Confussed !!

[Jodie__x]

Hiiiiyyaa!!
I'm Jodie im 17, i found out i was pregnant like 3 weeks ago and from what ive calculated im 8 weeks ! deep down im happy and i want to keep the baby, but the babies dad wants me to have an abortion which i originally agreed to because i didnt think i could cope with the baby! , but i dont know how im going to tell him that i'm keeping it, he said he would be there for me and that if i did , but hes also said that he would kill himself DRAMA QUEEN loli dont want to ruin his life (which he reckons it will do !) but i just dont think i will be ever able 2 live with the guilt if i do get rid ov it ! OH and telling my mum aswell im pooing my pants about it , she hates the dad coz hes 22 and she doesnt trust him (fair enough!) and shes already told me that i would be a slut being pregnant when i dont have a propa boyfriend, although me and him have had an on off "relationship" for the last 2 years ....
someone helpp pleeassseee !!​

 

[ella170]

hey im 17 too nd my bf was EXACTLY like urs.
a few weeks back he txt me at 3 in the mornin telling me he wanted to kill himself lol! i just laughed cos i knew it was only blackmail cos he wanted me to have an abortion. hes still pissed off about it now and when i complain or get upset about being pregnant, he says to me, 'well u shud have had an abortion ages ago, but no u decide to keep it.' nd then we end up arguing like we did today.
i hated myself at the thought of ruining his life but in the end i realised tht its his fault as much as mine, so he cant really be annoyed about it. u wont have to feel guilty for long about keeping it, because eventually he will come around and love the baby as much as u do. but if u have an abortion then u will feel guilty for a long time like u said..
at the end of the day, its ur final decision because ur the one who either has to carry the baby or terminate it. good luck, im sure he will come around xxx

 

[CherryBlossom]

HUNNI first things first

I think in this case u need to do what u want and what u feel is right. will you be able to give the baby the life it deserves or not? can u do it on your own if you need to? etc. I get the guilt thing but think of it this way if you cant look after it proply then dont you think its better not to have it. but then again you will remember it for the rest of your life. I am not gonna tell you what to do as I really dont know your situation.

I would tell your mum, I know she said those things but deep down she loves you i am sure.

But I am here if you need to chat. xxx

 

[Jodie__x]

Thank you both of you !!!


I know i would be a good mum , and i know he would be there for the baby & me, i think its just because he doesn't want his 'perfect' little life to change where he can go out clubbing all weekend and spend all of his money on himself. It really gets me down because i know i cant get rid of the baby, i love s/he too much already , although s/he makes me violently throw up in the street and embarrass myself loool !. i just dont exactly know how to tell him .. :S

 

[CherryBlossom]

U need to do it face to face and tell him that this is what u want and u want him to be part of it but even if he dont want to be then u are still keeping it.

He will come around

you are very brave and us lot will support u 100% of the way xxx

 

[Jodie__x]

Thank youuuuu !

Ive got my first scan on thursday, i might take him along it might make him feel differently , hes soppy really (when hes not having a mood swing lol) im quiet scared about it though , its going to be quite embarrassing because i have to have it done vaginally but i suppose if im going to have this baby , i gotta get used to getting my fanny out

 

[CherryBlossom]

LMAO i was like that when i first had the coil put in i was like omg omg she is gonna see my lady bits lol its not that bad hun just feels wired xxx

 

[Jodie__x]

Lmaooo .. my friend was like jode you'll be lucky if you get to wear your socks ! i thought great , i might just ask her to kiss me and tell me she loves me first , might lighten the mood lmao

 

[CherryBlossom]

LMAO

 

[Jodie__x]

Good idea dya think lmao ? i might even bring us a little picnic make it a date and all that ....



Goddd .. i think i have actually lost the plot you know !!

 

[CherryBlossom]

LMAO hun u will be fine they do it every day xxx

 

[Jodie__x]

LMAO hun u will be fine they do it every day xxx

You sure know how 2 make a gyal feel special , yeh i know .. im just nervous i think , i dont often take my clothes off infront of strangers (sobar) lmao .. totally new experience !! hahaha

 

[toffee87]

I've had scans for health reasons, had one last week vaginally and it's fine. It's quite discreet. They put a cover over your thighs and so it's not like you're lying there naked, and they have to have a woman atleast present so you don't feel awkward. I just had one female nurse and it's fine. No pain or anything.

 

[Jodie__x]

thanks alot broody thats really reassuring
xxxxxx

 

[ella170]

lol gd luck wiv it
i dunna wat to really say about tellin him. it was weird wiv my bf because i didnt exactly tell him, he told me tht he just knew the hole time tht i wudnt be able to go frew wiv it. i kept tellin him about how hard it was nd how i was so stuck wiv deciding nd i also kept changing wat i told him.
it might be easier for u to do it tht way- by slowly letting him work it out for himself tht ur gonna keep it, rather than it coming as just one big blow xx

 

[Jodie__x]

He does know im pregnant and we've discussed keeping the baby, but he then turnt around and said it was a no no ! im going to tell him friday the latest , build up the courage and all that looool

 

[CherryBlossom]

Good luck hunni xxx

 

[vicky9207]

gud luck with ur descision. im 15 n had my baby 2 months ago so if u ever wana chat pm me

 

[vicky9207]

Thank youuuuu !

Ive got my first scan on thursday, i might take him along it might make him feel differently , hes soppy really (when hes not having a mood swing lol) im quiet scared about it though , its going to be quite embarrassing because i have to have it done vaginally but i suppose if im going to have this baby , i gotta get used to getting my fanny out

i can see u have a sense of humour lol

 

[Mynxie]

Hiiiiyyaa!!
I'm Jodie im 17, i found out i was pregnant like 3 weeks ago and from what ive calculated im 8 weeks ! deep down im happy and i want to keep the baby, but the babies dad wants me to have an abortion which i originally agreed to because i didnt think i could cope with the baby! , but i dont know how im going to tell him that i'm keeping it, he said he would be there for me and that if i did , but hes also said that he would kill himself DRAMA QUEEN loli dont want to ruin his life (which he reckons it will do !) but i just dont think i will be ever able 2 live with the guilt if i do get rid ov it ! OH and telling my mum aswell im pooing my pants about it , she hates the dad coz hes 22 and she doesnt trust him (fair enough!) and shes already told me that i would be a slut being pregnant when i dont have a propa boyfriend, although me and him have had an on off "relationship" for the last 2 years ....
someone helpp pleeassseee !!​

sweetheart, your bf seems like he's asking you to choose between him and your baby. your mum will come around to the idea.