Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[EpdTTC]

Lea-having been there before, my heart goes out to you. I do hope that things happen for you just as quickly in the coming months.

 

[Nimyra]

Oh, Lea, I'm so sorry!

 

[RubyRainbows]

Aww Lea -- i'm so sorry to hear your sad news! Thinking of you!

Lyvian -- everything i've read about 2ww symptoms indicates that discharge/wetness is often a pregnancy sign! Yaayy! Good luck!

Mommies1&2 -- FX'ed for you! Sounds promising!

Luna -- i think there are 2 little girlies just waiting to fertilize!

day-dreamer -- Your friend who was excited about donating sounds perfect! Driving a bit shouldn't be too hard! Our (two) donors both live over 4 hours away! Last month we met in the middle @ a hotel for insemination! Maybe you should still consider him as a possibility?? Just a thought!

We are meeting a new donor tonight! We had scheduled our donor for Monday morning but CM started two days ago & OPK was + yesterday!!!!!!! I can't believe timing can change so much! We are worried that Monday will be too late! But it's the only day the donor was available! Sooooo we are meeting a different donor tonight! He also lives 4 hours away & we will be meeting at the same hotel. He seems very genuine & very nice! Hope it goes well tonight -- i am so anxious & nervous!

 

[Nimyra]

Day_Dreamer, I was going to say the same as Ruby. My donor was 4 hours away. Sometimes its worth the drive for the right donor. Maybe he'd even be willing to come to you if you reimbursed his expenses. I'm sure whatever you decide will be fine though!

 

[Tegans Mama]

Have to agree that the right donor is well worth travelling for. Our current donor lives 10 minutes away and drives to us, but if/when we're on the market for another, we have a guy in Liverpool who seems really nice!

 

[mommies1and2]

Teagan, so sorry to hear your news.

Good luck tonite Ruby

 

[EpdTTC]

Good luck tonight Ruby!

Day-dreamer-I agree with the other girls-a drive for the right donor is definitely worth it!

 

[lyvian]

Mommies 1and2- SO EXCITED FOR YOU!! I'm the more emotional one too. She is more like you. I'm so hoping and praying she is. Funny story, Our 1st try when she was getting close to her AF, everytime she went to the bathroom, I went along LOL. I'd stand there and say, "Are we clear." LOL! Today she told me,"I guess you will be following me to the bathroom soon. I'm out of control, aren't I?

Tegans, my heart goes out to you. Sending a huge your way.

Ruby thanks and GOOD LUCK, going to say a prayer for you, for all of us. May God Bless us with a bundle of JOY.

 

[RubyRainbows]

Tonight went awesome!!!! I LOVED this guy! Soooooo good looking! Gorgeous eyes! So sweet, sincere, & thoughtful! Gave us a big hug when he saw us. Really excited about "fathering" a child bc he said otherwise he would never get the chance to have kids (i think he may be gay). He's only 23 years old... we are the only couple he is "working" with... and he talked to his parents about the whole thing & got their support. Sooo happy right now! FX'ed!!! There was alot of leakage tho! Not sure why?! I said to OH "Your legs are in the air & your butt is elevated on two pillows.... how can it be dripping out! It defies gravity!!!!!"

I assured OH that the hotel desk clerk wouldn't think twice about us checking out 2 hours later --- But i was wrong! He looked at me like i had two heads & said "REALLY?!" When i said we were checking out! Awkward!

Thanks for all the support girls!

Lyvian -- you sound like me! Lol. Almost everyday during the 2WW i text OH at work and ask how she's feeling... if she "feels pregnant"... and to describe her CM to me.

 

[RubyRainbows]

Just out of curiosity -- how often do you guys ask your donors to get updated HIV/STD screenings? Are they usually pretty good about doing this regularly?? (I'm not as much concerned with the donor we used last month bc he is married & in a seemingly monogamous relationship... but a bit more concerned since this donor is young & "single.")

 

[Nimyra]

I think having test results redone every 6 months is reasonable, especially if you are paying for them to be tested. I also think it is reasonable to ask your donor to abstain from risky behavior and to tell you if they do anything that could put them (and hence you) at risk.

That said, when I used my donor (a year ago!), his test results were nearly a year old. I made a judgment call that I thought he was trustworthy and most likely not exposed to anything.

 

[day_dreamer]

Lea - so sorry

If money weren't an issue right now we'd definitely use him, but he as weve both recently moved houses and jobs money is going to be tight for a while. He cant afford to come here and we cant give him 60quid for petrol!

 

[mommies1and2]

Ladies:

Since this is our first month TTC I am not that experienced at the charting but I think mine might be going to a triphasic stage now...Would you mind taking a look and letting me know what you think?

www.fertilityfriend.com/ttc/calendar_module.php?d=2010-10-30

(Just ignore the fertility monitor info, it's not right.)

Is it really possible that all these signs could line up and I'm NOT pregnant? I want to be so badly, maybe I'm seeing things...I am only 6 DPO but I want to test so badly...I've got to get a grip!

 

[topazicatzbet]

thats not the right link hun, it takes me to my chart. go to your home page and copy the code there that looks like this

https:// www.fertilityfriend.com/home/242043

 

[LunaBean]

Aww noway Lea..I'm so so sorry..I know only too well how you feel It's not fair.

 

[Tegans Mama]

thankyou Liz.. It is unfair, why can't things just be easy for us all

 

[lyvian]

Ruby, I'm glad everything went well. Our donor is also young(21) and he is here on a work visa. We know him for 3years and is a great guy. Very thoughtful and willing to do what's needed. We hope there is a bun in the oven, since we only get one more month to try since he goes back to his country at the end of Nov. and won't be back for 3 months. I also think that he is gay but I think he doesn't feel comfortable sharing, that is okay with us. We also had ALOT of leakage, maybe these young ones have more to bring IDK. Anyhow, I'm crossing my fingers, toes and braiding my hairs, that we are pregant

Mommies 1 and 2- I do to braides, one for you and one for me May this wait be so worth it

 

[EpdTTC]

Fingers crossed for all of you Lyvian, Mommies, and Ruby!

Ruby so glad it went well. Your donor sounds awesome and I think it's really cool that you got to talk to his parents! Do you think they are excited about this because they see this as getting to have a grandchild? If you guys get preggo by him, what type of contact do you want to have? Anyway, I'm glad it went well and that he is a normal, good guy! I also had what felt like a lot of leakage with my donor (he is 28 yrs old). No matter what I did, pillows, etc, it always seemed to make its way into my butt crack (I know, TMI). I am so glad you decided to join the fresh donor sperm bandwagon! I hope it brings you your bundle of joy!

 

[mommies1and2]

https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2f2ea6

Sorry about that Topaz! This one should work!

Thanks Edp and Lyvian! It's so great to have a place to talk to other women who are in the same situation...it makes me feel a little less crazy.

 

[RubyRainbows]

Well Erin -- it makes me feel better that you had so much leakage too yet still got pregnant! This may sound gross (and possibly weird??) but i used the syringe to suck up what was dripping out & inseminated it back in. Hope that was ok since it was about 10 minutes later & was exposed to air?!

Erin, sorry if i worded it wrong -- we didn't talk to his parents... he talked to his parents before joining the donor site & they thought it was a great idea. He stated that he is ok with no future contact, or some contact depending on what we want. The contract we signed stated just pictures. I suggested an occasional get together in the future (just in a conversation w OH) but at the moment OH said she prefers just sending pictures. So... we'll see!