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[purpledahlia]

Ive told FOB straight, He told me i should have an irish middle name for the baby because hes irish and he hates Caitlyn as a middle name, i said what do you suggest, 'Téagan' - YUCK. i hate that name. And i said to him i can call her peahead if i want you cant demand things, i like the name, ive done everything myself so far so i will consider what names you suggest but im not gonna NOT use a name FOR YOU. You cant just be involved in the nice fun parts and ignore the serious parts. Things could of been different if you had been more reliable and been around and in touch not just every month having 1 convo.. then maybe things would be diff. but youve not. youve continued to let me AND Ava down. so i dont believe anything you say anymore as ive not seen any proof, your too inconsistent. It went ok cos he didnt blow up he just gave excuses, then said he had to go. I said i dont care if you have had obstacles, ive had thousands the last 9 months but ive still provided EVERYTHING myself with no job! obstacles or not if she doesnt come first its not good enough. bye!

 

[lou_w34]

Ahhh well done!
Sounds like you got your point well and truely across! And so you should!

 

[starbucks101]

He is not going on the Birth Certificate. He is not having that power over me to control mine and my childs life, i will not put us ina situation where we need his permission for anything. I dont WANT him to pay and see her i think hes an arse and would be happier if he just left us to it alone forever.

however as he wants to see her i wont stop him, he can come up whenever he wants and visit her. But i know for a fact he says this but when the time comes, he wont. he says now he wants to come up once a week, fine by me, totally unrealistic to him. he MIGHT make it once every 2 months. but whatever, whenever.

I am not denying my child anything, im protecting her.

Hey just checked back on this! I think you may have taken the way i wrote abit more confrontational than it was, or perhaps ive read it wrong??

Anyway, To be 100% and im sure as most of us more veteran single mums will also say fathers rights are complete and utter b*llocks, and they really dont exist. as will 98% of FOB's who are fighting through courts to get access to their kids... Look at groups like Fathers for Justice etc...

Also, that was just my opinon, DD's dad, abused me for nearly 3 years and i wasnt the first by the sounds of it, hes a benefit theif and a complete waste of space and we are sooooo much better without him. However its not him that she is being denied, its his family and her half-sister etc...

Thats why i think its important for him to always be on the certificate because at least she has got somewhere to start when she is old enough to make the decisions for herself

Plus when she has to use her own birth cert, and if in your situation the dad is involved its always you that going to look like the "b*tch" because your the main carer with all the responsibilites!

Its not easy is it!! xxxx

 

[purpledahlia]

tbh ive never seen mine and never needed it so i cant see why she will need hers? i am open to adding him on tho if he prooves himself.. I would keep in touch with his family but he doesnt let me. Its catch 22 really, but If i met someone and we wanted to emigrate for example.. he would be able to stop us if he was on it.. so i dont want him on it till im settled and he has prooved he is gonna stick around. His family are just like him so tbh i dont really want them around much- they wont be anyway as their in london! But when shes older if she wants to find them ill help her.

Men are just arse's, i always end up with the assholes, didnt think id fall pregnant to one tho!

The FOB wont even be up in time to be on it anyway as i only have 21 days and he prob wont come till end of feb, and ill be induced at term if shes not on her way due to other things. So its fate!