Crying again

[kaye]

sat here crying again, coz yet again i log onto facebook tonight and 2 friends are announcing they are expecting.

Im getting a peed off that recently all i seem to be doing is reading or hearing other peoples happy news, I WANT IT TO BE MY TURN! (i am happy for them, just sad for me and it just makes me feel a failure)

2 years and no where near on getting answers or a BFP, and i am so so so sad all the time and crying. ARGH!! I really truly thought it would happen straight away, how wrong i was.

 

[kylie30]

Hey didn't want to read and run, i've had low times like that when you feel like all is lost. You will feel better again but its ok to just let yourself feel how you feel too. I was feeling so low last week about the whole ttc thing, my mum took me out for lunch to cheer me upand low and behold we ended up sitting beside two heavily pregnant women. It was almost more than I could take, whereas at other times it wouldnt bother me in the slightest. I know how you feel

 

[star25]

Hi, Do what I do and deactivate facebook for a while, Ive stopped wasting time on it and dont have to see all the status's I dont want to, like you im happy for others, my sister just had a baby 4wks ago and hes gorgeous! )) just sometimes you dont have to keep reading about it
Good luck

 

[Missus_L]

I too know how you feel. I was told today that my DH's cousin who's 20 is expecting but it's one of the first times I have not been upset. I have also got to the point where the people who are pregnant on FB who I envy are now hidden so j don't see the constant updates of how they are 'sick' or 'aching' or 'getting too fat for their liking' ect. Chin up and hide the sods x

 

[Princess Lou]

I understand how you are feeling. My hubby and I have been trying for over three years ago and it kills me every time I see someones update about their pregnancy/babies. I just blocked their posts from appearing on my page.

 

[Armywife84]

You and me both. It's gotten to the point of where I fear logging onto FB. I know 21 pregnant women at the moment, it's just ridiculous. I'm actually contemplating deactivating my FB. I know it's addicting, but there's no reason to keep it around when it can potentially upset you.

 

[mg80]

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[Lisa2701]

I TOTALLY understand what your saying hun. DH and I have been TTC for almost 21 months now, and in that time I have had so many family and friends who have fallen pregnant and had their babies. Its so hard seeing the announcements and the newborn pictures etc, but what REALLY rubs me up the wrong way is people moaning about being pregnant.... I have 2 ladies just now who are doing it on a daily basis....one of whom has genuinely been pretty unwell and in hospital as such so I can understand her feeling sorry for herself a little but the other one..... is having a "whoops" baby and has had a perfectly healthy, textbook pregnancy and MOANS as if its the worst thing ever to have happened to her...she has 2 kids already...she knew what pregnancy was all about...why get pregnant if its the worst thing is the world??

People don't know I am TTC but I have been so tempted sometimes to say something. Or even to drop a hint... someone posted a music video on here yesterday about LTTC and I was sooo tempted to post it on my FB...i'm just too chicken

 

[LizMcD]

I had the very same thought this morn about de-activating the a/c and Im going to do it. Yesterday there was 1 preg announcement & another gal boasting how lucky she was to have 2 children in 4 yrs of marriage - that was enough for me, im off!!

It was making me too negative and us lttc ladies need lots of positivity - i think its better spending time on here feeling good, rather than on facebook feeling crap

lots of luck xx

 

[star25]

even if you deactivate you can always log back in with your username and password for people you actually keep in contact with, now i just spend all my time on b&b with all you lovely ladies instead!

 

[oorweeistyin]

Hi Kaye,

I totally understand how you feel....I too am TTC for 3 years and just had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago....the day after I started bleeding I logged onto FB and got a PM from my SIL announcing she was pg and how happy she was even though she wasn't trying!!!

I was gutted and now my OH is away again, not sure when we'll see each other next...he is HM Forces and you can't plan anything.......he left this morning and I just feel so EMPTY!

I cry far too much these days....me no likey

I hope all of us ladies get some good news soon.......lots of love and lots of baby dust coming your way xxx

 

[kaye]

thanks everyone, it is a real comfort to know im not alone in feeling like this.

Do you know all i really want is a set in concrete date when it will happen you know, even if its a year or 5 years time! Just so i dont have to worry all the time and feel like a failure. Im sick of getting told it will happen, just dont worry and think about it!! Argh so annoying

Lost of babydust to us all, PMA WE WILL GET OUR BABIES ONE DAY!!!!

 

[n41210]

i think fb can be evil at times. ive been trying for 4 yrs and each week at least 1 of my fb friends are announcing their news, i found out my step sister was pregnant on fb and cried for ages. i havent ever announced it on fb that im ttc but my friends know not to put anything on there, sometimes a good ole sob isnt a bad thing. xx

 

[wonderstars]

Just popping my head in because this was exactly my state yesterday. I cried so much I called in sick today because I just exhausted myself. One of my close friends told us at lunch that she was pregnant and I was so so happy for her but inside I was so sad. Signed into Facebook today and have 5 people with newborns and 2 more who are chronicling their pregnancies. I'm happy for them but it's killing me ... and I've only been trying for one year.

Kudos to you ladies who've done it longer. Just wanted to say you're not alone and I'm thinking that de-activating facebook for a while may not be a bad idea. Time for a break. (Just de-activated and feel a little better already - time to focus on other stuff).

 

[Smiler82]

Hiya
just wanted to jump in and say FB is the reason I'm on BnB today! Seeing newborn baby photos has just brought me down and I'm feeling pretty sorry for myself. I don't think I'd got as far as deactivating it as I do use it for emails etc but I've set it up to hide the posts from people who are pg/new parents....but then some days you forget about a mutual friend who then gets tagged holding a new baby and it sets you off! Or if you are completely mad like me, you purposefully look up the people you already blocked. Why why why? Don't know why I did that, some sick desire within me to sabotage myself :S

oorweeistyin I'm so sorry for your recent loss, heart goes out to you. I don't know how I'd have coped with my husband away. Really hope you have got some support around you x

 

[anniehope]

I know how you feel, everytime I log on it seems that someone else is announcing their happy news. Or telling the world that they are having their second baby, or their sister is pregnant or their best friend or their aunt nellie.

Since we've been TTC I have convinced myself twice that I was definately pregnant. This month was one of those times. I even started thinking through names in more detail. I know it's stupid. My husband thought I had AF I didn't tell him I hadn't as I knew he would be excited thinking the same as me. Plus I don't like having sex if I'm late as I get worried it could cause a miscarriage - probably rubbish but that's what I worry about - then if I got my period the day after I'd think the sex caused it.

Anyway ewnough of my waffle. I completely understand how you feel.

 

[anniehope]

Have you been offered any treatment?

i think fb can be evil at times. ive been trying for 4 yrs and each week at least 1 of my fb friends are announcing their news, i found out my step sister was pregnant on fb and cried for ages. i havent ever announced it on fb that im ttc but my friends know not to put anything on there, sometimes a good ole sob isnt a bad thing. xx

 

[kaye]

Hi Kaye,

I totally understand how you feel....I too am TTC for 3 years and just had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago....the day after I started bleeding I logged onto FB and got a PM from my SIL announcing she was pg and how happy she was even though she wasn't trying!!!

I was gutted and now my OH is away again, not sure when we'll see each other next...he is HM Forces and you can't plan anything.......he left this morning and I just feel so EMPTY!

I cry far too much these days....me no likey

I hope all of us ladies get some good news soon.......lots of love and lots of baby dust coming your way xxx

so sorry for your loss xxxxx big hugs xxxxxx

 

[n41210]

yes im having treatment, ive got pcos and have already had one cycle of injecting menopur every evening and currently on my 2nd cycle. i wish you all luck x

 

[IrishGirl]

Im sooooo sorry your feeling like this hun.Massive hugs xox.I know how your feeling.Everywhere we looked women had huge bumps.When we used to go for our treatment we had to pass through the Maternity Hospital also grrr. We were TTC this lil Shamrock for 5.5 years after many many failed treatments and 1 very early mc we got a Natural BFP.Im sending you all tonnes and tonnes of Baby Dust and Lucky Irish Dust xox