I've been lurking for quite a while now but feel just about ready to actually become more active as we're now officially, actively trying to conceive. I just have a few questions if no one minds. I'm pretty sure i've been pregnant twice before, purely because my periods for the past 13 years have always been very regular and follow a very specific pattern and both times I was late by more than two weeks, had some spotting and cramping that didn't turn into af and then eventually had a heavy period that was much more painful than before...plus, my partner works away a lot and this lateness etc. usually follows a time when he has been home and we've actively been trying. I never tested those two times as I was just hoping it would become obvious when I missed a further period. So was I really pregnant and miscarried two times? Or am I just deluding myself? I think it's happening again though, my partner was home for a week last week at the tail end of the time I would be ovulating, I'm now three days late for my period and am having period type pains and discharge that just hasn't lead to af. I don't know whether to test yet or whether to wait for the inevitable...or whether i'm actually pregnant?? I hate this!