Daft questions re bd ing

[Bubba3]

Hi girls sorry more ques ,when or how soon after the witch has gone do you get busy . I'm day 7 and feeling that I don't want to miss opportunities but also don't want to be worn out for the really crucial days
Also when temping what should o look like . Thanks so much

 

[dachsundmom]

Hi girls sorry more ques ,when or how soon after the witch has gone do you get busy . I'm day 7 and feeling that I don't want to miss opportunities but also don't want to be worn out for the really crucial days
Also when temping what should o look like . Thanks so much

This is a really interesting question, thank you for posting! DH has a normal sperm count, so we do it whenever we feel like it & I get a little more particular around O time. The only request that DH has made was that we not turn our sex life into a completely scheduled affair.

Although it kind of is; he just doesn't realize it, lol.

 

[NorthStar]

Hi girls sorry more ques ,when or how soon after the witch has gone do you get busy . I'm day 7 and feeling that I don't want to miss opportunities but also don't want to be worn out for the really crucial days
Also when temping what should o look like . Thanks so much

The only request that DH has made was that we not turn our sex life into a completely scheduled affair.

Although it kind of is; he just doesn't realize it, lol.

Good one. My AF goes for 7 days (though my mobile phone app insists that it's only 5 days!) the last 2 are pretty light, so I'm not that inclined to BD on CD6/7 unless I'm gagging for it.

But I ov pretty early (CD10-12) so CD8 sounds about right to start getting busy, one thing is for sure, you can't be ov-ing whilst you are still bleeding

(Cue someone to join this thread with some freak medical story about how you can have your period and ovulate simultaneously....)

 

[dachsundmom]

Hi girls sorry more ques ,when or how soon after the witch has gone do you get busy . I'm day 7 and feeling that I don't want to miss opportunities but also don't want to be worn out for the really crucial days
Also when temping what should o look like . Thanks so much

The only request that DH has made was that we not turn our sex life into a completely scheduled affair.

Although it kind of is; he just doesn't realize it, lol.

Good one. My AF goes for 7 days (though my mobile phone app insists that it's only 5 days!) the last 2 are pretty light, so I'm not that inclined to BD on CD6/7 unless I'm gagging for it.

But I ov pretty early (CD10-12) so CD8 sounds about right to start getting busy, one thing is for sure, you can't be ov-ing whilst you are still bleeding

(Cue someone to join this thread with some freak medical story about how you can have your period and ovulate simultaneously....)

Oh, don't you worry, the story will follow shortly! Not only that, it'll also be a brother's, sister's, uncle daddy, second cousin once removed, who had her period for the entire 10 months!

 

[Indigo77]

Wiggle when u're wet is my philosophy on when to start BDing.
For O, some lucky women will get a temp dip on OD and then a sustained temp rise. You r looking for an overall biphasic pattern.

How long r u're cycles? If, for example, they are the standard 28 days, and u guess that O day is around CD 14, you want to start BDing every other day, 6 days b4 predicted OD. Once you get a positive OPK, u BD every day until your temp rise (confirmed ovulation). So, would start BDing on CD8...

 

[Macwooly]

Bubba have a look at my chart as I am one of the lucky women Indigo talks about who got a temp dip and then ovulated the next day (click the link in my signature).

My DH has a low sperm count so apparently we should stick to BDing every other day but we just do it when in the mood but I couldn't imagine doing it during AF

And by the way no question is ever a daft question

 

[Indigo77]

Bubba have a look at my chart as I am one of the lucky women Indigo talks about who got a temp dip and then ovulated the next day (click the link in my signature).

My DH has a low sperm count so apparently we should stick to BDing every other day but we just do it when in the mood but I couldn't imagine doing it during AF

And by the way no question is ever a daft question

If we used Wooly's chart as an example...u would want to BD on CD6, 8, 10, 11, 12....

 

[Bubba3]

massive to all of you Thanks so much . I had to laugh at the cue medical marvel story , how true is that. Internets full of them !
I'm at the stage where even though hubby knows were trying hard ( tests and specialists etc ) I'm trying to keep this spontaneous , or so he thinks . I think this is okay for now but I can understand long long term ttc must be so tough on this score. It's hard those times when your tired or not in the mood , I'm lucky my hubby , like cost men is always in the mood it's only been 8 months but at times still feels a bit of an effort , isn't that terrible to admit . Us girls are just more cerebral at times. Because the ttc is so important it has kind of taken over my mind , whilst I'm trying to be super cool about it too
Thanks again girls , I'd be lost with this place

 

[Indigo77]

I know what u mean about not being in the mood...but there is some inspiration now in Wendy's June thread.

 

[Bubba3]

Brilliant , so in the mood now thanks for the tip off .
Don't get me wrong my hubby is super sexy , just need to turn off the ttc bit of brain and simply enjoy .

 

[Desperado167]

Hi bubba,last month I bd the six days leading up to ovulation, the day of o and the next two days as well,dh and I were completely exhausted but I got my bfpGood luck Hun,xxxxxx

 

[Bubba3]

Thanks desperado . My hubby will love you forever

 

[readyformore]

Hi girls sorry more ques ,when or how soon after the witch has gone do you get busy . I'm day 7 and feeling that I don't want to miss opportunities but also don't want to be worn out for the really crucial days
Also when temping what should o look like . Thanks so much

This is a really interesting question, thank you for posting! DH has a normal sperm count, so we do it whenever we feel like it & I get a little more particular around O time. The only request that DH has made was that we not turn our sex life into a completely scheduled affair.

Although it kind of is; he just doesn't realize it, lol.

Exactly us here too!

DH has a normal/great count. But, we found that with daily bd his count drops. So we bd every other day while in my fertile phase.
But like daschundmom, I'm not sure if he knows it or not, lol!
When not fertile, we bd when we want which really helps keep the stress out of ttc. Sometimes it's 4 times in 2 days, then nothing for 5 days straight. It doesn't matter to me unless I'm ovulating. I just start to pay attention when I notice ewcm. That happens for me about 5 days prior to O, so I have plenty of time to 'plan'.

 

[Indigo77]

DH has a normal/great count. But, we found that with daily bd his count drops. So we bd every other day while in my fertile phase.

I just read an article about this....It seems that FSs have been changing their recommendation protocol to this....for normal SA....every other day...but that there has been an information lag...

 

[readyformore]

DH has a normal/great count. But, we found that with daily bd his count drops. So we bd every other day while in my fertile phase.

I just read an article about this....It seems that FSs have been changing their recommendation protocol to this....for normal SA....every other day...but that there has been an information lag...

It's possible. 9 years ago, our FS said DH has a great count and "There is no such thing as too much sex. You may have a fewer number of sperm, but they will be gold medal swimmers." We took it to heart and bd for 7 days straight. His count went into the toilet (like infertile toilet).
We noticed that when we did our IUI (which was 3 days straight) the first day had the best count, and each day got progressively lower and lower.
I've NEVER gotten pregnant from daily bd (and I've ttc a total of 39 months in my life). So, yeah, I could tell even 9 years ago how you can have too much of a good thing, lol!!!

I've conceived from: abstain for 3 days and IUI once.
BD once in 2 weeks!!!!
And bd every other day-last time 24 hours prior to ov.

 

[Indigo77]

Ok...very good to know..our initial new plan was cds 13 (yesterday) 15 and 17 18 19 (predicted OD)...but then I was feeling like we just should keep going without skipping because my OPKs are getting darker...it just feels strange to skip...but now, after reading the article and reading what you wrote, I thing we will just try every other day...13 15 17 19....I have a feeling the LH surge will come tomorrow (cd 15)...

 

[readyformore]

Ok...very good to know..our initial new plan was cds 13 (yesterday) 15 and 17 18 19 (predicted OD)...but then I was feeling like we just should keep going without skipping because my OPKs are getting darker...it just feels strange to skip...but now, after reading the article and reading what you wrote, I thing we will just try every other day...13 15 17 19....I have a feeling the LH surge will come tomorrow (cd 15)...

Honestly, I think that the only timing that counts is getting the last day of ewcm prior to ov. If you've ever read "Taking Charge Of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler, she specifically says that this day is the most important. Yes, sperm can live in the ewcm for days, but getting the last day gives you the best chances, and I'm about 90% sure that this is when I conceived all of my kids.

(I have to add that I really wish I didn't know all of this crap! What ever happened to just having crazy wild sex and missing a period? Sheesh!)

I've done every 24, 36, and 48 hours for 11 cycles and nothing.
This time (of course I have a plan that DH doesn't know about, lol) I'm honestly going to abstain until the second day of my ewcm. I usually have watery cm for 2-3 days and then 2 days of ewcm. It sounds crazy, but I'm going for a one time shot. I'm working toward that last day.

I hope your plan works out for you Indigo!

 

[dachsundmom]

Ok...very good to know..our initial new plan was cds 13 (yesterday) 15 and 17 18 19 (predicted OD)...but then I was feeling like we just should keep going without skipping because my OPKs are getting darker...it just feels strange to skip...but now, after reading the article and reading what you wrote, I thing we will just try every other day...13 15 17 19....I have a feeling the LH surge will come tomorrow (cd 15)...

Honestly, I think that the only timing that counts is getting the last day of ewcm prior to ov. If you've ever read "Taking Charge Of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler, she specifically says that this day is the most important. Yes, sperm can live in the ewcm for days, but getting the last day gives you the best chances, and I'm about 90% sure that this is when I conceived all of my kids.

(I have to add that I really wish I didn't know all of this crap! What ever happened to just having crazy wild sex and missing a period? Sheesh!)

I've done every 24, 36, and 48 hours for 11 cycles and nothing.
This time (of course I have a plan that DH doesn't know about, lol) I'm honestly going to abstain until the second day of my ewcm. I usually have watery cm for 2-3 days and then 2 days of ewcm. It sounds crazy, but I'm going for a one time shot. I'm working toward that last day.

I hope your plan works out for you Indigo!

Lol. To the best of my knowledge, I have never had EWCM; maybe something close, but never the real deal. Clomid made it even worse for me and I refuse to ever use Preseed again.

 

[Indigo77]

Yep, read the book and also noted the following from FF....
https://www.fertilityfriend.com/Faqs/Intercourse-Timing-and-Frequency.html

For the first 3 cycles, we waited for the first positive OPK, and BDed until the day after OD...3-5 times in a row for each cycle...Every time I get a BFN, though, I feel the need to do something different for the next cycle for some reason...so....we'll give this every other day thing a shot to see what happens....

I don't get the EWCM either...I am either dry or wet...

 

[Bubba3]

Thanks so much girls , it's amazing how tough this can be . Great info . I've never ever had ewcm but this cycle I tried hard to see if a few changes made any difference. I've been drinking grapefruit juice like crazy , green tea twice a day and royal jelly , last night lo and behold the first time I've had ewcm . Xiuld all ne a coincidence or that I'm drinking more , I'm terrible for not drinking enough and live in a hot place so its possible I'm just hydrated better. Wishing everyone buckets of baby dust
Glad I'm not the only one who's hubby doesn't really know my bd plans