Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[RubyRainbows]

So sorry Erin!

 

[LunaBean]

I'm so so sorry hun I really hope you get some answers, I still havn't been to my doctor yet, I can't face it It's always harder when you have more than one, one can be put down as a 'one off'...the 2nd you start getting worried, and after 3 you start thinking 'wat the hells goin on??' It's sooo stressfulllll and I hate it

 

[sam#3]

Oh erin im so sorry for your loss hun.
I know it wil be hard but we are all here for you if u need to talk or shout or rant or cry etc xxxx

 

[RubyRainbows]

So the old friend who i emailed about being a donor never replied to my email.... or my follow up email. Nothing. Silence. And it's been a few weeks now. Another possible donor (a stranger) i was talking to online.... said he is having some medical issues so now would not be a good time. And a different guy who i have been talking with (lives locally, 30 years old, easy to talk to, good looking), who seemed very promising, just asked me thru IM if i would like to see a picture of his penis. I GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!

 

[rosie5637]

So the old friend who i emailed about being a donor never replied to my email.... or my follow up email. Nothing. Silence. And it's been a few weeks now. Another possible donor (a stranger) i was talking to online.... said he is having some medical issues so now would not be a good time. And a different guy who i have been talking with (lives locally, 30 years old, easy to talk to, good looking), who seemed very promising, just asked me thru IM if i would like to see a picture of his penis. I GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!! [/QUOT

OMG! i've got all this to come next year, hope i don't have too much hassle.

good luck in finding the perfect donor, i'm sure there is someone out there

 

[RubyRainbows]

Thanks Rosie -- so frustrating!!

Lizzie -- is that a new tattoo that you got??

 

[RainbowMum]

eugh, Tammy...sorry you're having a hard time finding the right donor

I just realised something...I ordered a pack of digital ovulation tests from the US(as it was a lot cheaper even with postage) and they'll probably arrive this weekend. Unfortunately everything has to be declared on the customs sticker and the seller didn't seem too bright so I'm almost certain he declared/labelled it as 'ovulation tests' instead of something vague like 'diagnostics' or whatever...my boss(I live with them) is home tomorrow and Saturday and usually is home when the mail arrives so she's likely to see it *sigh*
Not sure what I'll say if she asks me about it, I mean I've not been working here long and don't want her to think I'm going to get pregnant tomorrow or something. Maybe I'll just tell her the truth and say that I want to have a baby sometime in the future and was just curious if I'm ovulating at all/when....
*sigh*

 

[Nimyra]

I'm so sorry, MommyTammy. How frustrating!

 

[LunaBean]

Rainbowmum, it'll just say 'medical' on them usually, thats what mines say!

Tammy, yeah I got it yesterday

https://i41.tinypic.com/qp45qh.jpg

 

[EpdTTC]

MommyTammy-Ugh! That makes me want to scream. Why would a potential sperm donor who I'm assuming knows you need a sperm donor because you aren't really that into penises, think that you would want to see his penis??? I think it is because deep down all men think the world wants to see their penises!

Lizzie-I love your tattoo. What a sweet, sweet way to honor your little angels. I might have to think about doing something similar.

 

[RainbowMum]

Rainbowmum, it'll just say 'medical' on them usually, thats what mines say!

Unfortunately this seller wasn't that clever

He just messaged me saying he labelled it 'clearblue test sticks'
So I'm on postman watch, though I'm now hoping this whole vulcano business delays the parcel by a few days as he sent it on the 16th

Also knowing my luck he put $30(it's for 20 digital tests) on it and I'm going to end up paying customs ;-)

 

[Zuzana]

Hello everyone! We are a same sex couple and are WTT early 2011 via home insemination using donor sperm (known or unknown donor is yet to be decided).
Off to catch up with at least with some of the thread
xx

 

[Nimyra]

Welcome Zuzana!

There are a lot of good tips in the early pages - technical things like how to time insemination and what methods each of us used.

 

[RubyRainbows]

Erin, i hate penises! Lol. I certainly have no desire to see his! He *seemed* normal our first several conversations!! Apparently, he doesn't realize i'm only interested in his

Lizzie -- your tattoo is so sweet. I may have to steal that idea as well. I try not to think about it, but having lost Jayden's twin early on in my pregnancy was devastating....

Vicki is getting a tattoo tomorrow of our son's name, Jayden. I love tattoos!

Hi Zuzana -- welcome!!!! :wave:

 

[Nimyra]

After a lot of internal struggle, I've decided that OH and I need to tell our families that this baby was donor conceived. Currently only my Mom and one of my sisters knows. We decided not to tell others yet because we didn't want them to reject the baby or not treat her like a proper family member, but I feel like a liar every time someone makes a comment about how the baby will inherit various traits from OH. I feel like I'm being secretive and dishonest and acting like this is shameful and I really want my daughter to grow up knowing that there is no wrong way to make a family. I'm realizing I need to deal with these feelings and my lingering feelings about having had to use a donor before she comes, not after.

OH and I talked and he is still nervous about telling his father and sister but agreed that we could go ahead and tell his kids (my step-kids) who are 15 and 17 and his mom and my dad. It's a start and I'm grateful to him for understanding and respecting my feelings.

I have the kids up this weekend and will try to broach the subject.

 

[Eskimobabys]

Hi,

I don't know if it is the same thing but I am a surrogate and we did home inseminations for 3 cycles and got lucky on the 3rd try. Good luck

so its your egg and the other womens husband's sperm???

 

[Eskimobabys]

After a lot of internal struggle, I've decided that OH and I need to tell our families that this baby was donor conceived. Currently only my Mom and one of my sisters knows. We decided not to tell others yet because we didn't want them to reject the baby or not treat her like a proper family member, but I feel like a liar every time someone makes a comment about how the baby will inherit various traits from OH. I feel like I'm being secretive and dishonest and acting like this is shameful and I really want my daughter to grow up knowing that there is no wrong way to make a family. I'm realizing I need to deal with these feelings and my lingering feelings about having had to use a donor before she comes, not after.

OH and I talked and he is still nervous about telling his father and sister but agreed that we could go ahead and tell his kids (my step-kids) who are 15 and 17 and his mom and my dad. It's a start and I'm grateful to him for understanding and respecting my feelings.

I have the kids up this weekend and will try to broach the subject.

so he has two bio kids already? but he couldn't have a bio kid with you may i ask y? i hope all goes well with tell his family! i hope they accept her im sure they will!

 

[Nimyra]

He had a vasectomy many years ago after his kids were born and went through two unsuccessful reversal surgeries. All this happened before we met - he thought he was fertile after the 2nd surgery but was wrong (or the scar tissue built up over time). The situation is unfortunate but not terribly uncommon.

 

[Zuzana]

Welcome Zuzana!

There are a lot of good tips in the early pages - technical things like how to time insemination and what methods each of us used.

Hiya, thank you! I am only on page 8, as I didn't have much time yest. I do know a lot already, as I've been looking into this for a couple of years already, as I always knew, this is not something to be taken lightly and not as easy as it is for (some) of the straight couples who have unlimited supply of baby juice Off to read more-learn more
Glad I have found this thread!
xxx

 

[Zuzana]

MommyTammy thank you!