Confused....

[Cinderella]

I've been lurking for quite a while now but feel just about ready to actually become more active as we're now officially, actively trying to conceive. I just have a few questions if no one minds.
I'm pretty sure i've been pregnant twice before, purely because my periods for the past 13 years have always been very regular and follow a very specific pattern and both times I was late by more than two weeks, had some spotting and cramping that didn't turn into af and then eventually had a heavy period that was much more painful than before...plus, my partner works away a lot and this lateness etc. usually follows a time when he has been home and we've actively been trying. I never tested those two times as I was just hoping it would become obvious when I missed a further period. So was I really pregnant and miscarried two times? Or am I just deluding myself?

I think it's happening again though, my partner was home for a week last week at the tail end of the time I would be ovulating, I'm now three days late for my period and am having period type pains and discharge that just hasn't lead to af. I don't know whether to test yet or whether to wait for the inevitable...or whether i'm actually pregnant?? I hate this!

 

[Carlena]

i would test if your 3 days late it would be a good time to test but you can wait if you like

 

[bebe]

I would definitely

 

[lisalove]

You just asked a group of POAS addicts if you should test.... do you really need the answer?



In all seriousness, it does sound possible that you had previous mc, but I really cant say for sure. Its worth testing, because if you do get a and it doesnt stick, perhaps you should be talking to your GP to see if there is something which needs to be looked at.

All the best & welcome to BnB

 

[Tracy B]

Test !!!!!!

 

[Nutmeg]

If you only ovulated late last week i think this week would be early for af to show up? Most people have at least 10 days between ovulating and af appearing. A preg test might show up now. Good luck

 

[Reedy]

Personally I dont no how you've managed to wait 3 days



Good Luck & welcome to BnB x

 

[Cinderella]

Haha... thanks. I guess i'm a wait and see kind of person. Also, I think I would be devestated if I actually was pregnant and it didn't stick... ignorance is bliss! But then we've only been trying for 8 months. Ok, I'm going to test.

 

[minnie]

Oh let us know please, good luck

 

[Sambatiki]

WELCOME TO BNB! May your journey on the TTC boards be short and sweet!!

 

[Cinderella]

So I tested and got a very clear digital 'not pregnant'. Which four days late I have to admit stung a little! It's the first time i've ever tested though and it's kind of spurred me on if you like to take this a little more seriously. It's just a little difficult as I'm in Florida and he's in London and I only see him every six weeks for the next year. I don't think there's much point charting until we're both back in the same continent which isn't until next September....oh well, if I AF soon, I should be ovulating when he next visits.

Thanks for the help though girls!

 

[TigerLady]

Glad to know someone else has gone through what I have recently. I also wondering if something just isn't sticking for me. I normally have a LP of 10-12 days, but 2x since TTC (including this last c), the LP was 17 days. The that followed was strange... heavy ealier than usual (heavy on first day, and way more painful than usual). Last nite, cd 1, I thought I would keel over from the AF pain... SOOOOO not like me. Unlike you, I tested both times and always got . I wonder if the horomones aren't working right to keep a pg sustained. I'm going to see the doc soon and see what he thinks about it.

Think about charting before you and OH are together just so you have a really good history of what is "normal" for you. That way when you guys are really trying all the time you will be well armed with good knowledge!