Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[Nimyra]

pic!

 

[snagglepat]

Em, if you're really determined, you will get there with the feeding. Ember didn't latch on at all until she was 4 weeks old and I had to pump for every feed, but we found a great lactation consultant and she got us there in the end. Ember self-weaned just a few months ago - once we got there we were very reluctant to give it up! Good support can make all the difference though, so see if you can find a good breastfeeding specialist who can help you through. It made all the difference to us.

Kezza, yes, we're civil partners. We only became civil partners for the legal benefits though - especially around having children.

Gina. x

 

[snagglepat]

Oh Em, I just saw your new profile pic. Maya is gorgeous!

 

[Nimyra]

Thanks for the advice, Gina. It's good to know that we're not the only ones and that a rough start can be overcome. I'm pretty stubborn, so I have hope. We will definitely contact a lactation consultant if we are still struggling in a week.

 

[RubyRainbows]

Great pic -- baby is beautiful!!!!!!! Good luck with the breastfeeding -- Hope Maya comes home very soon!!!!!!

 

[LunaBean]

Awww! Maya is sooo cute!!!!

Im only 6dpo and testing already, lol. *maybeeeee* a 'something' lolol. Even OH saw it, but I 'am' still only 6dpo, so Im disregarding it until its pink enough to blind me!!! I did get my bfp at 7dpo last time tho, so we'll see! Have had cramps alll day and peeing like mad, my chart is looking good to, so fingers crossed!!!

 

[EpdTTC]

Hugs to your friend MommyTammy. That is heart wrenching.

Yay to beautiful baby Maya being here and being a source of good energy for all of us in various stages of ttc.

Snagglepat-congrats on finalizing the legal stuff with the kids. That is huge!

Lizzie-good luck this month, I'll be watching for your BFP!

 

[topazicatzbet]

good luck lizzie.

im waiting for the witch to arrive and then on to cycle 3.

 

[doglover888]

Forgive me for not reading all the posts in this thread to find the answer - but there are so many. And I keep getting confused on who did what. My question is has anyone on here gotten pregnant with at home insemination with frozen donor sperm? I'm just wondering if I'm wasting my money and my time.

Thanks,

Sandy

 

[Nimyra]

I could be wrong, but I'm not sure any of us got pregnant at home with frozen donor sperm. I know some of us are doing this, and I have heard of it working - success per cycle could range from 3-10%. Expect it to take more tries than using non-frozen sperm. If you have the time and money to spare, keep going. If you have more money than time, may want to try an IUI at a clinic (which will raise the success per cycle rate to 6-20%). Live sperm at home should have a success rate of 10-20%. If you are younger your numbers will be higher, older, lower.

I found that knowing the probabilities helped me make the decision about how we wanted to proceed.

Good luck!

 

[doglover888]

I am 44 - will be 45 in Nov. I've already spent about $3,000 on 3 failed IUI's and 1 at home try. I think 2 of the IUI's were bad timing. But the other one and the at home were perfect timing. The IUI's were done with my gyno. I have an appt. with a RE on Wed and will see what he recommends. I haven't had a fsh test in about a year. I know those numbers can easily change.

I don't really have a lot of money or time at this point. Something's gotta work soon or Ill be out of both.

Sandy

 

[LunaBean]

I think given ur situation, you should try and find a donor/clinic to use fresh sperm, as I know this has a higher success rate. Ive been pregnant 4 times the past 10 months using a known donor at home, sadly I lost all the babies, but it does have a higher change of working than the frozen stuff. Good luck!

 

[doglover888]

I've not been able to find a known donor. It will have to be frozen unless something changes.

 

[topazicatzbet]

hey girls im out this cycle, but my cat got her bfp today. kittens due in a few weeks.

 

[LunaBean]

Sorry ur out, but yaye for kittens! I want a kitten, but OH says no since we already have a dog, boo!

 

[RubyRainbows]

Sandy, sorry to hear things haven't been successful for you thus far. My partner & i have tried 3 months with frozen sperm... (Oct., Nov., & July)... we inseminated twice each cycle. Two times i tried (but then found out my insulin level is very high)... and this last time my OH tried. No luck. We are now looking into IUI thru a fertility specialist (while saving to buy more frozen sperm). She is willing to prescribe clomid. Have you been taking that?

I have to say, i'm surprised i didn't get pregnant my two attempts... when timing seemed perfect. I got pregnant with my son the first month i was dating my ex-bf and we weren't trying by any means! That tells me that there is a huge difference between fresh/frozen sperm. However, i haven't found a known donor yet either!

Let us know what your gyno says at your appn't!

 

[kezza78]

Hi Ladies,

Topaz, so sorry your out this month fx'd for next month!!

Luna, fx'd for you!!

AFM - i'm on CD12 at the mo and got my 2nd high this morning on CBFM! Donor's coming over tomorrow and then he's on standby awaiting the all important PEAKS!!

Going to have a test run tonight with the instead cups as we've never used them before.

HAs anyone else used them?

 

[DaisyDoodles]

Sorry I haven't been around everyone... just back off my hols and itching to start TTC!

We've decided to change our donor, the one we originally found lived several hours drive from us which meant we would have to leave my son with my parents for 2 days every cycle while we travelled up, stayed over in a hotel and came home which we were prepared for, but we were a little unsure of some of the stipulations he wanted in the contract regarding contact. So I emailed somebody else last night after we arrived home and was amazed to get a response this morning agreeing to help us!!! The new donor is a couple of miles from us, doesn't have any rules or stipulations and is sooo much more laid back that I'm feeling much more positive about the whole thing already!!

Em, congratulations on Maya's birth, she's absolutely stunning!!

Kazza, I bought the instead cups with the intention of using them after AI, but did a trial run during my period and they leaked I certainly won't be risking them with my precious - I have a mooncup that I plan to use instead!

 

[LunaBean]

I used instead cups for one of my cycles and got my bfp, but they do leak, I cud never use one for AF! Personally I didnt like them, but some people swear by them! There's an instead cups thread on here somewhere, you should search it!

 

[topazicatzbet]

i used instead cups and pre seed when i concieved callum and im using them this time round too. i dont get any leakage, wouldnt want to use them for af though.