Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[tenleys306]

RUBY I WENT AND HAD BLOOD WORK DONE TODAY AND IT WAS NEG UHH SO SAD I JUST GOT MY HOPES UP AND I KNEW IT WASNT GOING TO BE GOOD.

 

[Tegans Mama]

Sorry to hear that Tenleys Did your AF arrive yet? x

 

[day_dreamer]

Ooo fingers crossed Ruby

Yay Lea love your ticker!!

AF arrived today, so working out based in last month, I'm due to O Christmas day woohoo how about that for timing. Not. We're not even going to be here for at least 25-28th as we're doing Christmas at MILs. Still, have to see how our meet with potential donor goes next week first....

 

[Tegans Mama]

You're meeting your donor next week? Great news! Timing is often a problem isn't it Makes it a lot harder I think when your family don't know your ttc aswell.

 

[mechanica]

YAY Lea! How many months had you been trying?

I'm not due to ovulate until Wednesday but i did an OPK this morning and was surprised when it looked positive. I did a digital clearblue and got a smiley face so it looks like this is it!

I am SO nervous its unbelievable. I actually want to cry through nerves which obviously isn't conducive with being relaxed! I've not met my donor yet and i'm terrified he will meet me and decide he doesn't want to help me!

I've emailed/text him but he hasn't replied yet. I really hope he is available and this is my month! The first time with a new donor is always the worst isn't it?

 

[Tegans Mama]

It is. We've used the same donor for the two months we tried and got pregnant both months with him. I also got pregnant the first month with Tegan too! I was not counting on being pregnant this soon though.

Good luck Mechanica, really hope he gets back to you soon Where are you doing the insem? x

 

[day_dreamer]

Good luck mechanica! I'm terrified about meeting our potential donor and thus time its only for coffee haha!

Timing is a bugger, especially with family scattered across the country. At least if they were in the sametown/county we could nip home. I think we even have plans for 24th so 2 days before o might be our only hope.

 

[Tegans Mama]

2 days before O should be fine tho, we insemed 2+3 days before last month. This month just once the day after.

 

[Elliottsmum]

Thanks Ruby, it was stressful but over all it went better then expected. I was possitive my mom was going to just straight up say we were to young(I'm 29 and my wife is 24) and while the conversation started that way when my mom realized how stressed it was making me to tell her she said "yes I may have my opinion but that's not going to stop you from doing what you want to do" which for my mom was pretty positive. Now all weekend I've gt questions... Is she taking prenatal vitamins, has she had a check up, did she go to the dentist... As if one day I was thinking let's throw some sperm in there and see what happens... Gee! She also forgot we have been together 5years.

But I have done months of research and prep work the only think we weren't ready for was the +opk Friday afternoon...
They left this morning anyone think there's a chance 36hours after a +opk?

 

[Tegans Mama]

I would go for it Elliotsmum! You never know, a small chance is better than none at all x

 

[tenleys306]

Sorry to hear that Tenleys Did your AF arrive yet? x

Not yet but the time is coming af date is around the 29-02nd of dec then ill set my cbe monitor Thank you for your support i was very upset and i dont think my wife really understands. i know she was upset too but she has a better attitude i guess.

 

[Tegans Mama]

Sorry to hear that Tenleys Did your AF arrive yet? x

Not yet but the time is coming af date is around the 29-02nd of dec then ill set my cbe monitor Thank you for your support i was very upset and i dont think my wife really understands. i know she was upset too but she has a better attitude i guess.

Are you the one who will be carrying the baby? I'm sure I've seen you say whether you are or not somewhere but have forgotten. It is almost always harder for the partner who is going to be pregnant. Good luck next month xxx

 

[LunaBean]

Lea I spy a ticker! PIX! NOW!!!!!

I was stuck in Derry the past few days because of the snow, we have to come over a mountain, but they hada close it, so couldnt get home to the donor yesterday, and I had a positive OPK last night and ovulated already now Fail.

Prom pix on my journal/on Facebook if anyone wants to see!

 

[RubyRainbows]

I would go for it Elliotsmum! You never know, a small chance is better than none at all x

Agree! Worth a shot!

Tenleys... again... so sorry. On to next month! I love that you had a big wedding! Love the couple diff wedding pics i've seen you post! Beautiful! I also live in PA! Would love a big wedding.... but 1st OH has to propose!!

Luna -- A "prom" to me is a high school senior prom. What sort of event was this that you went to? Saw your FB pics -- you & Dee looked awesome! Sorry that damn snow messed up your plans!

 

[LunaBean]

It was an 'alternative prom' for anyone who's gay who couldn't go to their own high school prom, or take a boy/wear a dress etc! Boys could bring boys and wear dresses, and girls could bring girls and wear suits! I didnt get to go to mine cus I left school early, so was great!

 

[mechanica]

Hi All,

I got my +OPK at 10.30am Sunday and then another at about 5.30pm (haven't tested since). My donor can't make it until 7pm Monday so 33ish hours after my first positive. Is this too late? I thought he would have trouble coming at the weekend and now i'm panicking about everything! Will the egg already have died? Or be on the way to dying? What if i ovulated 12 hours after the initial positive? I can't ever tell when the ovulation takes place because i get cramps throughout my cycle so i never quite know which is the ovulating one!

My donor is coming to my house. I have arranged childcare so my daughter will be staying with my sister for the night. I am trying my best to be relaxed but i am so so nervous. I'm using preseed this cycle. I'm never quite sure how you read CM because mine is still a bit 'tacky' atm. Does it only change to EW when the egg is actually being released? I'm going to leave the syringe in for the full 30 mins and then use an instead cup and go to bed.

Sorry, i'm just rambling now. I'm going to drop my daughter off at nursery in the morning and then tidy up because there are toys EVERYWHERE and i don't want him to think badly of me.

I'm over thinking things, i know! Think of me tomorrow at 7pm ish when i'm picking my donor up from the station!

ETA: I've not even seen a picture of him, is that weird? Did anyone else not see their donor before meeting? I'm not worried about him not being who he said he is, but people seem to think i should worry about how he looks (because of the characteristics they'll be passing down). Does anyone else not care about appearances?

 

[Tegans Mama]

We didn't see our donor before we met him and he gave his first donation. Looks aren't really a problem to me to be honest. I care more about intelligence

I ovulated Thursday morning and our donor came over friday afternoon at almost 3pm. It is ALWAYS worth a try - if you don't try you'll simply never be pregnant

 

[EpdTTC]

Congrats Lea!

Good luck for the 2ww Ruby!

Hugs Tenleys. Hang in there. It is a bummer to get a BFN, but don't give up-sometimes it just takes a little time.

Mechanica-I agree with Lea-always worth a try. I think you could still well be within the window! As for seeing my donor-yes I met him and talked in person with him for several hours before we decided to proceed. He is very intelligent, but also very good looking. I guess looks were important to me too-plus for me it would be odd to not meet someone and talk in person first before deciding whether or not he was the right donor for me. But I know several of the gals on here have done it the way you are and it has been just fine. I think it's just personal preference.

 

[RubyRainbows]

ETA: I've not even seen a picture of him, is that weird? Did anyone else not see their donor before meeting? I'm not worried about him not being who he said he is, but people seem to think i should worry about how he looks (because of the characteristics they'll be passing down). Does anyone else not care about appearances?

Well, i wouldn't say that i don't care about appearances... bc i do. But i wouldn't base my decision on that. Safety was/is most important to me... i needed to feel the guy was safe, honest, legit, clean, & normal. I also needed to like & understand his reason for being a donor. If anything seemed sketchy or odd about their answer for "why?" i eliminated them as a possibility. Also, if the guy seemed reluctant to go for STD/HIV testing i eliminated them. Most importantly, i needed to have a good "gut feeling" about him! Intelligence also factors in... and then looks. Honestly, i don't really think our "1st choice" donor is very good looking... but he is very nice, smart, well educated, good family man, sincere reasons for donating, good job, married/clean STD screenings... and has some physical characteristics that are appealing to us: tall, thin, athletic, blue eyes. Our "2nd choice" donor... is GORGEOUS! But also very young & not always available to meet.

Good luck tomorrow night -- I will be thinking about you! Just out of curiosity... why hasn't he sent you pics?? Personally, i would want to see who i'm picking up & bringing back to my house... for safety reasons. Since it's your very 1st meeting... is there anyone who can possibly be with you tomorrow night, as a safety measure? FX'ed everything goes great! I look forward to hearing all about it!

 

[RubyRainbows]

Erin -- Congrats on reaching 24 weeks gestation! One of many more wonderful milestones to come!!