knew that I would most likely end up single and alone. I didn't have any friends, instead I had an unsupportive family and a lazy cheating boyfriend. The only thing I was sure of was that the only thing that had not hurt me was growing inside my belly at the time - the only innocent party. I kept my daughter for that reason, and I would never in a trillion years regret my decision. She makes me so happy and really has filled a huge void in my life.

Again, this was only what happened to me and was my decision. I hope it helps you because I went through a situation scared and alone. It's very natural to feel that way, given your circumstances. You just need to have patience and faith and things will come together.

 

[Anna_due Dec]

Every plan i had for my life came crashing down when i got pregnant at 18...but my life turned out pretty good anyway. It's tough but do-able. If you really can't do it, maybe consider an open adoption so the baby has a chance at a happy life but you can still live your dreams as well as play a part in baby's life.

 

[smatheson]

im sorry your going through a hard time. Being pregnant and a teenager is really hard, but one thing I always think of is that my life isnt over and once LO comes I can start chasing my dreams again. It may set me back a bit and taKe longer to reach them, but now I have something to live for and to make these dreams happen. To me my baby is my inspiration and the reason I want to do good in school and graduate highschool and then go off to college and become a nurse practitioner because I want to do good for him and provide for him and give him a loving and stable home. Its not easy but it definately can be done! Good luck and congrats on your pregnancy

 

[Tanara]

I was in a similar situation when i was pregnant with my son, but I kept him, stuck it out with the people I was living with and my family and friends came around after he was here, my dad even let me move back in when taye was 8-9 months old cause things didnt work out where i was living. Honestly do what you think is right, you will be able to train again but you wont be able to take back "taking care" of the baby. Good luck xxx

 

[Burchy314]

I am really sorry that you have to go through this, I don't really have much advice for you, but I agree with what smatheson said about how my baby is my inspiration. I knew that it was going to be hard, but I know it is going to be worth it. You can PM me, facebook, or aim me anytime if you just need to talk to someone. All my contact info is on my profile. I am always up for talking. I wish you the best and congrats on the pregnancy.

 

[lostnconfused]

Thanks everyone, for all the great advice. I've been talking with my OH and he and I have agreed that we should keep the baby, and do our best as parents. His parents aren't really happy about the whole thing either, because they are Japanese and they always hoped that he would be with a Japanese girl (they just put up with me because I can speak Japanese). I think I've just been going crazy because I got so used to my daily routine and now it's completely altered, and I'm scared of gaining too much weight

 

[ilvmylbug]

I think I've just been going crazy because I got so used to my daily routine and now it's completely altered, and I'm scared of gaining too much weight

Don't be worried about gaining too much weight! Just keep eating healthy foods but don't deprive your body of anything. If you have a craving, it's ok to eat chocolate or salty snacks once in a while. And you can still exercise lightly while pregnant. Just take this time to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. Do not stress!

 

[Kitten91]

Hey,
sorry i can't give advice on the pregnancy part i haven't been there yet. but i have a very unsupportive mum, she kicked me out when i was 15/16/17 and then tried to play games with me, and break up my relationship, unfortunatly we cannot choose our family hun, but they will come around eventually they are you're parents, men aren't worth fussing over, especcially if they have uped and outed the situation, HE should be standing by you're side being supportive, i suspect you're friends are more scared of what everybody else will be thinking, and so keeping their distance in which manner they aren't really friends at all and you are probably better off without them. i know i am probably being a bit harsh i really don't mean to be, i am just being honest from my experiences. I was lucky my other half has stood by me and we are now planning on having a family of our own. It's going to be very scary, confusing, and frustrating. but thats because you are not in you're comfort zone of you're parents arms, the world is a very scary place i have learnt but just think, you would be able to bring a life into the world, and raise them and treat them to the best that you can, and not how you'e parents are treating you, keep you're chin up. there IS help out there !!!
Private Message me if you need too, i am 18 from the UK, i know it's 1000's miles away but seconds away on here.

 

[MissMamma]

I think that a lot of us on here have felt the same way you do, different reasons but same feelings. When it comes down to it it has to be your decision, there's no good following our advice if you'll regret the decision in a few years.
I totally agree that bubs is my inspiration, i've been chucked out of every school i've ever tried to attend but now i know i'm going to have someone dependant on me i'm determined to go to college and get the education i need to provide for her. Good luck honey, sorry your having a tough time. Your life isnt over, just put on hold for a while..xx