jay004
Mom to Jake.
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Hi, I have seen other women on here considering to give their baby up for adoption and I have been thinking the same thing.
Here's my story:
I am 17, senior in high school, doing great in school and accepted to many universities. So basically, I had a pretty succesful life ahead of me, I feel.
I am currently 8 weeks 2 days pregnant with my "boyfriends" child who is about to turn 20. Him and I have been through a lot (domestic violence charges, constant fighting, etc.) but somehow we always end up back together. And I care for him soooo much, but I don't know how much I love him, really. I'd like to think we are in love, just doesn't seem the same as when we were both in high school and after everything that has happened we have a large amount of resentment towards eachother.
My father, who I have a great deal of respect for, obviously HATES my "boyfriend" for hurting me in the past and is devestated by this surprise pregnancy. I hid from him that we were still in a relationship because I knew it would hurt him. My dad wants the pregnancy to go away. In other words, abortion, for helath reasons (I am high risk- ovary removed and other stuff) financial reasons, and he feels the father and I are not capable of raising a child, which I understand all of that. I just don't believe abortion is right for my situation since this is my fault and not the baby's.
So here I am wondering about adoption. I would like to hear stories of people who went through it? Or if they could change their mind, would they? I have a huge decision to make.. I feel like I'm going into this alone- any advice?
There are days when I feel like a mother to this baby- and others where I am dperessed to be pregnant. I don't know what to do.
Thanks to everyone
xxxx Jay
Here's my story:
I am 17, senior in high school, doing great in school and accepted to many universities. So basically, I had a pretty succesful life ahead of me, I feel.
I am currently 8 weeks 2 days pregnant with my "boyfriends" child who is about to turn 20. Him and I have been through a lot (domestic violence charges, constant fighting, etc.) but somehow we always end up back together. And I care for him soooo much, but I don't know how much I love him, really. I'd like to think we are in love, just doesn't seem the same as when we were both in high school and after everything that has happened we have a large amount of resentment towards eachother.
My father, who I have a great deal of respect for, obviously HATES my "boyfriend" for hurting me in the past and is devestated by this surprise pregnancy. I hid from him that we were still in a relationship because I knew it would hurt him. My dad wants the pregnancy to go away. In other words, abortion, for helath reasons (I am high risk- ovary removed and other stuff) financial reasons, and he feels the father and I are not capable of raising a child, which I understand all of that. I just don't believe abortion is right for my situation since this is my fault and not the baby's.
So here I am wondering about adoption. I would like to hear stories of people who went through it? Or if they could change their mind, would they? I have a huge decision to make.. I feel like I'm going into this alone- any advice?
There are days when I feel like a mother to this baby- and others where I am dperessed to be pregnant. I don't know what to do.
Thanks to everyone
xxxx Jay