divadexie
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Ok... I've been having a bit of problem with my son pooing himself. He was 6 last month.
I thought he was getting better, hardly any ''accidents'' recently.
Then the other day he asked to go play in his room, and I said no because Anna was sleeping (which he understands, he can't always go and play every time he asks) he went on and on and then sat there and pooed!
I take away privelages when he does it, like on a wed he is told he can't go to his swimming lesson if he poos, because the last thing I want to be doing is squashing up in a tiny cubicle to clean dried on sh!t off his bum. Last week he missed it because he had a nose bleed so I kept him off.
Today I quietly reminded him as I was dropping him off at school.
School has just phoned me to tell me by half 9 they discovered his 'accident'
Which he finally told me he did because he didn't want to go swimming!! Apparently swimming (he is only in the 2nd group- ie the next one after basic) is too hard!
I've explained to him he can't just poo because he wants to do something or doesnt want to go somewhere, he has to talk to me or OH but where the hell do I go from here??
I have never made it so that he can't talk to me, I always listen to him. But why does he have to get out of doing something, or when he doesn't get his own way!
It's driving me mad! I thought I'd had a nice break from having to clean up poo before I had LO, now I have extra!
He started about a year ago (well, bit less than a year) and it didn't co-incide with LO being born, coming home, moving house or him starting school.
I ignored it at first, thinking it was just one of those things, as we couldn't find a common time/event it happend at/with etc.
We tried sticker charts, as he has done really well with them in the past, but now its just like he doesn't care, we tell him how well he has done at bed time if he is still clean, and how happy we are etc, even now, we always make sure we do.
One day he saw me throwing away his 'favourite pants' and got upset, I told him if he didn't want me to throw away pants (i just cant put that in my machine! lol no way) then he needs to keep clean.
It worked for a while, not for long. I tried explaining to him that it was really dirty and would make him sick (and freakishly he caught a 24hr bug that was going round, and stopped doing it again for a while).
I've tried explaining to him again and again and again, I've told him off, took his toys away- that one workd the longest, as he was only allowed one set of toys back every day he was clean- he's been sent to his room for it, not been allowed anything after tea..
OH has explained it, my mum, OH's mum, the teacher...
The doctor said lots of children go through a phase like this, he will grow out of it.
Yes, but WHEN??!!
I thought he was getting better, hardly any ''accidents'' recently.
Then the other day he asked to go play in his room, and I said no because Anna was sleeping (which he understands, he can't always go and play every time he asks) he went on and on and then sat there and pooed!
I take away privelages when he does it, like on a wed he is told he can't go to his swimming lesson if he poos, because the last thing I want to be doing is squashing up in a tiny cubicle to clean dried on sh!t off his bum. Last week he missed it because he had a nose bleed so I kept him off.
Today I quietly reminded him as I was dropping him off at school.
School has just phoned me to tell me by half 9 they discovered his 'accident'
Which he finally told me he did because he didn't want to go swimming!! Apparently swimming (he is only in the 2nd group- ie the next one after basic) is too hard!
I've explained to him he can't just poo because he wants to do something or doesnt want to go somewhere, he has to talk to me or OH but where the hell do I go from here??
I have never made it so that he can't talk to me, I always listen to him. But why does he have to get out of doing something, or when he doesn't get his own way!
It's driving me mad! I thought I'd had a nice break from having to clean up poo before I had LO, now I have extra!
He started about a year ago (well, bit less than a year) and it didn't co-incide with LO being born, coming home, moving house or him starting school.
I ignored it at first, thinking it was just one of those things, as we couldn't find a common time/event it happend at/with etc.
We tried sticker charts, as he has done really well with them in the past, but now its just like he doesn't care, we tell him how well he has done at bed time if he is still clean, and how happy we are etc, even now, we always make sure we do.
One day he saw me throwing away his 'favourite pants' and got upset, I told him if he didn't want me to throw away pants (i just cant put that in my machine! lol no way) then he needs to keep clean.
It worked for a while, not for long. I tried explaining to him that it was really dirty and would make him sick (and freakishly he caught a 24hr bug that was going round, and stopped doing it again for a while).
I've tried explaining to him again and again and again, I've told him off, took his toys away- that one workd the longest, as he was only allowed one set of toys back every day he was clean- he's been sent to his room for it, not been allowed anything after tea..
OH has explained it, my mum, OH's mum, the teacher...
The doctor said lots of children go through a phase like this, he will grow out of it.
Yes, but WHEN??!!